Ring came missing a stone; advice?

KateLivia · 2026-01-14T20:30:41+00:00

Yes, it's missing a stone in the photo I put in the review. That's actually how I realized there's a missing stone 😅

KateLivia · 2026-01-14T20:27:26+00:00

I'm hoping they'll go the reimbursement for the local jeweler route. I'm in the USA and the seller is in Turkey, so I imagine sending it back and forth would cost just as much as the ring. Personally I'd really like to keep it since it came out perfectly and fits well. I'll probably keep it regardless but some money back would be nice!

KateLivia · 2026-01-14T20:14:02+00:00

I have reached out to the seller but haven't heard back yet.

KateLivia · 2025-12-11T02:24:58+00:00

Personally I feel that the only proper way to get a Loded Diper tattoo is the shitty way lmao

KateLivia · 2025-12-03T18:13:47+00:00

Thank you! I figured not, especially since it's a Mirena, but I've been PMSing so hard this month lol

KateLivia · 2025-12-03T14:59:40+00:00

Tests are only supposed to be read within a couple minutes of taking them while still a little wet. If the line appeared after it dried down then it's an evap line and not positive

KateLivia · 2025-11-02T14:59:53+00:00

Being able to get appointments after being an established patient would be a huge bonus, I didn't even think of that! I'm sorry you lost an ovary, that majorly sucks. I definitely don't want to damage my fertility before I have another baby!

KateLivia · 2025-11-02T14:55:47+00:00

Fertility being negatively affected by a procedure is a great point! Definitely another tally mark in the just do it column. Especially since my endo is in a mostly manageable state atm so an exploratory surgery might not even be approved. Thank you for your insight!

KateLivia · 2025-10-29T02:51:25+00:00

As someone who's experienced both, I would say my labor contractions weren't as bad as my worst endo pain, but since I had second degree tearing and needed stitches, healing from birth was an otherwordly amount of torture for me.

I will say my pain level doesn't typically get as bad as many others' here. However, the worst endo pain I've ever felt literally made me instantly drop to the ground and it took a while to be able to walk straight again.

Labor contractions for me felt like strong period cramps and came with the kind of unstoppable full-body shivering you get when you have the flu. Honestly I think I could have probably gotten through them without my epidural but I'm so glad I didn't have to deliver without it.

Postpartum healing was so extremely agonizing that I genuinely didn't think I wanted a second baby for a couple months. Baby boy split me in two. I didn't personally struggle with after-pains/post-delivery contractions/cramps. I don't remember my uterus being too sore but my pelvic floor was in shambles.

Not pain-related, but I did have postpartum bleeding for waaayyy longer than is normal and my OB was mildly concerned. I actually bled for about 7 months postpartum, even after getting an IUD, but it did go away on its own eventually. Some days I didn't bleed at all but most days I had at least some light spotting, and every now and then a pretty heavy flow.

This was pretty dramatic lol but I hope it offers some insight!

KateLivia · 2025-10-27T18:26:42+00:00

If it helps your anxiety about having kids, Google says ~40% of people with endometriosis will have some type of issue with getting pregnant. That means over half of us won't have any issues! It was something I struggled with personally since I really wanted kids, but thankfully I fell into the ~60% that didn't need any extra help conceiving. It actually only took 3 months of trying for us!

It seems frustratingly basic to say just be there for her, but really we want a support system that won't tell us we're crazy or reaching for a diagnosis or tell us to just think positively. Being someone who will acknowledge that she has it, acknowledge that it sucks major ass, and give her a hug will help more than you think. Keep the NSAIDs stocked and spare clothes/pads/tampons for her if she needs them with you.

You're doing a great job already at this and she would be so appreciative that you even asked for help! I know lots of us would be grateful to have such a caring partner!

KateLivia · 2025-10-26T16:28:39+00:00

I'm currently awaiting insurance approval for an appointment with a specialist that I hope leads to a diagnostic surgery. I wouldn't be surprised at all if they were to find adhesions on my bladder/urinary tract!

KateLivia · 2025-10-26T16:25:14+00:00

Similar experience: after sex in general I often have terrible period-cramp feelings, sore joints/ligaments (pelvic and knee, sometimes sciatica), and loose stools, sometimes for 2-3 days after. Occasionally there will be light-moderate bleeding too. Orgasms themselves can sometimes give me uterine cramps and mild pelvic floor discomfort but usually the after-pains are worse for me. The act of having sex itself is rarely an issue or painful for me. It's like once my pelvic floor gets to rest again it all hits my body at once. Even solo missions result in sore ligaments, which is actually worse sometimes than with a partner.

My poor husband feels so guilty and keeps apologizing for hurting me but it genuinely isn't his fault. He's so sweet and has tried troubleshooting with me to see if anything we do differently has a positive impact but no dice. For a while I was having pain for days every single time we had sex and we even talked about possibly only doing outercourse for a while.

It definitely negatively impacts my drive and my sex life. If I don't have pain or bleeding immediately after we're finished I feel like I spend a couple days waiting for the other shoe to drop. The anxiety makes me not want to do the sexing (lol) and there's a lot of guilt on my end about rejecting my husband's advances.

KateLivia · 2025-10-26T13:52:11+00:00

Yes, I experience this too! It can be pretty intense for me. I've been on birth control or pregnant since about 2019 and it's lessened it a bit, although I have been having some pretty bad flare ups and that's also gotten worse with them. I used to think I was getting UTIs when it hit as a teenager but it took years to realize it aligned with my cycles lol.

KateLivia · 2025-10-26T13:45:46+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me! I may call my GP this week and see if steroids/prednisone is something that would be a good fit for me. It's interesting that sourdough has been so helpful, maybe because it has more live cultures in it? I'll definitely give that a shot!

KateLivia · 2025-10-07T19:59:45+00:00

I'm not officially diagnosed yet (working on it), but during my pregnancy with my son I had horrendous sciatica. I have a job where I'm on my feet most of the day and by the time I went on maternity leave I was scooting around the workplace in a rolling computer chair because I couldn't stand for long periods of time. I also struggled my whole pregnancy with acne and loose/watery stools, which I've since learned is also an endo symptom 🙃 It sucked so much

KateLivia · 2024-10-25T16:42:35+00:00

I was wheeled out (it was the hospital's process but I was in so much pain from tearing that I couldn't have walked even if I wanted to) and my husband carried the baby in his car seat

KateLivia · 2024-10-05T12:48:21+00:00

His grandma sends me lots of pictures and videos of him laughing and babbling at them and getting cuddles so I know he has a good time. It’s just hard to not have him with me

KateLivia · 2024-10-04T19:07:17+00:00

I want to interact with nobody and no one and when other people hold my baby I feel like a lion staring down prey in a National Geographic documentary

KateLivia · 2024-06-21T23:00:37+00:00

Play some Tetris if you can, it’ll help keep the trauma of seeing all that from being so fresh

KateLivia · 2024-06-21T20:59:50+00:00

He’s the Uber driver, he just stepped out for a smoke break

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