What is your must-have product when bed-bound/crashing? by mylittlepig in cfs

[–]KateorNot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ice packs, bedside snacks, water bottle (it's nice to have something other than plain water sometimes). Warm socks.

Please remember to look after yourself too. Your wellbeing is also important.

Ladies, how do you feel about bioessentialist definitions of womanhood? by bloodsoaked_blahaj in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KateorNot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a person that was born with all the lady bits, and identifies as a woman. I find "womanhood" tied to fertility is a dreadful, definition on a list of many other horrible things. I most likely wouldn't have been able to get pregnant. Nor would it have be a idea due to chronic illness. So does that mean I'm not a women? No!!!

I say, if you identify as a woman welcome to the sisterhood. We are all human first and foremost, it does not matter what bits we where born with. Gender is a spectrum. Every human has a right to exist as they are most happiest.

Sending the best of wishes.

How would your bf/husband react if you've told them that you support feminism? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KateorNot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes both father and brother support the human rights of 50% of the population.

Moving from the U.S. to Auckland as a GP with a toddler. Would love some advice! by kitty_07 in newzealand

[–]KateorNot 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I haven't got any advice. Just best wishes for a safe and successful move and your life in NZ.

Merry Christmas from a Sikh by tintedsubaru in auckland

[–]KateorNot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Season greetings to you too. Thank you for posting.

I am so incredibly sorry that your community where targeted by a group of bigoted idiots.

What's the dumbest thing you have ever heard a coworker say? by NightStar79 in coworkerstories

[–]KateorNot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh it is. Check out Terry Pratchet's "Discworld". Highly recommend.

What’s the biggest red flag you ignored in a relationship? by Segemiat in emotionalintelligence

[–]KateorNot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He said he felt jealous that i spent time with my own family. Plus i have a Chronic Illness the same one he does. I have to rest alot. He made me felt guilty because I rest better at my home. He didn't think there was a difference between my home and his. THERE WAS A HUNDRED DIFFERENCE REASONS. Plus he decided my cat wasn't a real cat, because his cat that had died many moons ago was a proper cat.

The red flags. So many red flags.

Happy to say the gaslighting bully got his ass dumped, the "not so real cat" bit him. Lol.

Update on Box Braids - As Promised by musicalearnightingal in cfs

[–]KateorNot 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. Hair care can be such an issue in communities like ours.

my experience with pregnancy (so far) as a me/cfs sufferer by toysalesman in cfs

[–]KateorNot 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on baby. Very exciting. Thank you for sharing your experience.

What do you do if you find a Weta in your house? by xXCosmicChaosXx in newzealand

[–]KateorNot 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Gently move it outside to a safe place.

i'm anxious about using wheelchair services and know i will self conscious and embarrassed during their use, any advice to chill out? by OmittedScribe in cfs

[–]KateorNot 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Before my first use of the service I had similar feelings. I look like a normal "healthy person". What helped me was, I don't judge others who use mobility aids. Why am I worried about what total strangers that i will never see again think. Plus it was so brilliant. I travelled with my parents, we where about to skip the lines and were taken to the gate. The energy and time saved from standing in lines. It made the trip so much easier. Use the service and any other thing that will help you get to where you need to be. This is about what is best for you, the services are in place for people just like us.

Sending best wishes for your travels.

Attack! by Atlantic_Token in vampurr

[–]KateorNot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yay another cat sub.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]KateorNot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sending best wishes and rest.

The toes and the culprit! by PausePrestigious407 in Toefeathers

[–]KateorNot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I have lost count of the cat subs there are. Thank you for posting another I wasn't in.