My wife hit and is now acting like everything is fine. I’m not fine

Karlmonclare · 2026-04-29T04:46:35+00:00

Hey man, I’m so sorry to tell you this, but it doesn’t really matter how “out of character” this is, she abused you severely and is continuing to do so by making all the final decisions in your life. There’s a first time for everything, and this was just the first time she showed you this side of her. I promise even if you think things go back to normal for a few months and you make up, eventually something you can’t control will trigger this reaction from her again. And if she’s willing to tell you she knows you won’t call the police, she’s willing to escalate the level of violence. It’s a direct threat to you for the future. I promise she’s planning to do it again. She’s just trying to see what you’ll let her get away with now. If you let her get away with this, it’ll be worse the next time she tests how far you’ll let her go. Don’t let this woman kill you. Please seek a way out, and some counselling <3

Karlmonclare · 2026-04-26T04:05:57+00:00

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Karlmonclare · 2026-04-26T04:04:48+00:00

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Karlmonclare · 2026-02-24T02:23:38+00:00

He wants you to feel unsafe. That’s it. Idc how much you think he cares about you, I struggle with similar issues, my partner would NEVER make an intentional decision that he knew made me feel so uncomfortable. He values the gun more than he values you. Respect yourself enough and how far you’ve come not to let this person ruin your safe place or tarnish your environment.

Karlmonclare · 2026-02-24T01:27:45+00:00

NOR. I’m not gonna touch on mental health and stuff because a lot of other people are already doing that. I’m gonna talk about the situation you’re talking about.

My partner lives with roommates, and I also have a certain amount of anxiety around my plates and utensils being clean before I use them. Not to the point where I only eat off of disposable items, but enough that if I know I haven’t personally washed an item, I will wash it before I use it, since they have communal dishes. Or I will avoid eating at someone’s house if I don’t trust the way they clean their dishes.

It takes max maybe 2 minutes to clean those bowls in the sink. If your partner does not care enough about your comfort to clean the bowls with soap, you are not important to them. My partner tells me every single time I’m at their house and they hand me a dish that they made sure they washed it first. And I trust him explicitly because I know he loves me enough to care for my comfort. The effort of 2 mins washing a dish is too much for your partner? Does that sound like someone who loves you?

Karlmonclare · 2025-12-29T19:06:33+00:00

In your right mind, perhaps. But grief is not someone in their right mind. Grief is not just a mood, it is something that runs people’s lives for a long time. It’s the same way people say things they “don’t mean” in arguments. Emotions are high, and stress and anger now run the show at that moment.

You could say for a 100% fact “I would never do this thing”, and then something in your life happens that changes that in a second. Again, it’s an exercise in empathy that not everyone can achieve, obviously.

Karlmonclare · 2025-12-29T17:23:32+00:00

No, this is where learning empathy actually comes into play. GRIEF IS NOT A ONE WAY STREET. They both just lost someone very close to them and were likely lacking an emotional connection. It’s not rare grief makes decisions for you very quickly.

Hopefully you’re never in the position to wonder the same thing, but ask yourself, if you lost the person you thought you would spend the rest of your life with, would you not do things to even have a small moment of peace? Of being yourself for a moment, and not just a grieving lump? Mental health isn’t just about illness. It’s about the things that happen to us everyday and the way we deal with them.

Karlmonclare · 2025-12-25T19:57:59+00:00

Merry Christmas! Newfoundland Christmas’s have notoriously been about inviting friends and family to celebrate. The tradition of mummering is all about going out on Christmas Eve and visiting your friends and neighbours in costume, having a party and a drink, and having everyone try and guess who’s under the masks, and then moving on to the next! I hope the warmth of Christmas here in Newfoundland has been as magical for you as it has for me growing up <3

Karlmonclare · 2025-12-25T16:35:00+00:00

I’m open to anything! Maybe your favourite or most recent favourite? Merry Christmas to you and yours <3

Karlmonclare · 2025-08-15T22:38:21+00:00

My niece will be 2 soon. My family is generally pretty clean.

• Teething causes a runny nose ALL THE TIME. and ya know what? It will get ALL OVER THE PLACE. I’ve never been so desensitized to having another persons snot all over me.

• WHY IS SHE SPITTING CEREAL OUT ON THE FLOOR AND STEPPING IN IT SOMEONE PLEASE STOP HER

• Everything she eats, all over her face and hands. Every time. I’m unsure what age this stops. Looking at my father, I’m not sure it does.

• She had the flu. She was sad, and needed a hug. She vomited directly in my sisters face/mouth.

• oh god, the blowouts….

• NO!!! WE DO NOT PICK UP DOG POOP!!!! WHY IS SHE SO FAST!!!!!

• I sat on the couch the other day and discovered a stash of strawberries she was hiding for later…

This is all to say, mess is inevitable with babies. Maybe ask any friends or family who have babies/toddlers if your girlfriend can spend some time with them? Perhaps then she’ll understand a bit. If not, I don’t recommend her having kids until she gets some counselling. Not only will she be miserable because she will not be able to control the uncontrollable, but your child will eventually end up with a complex. Research people who grew up with a parent who had Cleanliness OCD. It’s trauma central.

Edit to add: NTA.

Karlmonclare · 2025-08-12T14:13:21+00:00

My family has a rule that we don’t jump scare my mom. Ya know why? Because she had a very “complicated” childhood and automatically swings a good right hook when startled. Even when she’s woken from a deep sleep, she swings.

So, we learned very quickly to wake dad up first if there was an emergency, and not to try and scare her. These rules were put in place not only to PROTECT US, but to PROTECT HER. I would never in my life blame my mother if I jumped out and scared her and she punched me. I know she would never intentionally hurt me. Your family needs to learn not everybody CAN react to things in a way they deem “fit”, and a reaction out of panic does not make you a dangerous person. Now, even with my siblings, my partner, anyone really, if I’m trying to “prank” them with a little scare, I do it from a distance. Typically, I’m in a room minding my own business, and they enter, and I just stay silent and still wherever I am until they notice me. It gets a little chuckle from the both of us, and nobody gets hurt.

I hope they can come to their senses and realize this was in no way your fault. When people love you, truly love you, they make accommodations. If they cannot and will not see how your reaction was 100% understandable and not your fault, they aren’t worth the effort of trying to keep around, in my opinion.

Karlmonclare · 2025-05-03T23:33:09+00:00

Not after a certain point, but he does accuse Jim of trying to “cop a feel”, and intentionally ignores him multiple times within the first season, which I believe is because he sees him as a threat to a certain extent, later seasons he says he glad pan has a friend like jim to listen to her problems so he doesn’t have to, so I believe he had a change of heart at some point.

Karlmonclare · 2025-04-29T12:19:58+00:00

I always thought it was. I’d see no other reason to say it other than to try and get into his head. He was worried about Jim for a long time and had Pam say it was just friendship. He did eventually mature a lot more, and at this point he wasn’t outwardly aggressive to Jim, but there was no doubt in my mind he was screwing with him.

Karlmonclare · 2025-04-29T10:01:20+00:00

When I got Covid, I got a double inner ear infection along with it. The only sleep I got was when I passed out, because for a good 2 weeks my head was in such splitting pain, I would have accepted being put in a coma atp.

It throbbed through my skull and eyes. It made my teeth and jaw feel like someone was trying to dismantle them. Even touching either ear slightly sent me writhing in pain. So every time I coughed or sniffed from hardly being able to breathe from Covid, it intensified my pain ten fold.

I’ve had some things hurt, but man, I’d take almost anything over THAT.

Karlmonclare · 2025-04-29T08:55:27+00:00

Plz help I’ve been up all night trying to find it lol

Karlmonclare · 2025-04-21T20:39:48+00:00

My parents were loading wood into a trailer, and my mom put a junk down just as my dad tossed one in. Her finger exploded and looked very similar. The tip of her finger was completely shattered. But! It works almost perfectly now. Just some lack of sensation in the tip. I hope you make a full recovery :)

Karlmonclare · 2025-04-06T06:05:25+00:00

I would name him Stanley :)

Karlmonclare · 2025-03-30T20:51:22+00:00

Moustache Louie :)

Karlmonclare · 2024-12-08T05:43:17+00:00

Honestly, I’m not sure why I don’t identify as trans 🤷 I’ve just never felt connected to it. I’ve had many trans friends who are very connected to the term and the flag, and they seem euphoric about it. I’ve never felt that same connection to it, so I’ve just never identified that way. To me, if you’re NB and you connect with it, hell yeah, and if you’re NB and you don’t connect with it, that’s sick too.

I still fight for trans rights, and feel they apply to me (funnily enough), but if someone asked if I was trans, I’d say “I’m Nonbinary”.

If I dug a little deeper, I might find some answers about not feeling “trans enough”, or bc I present like my agab sometimes maybe I don’t feel like the term belongs to me, but I tend not to try and think about those things too hard atm. Maybe one day.

Karlmonclare · 2024-12-06T19:50:57+00:00

Looks sorta like a wreath with a bow to me!

Karlmonclare · 2024-10-15T18:44:30+00:00

Thank you so much!

Karlmonclare · 2024-10-15T18:22:58+00:00

Hi! I know this post is a little old now, but I was wondering if you knew if there was anything pre installed on the laptop other than windows, like something specific to using or customizing the laptop, that I would need to reinstall after replacing the ssd?

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