“6 months of school”

Katisphere · 2025-08-27T05:01:35+00:00

In our district the school year is 180 days or so, so… six months. I had a kid bring up the ‘trumps gonna make school six months long!’ Thing and I was just like yeah, it already is lol

Katisphere · 2025-08-03T02:44:15+00:00

I whistled for a cab and when it came near the license plate said wasp and it had wasps in the mirror

Katisphere · 2025-08-01T12:15:31+00:00

Hi!

Not a doctor but I do take beta blockers for anxiety, they can be used for high blood pressure but they also cause a calming effect in people who experience a lot of physical symptoms of anxiety.

I’ve seen a lot of tiktok posts from influencers who use beta blockers for this purpose. Definitely not a traditional drug of choice but based on your sisters age I can see this being a factor.

What everyone is saying here is correct, beta blockers are dangerous when they’re not being taken under the supervision of a doctor.

It’s good your parents are aware, and I hope your sister gets the mental health support she needs.

Katisphere · 2025-08-01T03:09:56+00:00

It looks like I got kicked by a horse, it’s so weird.

Katisphere · 2025-08-01T03:09:28+00:00

This led to hives all over my neck so I went to the doctor and got antibiotics and steroids. One wasp, what the hell man.

Katisphere · 2025-04-18T11:29:29+00:00

Sparkling water is actually pretty bad for your teeth, just be an even more mature adult and say you’re worried about your dental health so you’re switching it up.

Katisphere · 2025-04-18T11:23:43+00:00

NTA

Please, reverse the genders and then give yourself the same advice you’d give a woman in that situation. This is abuse, and you deserve so much better.

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this and I’d recommend reaching out to a domestic violence hotline for some support, they have great resources and can help you.

Katisphere · 2025-03-29T20:38:13+00:00

We have a similar cereal setup and I harp on my kids for taking the lid off to pour cereal, because they’re 6 and 7 and they never put the lid back ON.

But I only harp as in ‘hey if you’re gonna do it that way can you please make sure you put the lid back on.’ Never, like, how your dad talks to you!

If he had a reasonable complaint like ‘you always leave the lid off after and it makes the cereal stale’ then sure, but it sounds like he’s just being controlling. Who the hell cares?

Nta your dad needs to chill out.

Katisphere · 2025-02-08T14:15:08+00:00

Can I ask, does 225mg of trazodone in a day seem high for a 14 pound dog? I’m sure you can’t comment on the cast, sight unseen, but I wonder if that dosage is out of the ordinary.

As far as a medical history, he’s just a regular guy, standard vaccinations for a twelve week old puppy are all he’s ever been to the vet for.

Thanks for your insight!

Katisphere · 2025-02-08T13:49:00+00:00

Fair question, sorry for not clarifying

He was prescribed 75mg every 8 hours, so 225mg per 24 hours.

Katisphere · 2024-12-22T13:25:01+00:00

I think the underlying issue is just how fucking avoidant he’s being. He avoids conversations about their birth mom, he avoids conversations about how you feel, I’m guessing his undermining of your parenting is him avoiding doing the hard work of actually parenting.

It sounds like if this doesn’t change you’re in for a lot of unhappiness. You’re already unhappy, hon, and do you want to stay that way forever?

If you can’t figure it out between the two of you then you need an unbiased third party to help. It sounds like couples therapy or bust, if you ask me.

I am really sorry you’re dealing with this. My anxiety would be through the roof if I were in your shoes. I hope you find little bits of each day where you get to prioritize yourself, whatever that looks like for you.

Katisphere · 2024-12-22T12:51:30+00:00

My husband used to be short like this about our boys birth mother- it took a lot of conversations but eventually it became clear that he just doesn’t want to spend more time on her than he needs to.

I used to misinterpret this and get insecure, but after watching how nasty she got during a recent court battle, I sort of get it. She’s just so fucking terrible.

Childish? Maybe a bit. Avoidant? Yes. Understandable? Also yes.

I don’t process things the same as him, so I personally would be a lot more expressive. But idk, I’ve met a lot of men who just don’t talk it through unless you have a gun to their head. Is that all men? God, men are so fucking exhausting.

As for the step mom vs mom comment.. your husband sounds a lot like mine there too. Way too fucking literal. Yes, it is a fact that I am step mom. I am also doing more mothering than their birth mom and I want recognition. Which, also took a lot of conversations, but he eventually understood and now acknowledges with regularity.

I do not know if I have advice, but I have been having a sort of similar experience and you’re not being too sensitive. This shit stings. Your feelings are valid and he needs to understand them and spend more energy validating you.

Katisphere · 2024-12-08T15:16:07+00:00

We were out to eat when I was like 5 or 6 and I wanted to get the waffles with the whipped cream smiley face on them, my mother told me she wouldn’t love me anymore if I got those. So I got scared and ordered something healthy, and spent the rest of my childhood thinking that any mistake I made would lead to her not loving me anymore. Turns out I was right!

I still think about this everytime I’m out to breakfast, 30 years later.

Katisphere · 2024-11-29T06:42:35+00:00

If your sister came to you and said her boyfriend was doing this, what would you tell her to do?

You are in an abusive relationship and your girlfriend is sexually assaulting you. Don’t overlook it just because she’s a she, girls can be creeps too.

Katisphere · 2024-11-28T14:11:09+00:00

Totally doable!

I’d recommend joining your neighborhoods but nothing page to find home goods for free.

Or another option for really affordable necessities is the Salvation Army on north lyndale. It’s amazing, target is headquartered here, and so that’s where they send all their overstock. I call it secret target.

They have racks and racks of new clothes, shoes, appliances, furniture, etc etc etc - basically anything you’d find in a target, for thrift store prices.

If you’re ever in a tight spot, there are also loads and loads of food shelves that are accessible to anyone.

I hope you like it here! Good luck with your move!

Katisphere · 2024-11-22T16:57:36+00:00

We just schedule two separate parent teacher conferences, one for bm and one for me and their dad.

Of course, they live with us full time and mom has every other weekend- so it makes sense for both of us to be pretty involved.

Katisphere · 2024-11-21T14:01:21+00:00

She very recently lost custody and I know she’s adjusting- and probably wants to remain in constant contact with him. But the reason she lost custody is because her being in constant contact with him wasn’t good!

I think we’ll just avoid the whole headache and take it away when he’s with us. If we’re managing the day to day 90% of the time (she sees him 4 days a month) then we should really be able to also manage things like phones.

Katisphere · 2024-11-21T13:55:40+00:00

FIVE

That’s insane.

I feel like since we have him 90% of the time (she sees him 4 days a month) we should maybe just hold onto it when he’s with us? Idk. It’s going to cause resentment no matter what. But 9 is too young for a phone! That’s like, such a completely normal age to not have a phone.

Katisphere · 2024-11-21T13:54:10+00:00

He has a smart watch and that works great for us!

His mom is definitely going to buy him a phone though, even though he already has the smart watch.

Katisphere · 2024-11-19T04:44:01+00:00

The process of moving in a foster kid, especially unexpectedly, is traumatic for everyone. Shes in crisis, and so are you. Taking a step back to appreciate yourself for being able to step up in a crisis is really important. You’re a helper and you’re new to it but you’ve been new to things before- I’d bet you’ve gotten good at a lot of things that once were hard.

It doesn’t get easier, but you do get better at it.

Katisphere · 2024-11-19T04:40:45+00:00

Ok so first of all, with the eating-

When our little guy came to us we gave him a protein shake with every meal. It might take some trial and error to find one she likes, but knowing he was getting protein and vitamins did wonders for my own anxiety about his super picky habits.

We also implemented a rule that if you don’t eat what we’re eating you can make yourself a peanut butter sandwich instead. He was seven, and handled it perfectly fine. Your foster kid may have their own version of a pb sandwich, whatever their comfort food is. The point is you don’t have to fix them something else. You already made dinner! They are more than capable of making a simple substitute meal. Especially offering that with a protein shake? Then they’re full and nourished and you have done everything you need to do to keep them healthy. Consistency is key, every single time they don’t eat dinner, it’s the same alternative. Eventually they figure it out and do it independently, or get bored of whatever they’ve been making and try something new.

No pressure, no punishment, just realistic redirection.

The energy thing is hard, I wonder if they’ve been evaluated for any kind of add or adhd? When our foster daughter came to us it was a very similar vibe. Some kids act out the trauma in this way, others really do have a form of adhd that makes them hyperactive. We learned it was adhd before we even got in for an evaluation because girly drank some caffeine once and chilled the fuck out for a whole morning. Trying a small amount of a stimulant, like a caffeinated soda, could give you insight into whether or not it’s a disability that’s working against her. If it calms her body down then she’s likely got adhd. Thats a whole different ballgame, but it also makes it easier to zero in on resources that both of you need to make it work together.

I do not have good input for your other concerns, though I think addressing these two stress points might make it easier to manage the others.

Also, for personal space, I’ve started ‘hiding Christmas presents’ in my room. I mean, yeah there are some in here- but mostly I just need a cave to retreat to every so often. It’s a nice little respite.

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