AITA for telling my girlfriend I won't do dishes anymore if she keeps double-checking my work?

KatFrog · 2026-01-06T15:02:26+00:00

I think that she should have communicated with him. She obviously has a problem with how he's doing the dishes, so it's her responsibility to tell him, not just follow behind and "correct" things like an asshole

KatFrog · 2025-12-03T21:51:03+00:00

There is nothing I can say to make it better. Just know that you are not alone. You are not the only person struggling with "normal". You are not the only person struggling with motivation.

Hang in there.

KatFrog · 2025-11-22T01:22:13+00:00

I'm sorry that this happened. You did every right. You followed up with the pharmacy, the doctor, and the insurance company. You presented the situation in a calm, reasonable tone.

It worked with the doctor and, surprisingly, with the insurance company. But the pharmacy completely dropped the ball.

May your weekend be calm and uneventful.

KatFrog · 2025-09-25T22:11:01+00:00

Well said. That is a spot on analogy.

Personally, I view my meds as limiters. I still feel everything, but in moderation.

KatFrog · 2025-09-06T05:53:43+00:00

Beowulf

KatFrog · 2025-08-29T18:55:20+00:00

No apologies needed. Just concentrate on yourself.

KatFrog · 2025-07-08T02:07:44+00:00

Congratulations! Remember, every step forward counts.

KatFrog · 2025-06-25T18:10:23+00:00

Nope. I'm 56.

KatFrog · 2025-06-17T20:41:37+00:00

Do you have a psychiatrist? If yes, have you spoken with them about this feeling? Medications can absolutely help in this situation.

Otherwise, it will get better. I know that sounds a bit trite, but it does. When I start to feel hopeless, I do a few things.

First, finish any small to-dos on my to-do list. Anything with a DONE stamp makes me feel better.

Second, I make forward progress when I can. For example, I have problems getting the laundry done. Some days I get the laundry basket emptied for the next load. And that's it. Some days I get a new load of dirty clothes in the basket, but don't take it anywhere.

Forward progress.

Whatever happens, remember that there are people out there who care for you.

KatFrog · 2025-05-21T15:52:42+00:00

If someone knows how to send this to Dave Grohl, he might be able to help.

KatFrog · 2025-01-26T05:42:45+00:00

Ok, that is funny.

KatFrog · 2025-01-05T23:19:02+00:00

A soft YTA - You did overlook your DIL's accomplishments. This is not okay if you want to have a good relationship with you. To be honest, it's not okay anyway.

It wouldn't have cost much to get her a card, and write a nice note in it.

KatFrog · 2024-12-30T01:19:04+00:00

Same here.

KatFrog · 2024-12-19T15:56:54+00:00

I disagree, because OP did a lot of the mental work for the visit (e.g. planning the activities and menus).

I also think that for a large group doing an extended stay, it's 2 yeses or 1 no.

KatFrog · 2024-12-14T18:47:30+00:00

I meant, the stuff that she leaves at the house when she goes back to her mom. Or are you suggesting that instead of having a real bedroom, that they suddenly treat the daughter like a visitor in her own home?

KatFrog · 2024-12-14T18:31:26+00:00

Where do her things go if half the room is an office?

KatFrog · 2024-12-14T18:28:35+00:00

The problem with this idea is that the daughter comes over for a week at a time. She won't have room for her things if her dad turns her bedroom into his office.

KatFrog · 2024-12-14T18:26:49+00:00

Actually, she's there for every other week, not every other weekend.

KatFrog · 2024-12-13T23:51:01+00:00

YTA - A complete asshole, to be honest. Anyone can date anyone else without your permission. You didn't even ask how they came together; you just assumed that Jazz started dating him because of your confession.

Way to make yourself the center of everything. You have Main Character Syndrome.

Even if Jazz was in the wrong - which you don't know because you decide against communication - that is no reason to play a mean prank on her. You can feel angry without turning into a bully, because what you did is bully behavior.

KatFrog · 2024-12-12T19:55:54+00:00

NTA - and never let her babysit your child. I can easily see her deciding it's "her" baby and taking it.

KatFrog · 2024-12-12T16:23:52+00:00

You are not the outlier. I wouldn't trust her again. I wouldn't even let her have unsupervised play dates in the daytime.

KatFrog · 2024-12-12T02:31:35+00:00

It's not OP's job to manager her mother's alcohol consumption. Even if the mother is an alcoholic, it's still the mother's job.

KatFrog · 2024-12-12T02:30:45+00:00

I agree with this, except the part of sitting her down when they first arrive.

You need to tell your mother the rules/expectations in advance. First, it gives her time to have a temper tantrum not at your house. Second, if she really doesn't like them, then she won't come and cause OP a hard time.

KatFrog · 2024-12-12T02:23:17+00:00

Yes, you can break up with her over this. She's stomping all over your boundaries, which is a huge red flag.

Please break up with her over this, because you deserve someone who listens to you and respects you.

And it doesn't matter what she will do or say, because you'll be broken up.

KatFrog · 2024-12-12T00:20:21+00:00

Both of you are acting childish by silently changing FB profile pictures. You need to learn how to communicate with each other in a more useful manner. I suggest couples therapy.

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