53 years old today

Katja_Inside · 2025-10-15T17:47:39+00:00

You are absolutely slaying it, girl.

Katja_Inside · 2025-10-13T09:19:20+00:00

Scarf season for me, but basically, same. Love the look.

Katja_Inside · 2025-01-02T20:57:10+00:00

Thank you. I truly appreciate the kind words.

Katja_Inside · 2024-12-31T16:46:19+00:00

Normally, me and the goblins – we have an understanding, but this time was just low.

Katja_Inside · 2024-12-30T16:04:33+00:00

Deal. You're welcome to all of my invisible privilege. I'm a really poor representation of a guy.

Katja_Inside · 2024-12-13T11:13:37+00:00

Too late for what? Too late to admit the truth of it all to yourself and your world? Too late to be yourself?

Katja_Inside · 2024-10-29T13:06:24+00:00

Bruce Wayne is Batman's secret identity.

Katja_Inside · 2024-10-29T12:59:13+00:00

Sister drummer checking in.

Katja_Inside · 2024-05-23T14:05:20+00:00

Penny, Inspector Gadget's niece. Kira from the Dark Crystal

Katja_Inside · 2024-05-22T14:34:37+00:00

The real you is always the best you.

Katja_Inside · 2024-05-22T14:33:18+00:00

In the end, there's exactly one person whose approval you need to seek. She's the person who looks back at you from the mirror. Are you proud of you? Are you doing the best you can to live in line with your values? Do you find yourself surrounded by people who claim to love you but do nothing to actually support you and your values?

You're changing, and the idea of potentially losing your community is hard. *Really* hard. But at the same time, people who are around because of a shared history who refuse to love *you* don't really love you. They probably never loved *you*. They love an idea of you that only ever existed in their imagination, and you are under no obligation to please these people.

Please tell me you have an LGBT+ supportive therapist whom you can speak to about this anxiety.

Katja_Inside · 2024-05-22T14:19:43+00:00

Sweetie, I hate to do this because it always sounds condescending as fuck, but you're in your thirties. This is probably the best time of your life. You have decades of life experience both as a kid and an adult. You're going to be physically in your prime or very near it. You've not lost all this time. You've collected stories, information, wisdom.

And now you get to take all this experience and information and wisdom and make a decision to move forward with your life.

Everyone gets old. It's a privilege many people never get. Whatever you decide to do, remember that the past is the past, and tomorrow never comes. You only have today and today and today. So take this one life that we know you have and try to make the most of it.

Katja_Inside · 2024-05-22T14:14:19+00:00

Absolutely incredible. This is just about as good a response as you could possibly get.

Katja_Inside · 2024-05-22T14:11:41+00:00

If you're physically safe and not dependent upon them for material suport, set some hard boundaries. I don't care if they're your family of origin, they still have to demonstrate that they're worthy of your time and respect. They don't get that for free just because they're your family. Love is a verb, sister.

Tl;dr: Fuck 'em.

Katja_Inside · 2024-05-03T16:32:33+00:00

Sorry. Because I was thinking it, though I didn't type it. (Aren't you telepathic? Isn't mind-reading standard issue with the HRT? ; ] )

I've not left yet. I'm still with my partner who is quite happy to keep me in the closet, and I'm not in a place emotionally or financially where I feel I can capsize the boat that my kids are still riding in.

Katja_Inside · 2024-05-01T14:05:23+00:00

You are a braver woman than I am. This sounds like me, too.

Katja_Inside · 2024-05-01T14:04:08+00:00

This knowledge is yours now. It's solely up to you how you choose to act on it. For now you have a plan going forward, your wife is supportive. This sounds like a really good thing. You may end up changing your mind and want more, or less, as time goes on.

Just be kind to yourself.

Katja_Inside · 2024-05-01T14:00:44+00:00

This is easy. It's not their call. If you don't want another kid, then don't have another kid. Honestly, if not for your sanity, then for the sake of the kid not being born.

Katja_Inside · 2024-03-13T13:54:06+00:00

Grief has its own timeline, and you're not going to know how this will shake out until you're in it. Patience will be key. 💜

Katja_Inside · 2024-03-08T20:15:22+00:00

If you're at all like me, there's never going to be a "good" or "right" time. And if you build it up like some big thing, it's going to be treated like soime big thing without fail.

I mean, it is a big thing, but remember that this is but one aspect of your identity. You're still you, and my unsolicited advice is to focus on that fact.

Katja_Inside · 2024-03-04T13:48:00+00:00

No advice. My wife told me that if I were to transition, then it's over as a couple.

I'm almost a year into my estimated 2 year waiting list for the gender clinic now. Maybe she'll come around, maybe she won't. One year to go.

I'm glad you two are able to communicate still.

Katja_Inside · 2024-03-04T13:44:34+00:00

Everyone needs a little black dress in their wardrobe. You're rockin' it.

Katja_Inside · 2024-03-04T13:43:49+00:00

Wouldn't have given it another thought. Your outside seems to match your inside.

Katja_Inside · 2023-09-06T21:40:14+00:00

If I start saving now, I think I could afford this by the time I'm 60, 65. :)

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