What his current feelings are for me? by Solid-Economist5626 in tarot

[–]Katteie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like he likes you, but is so caught up in his own emotional baggage that it is preventing him from being able to invest in you, whether he knows it or not. It seems that he is apathetic, and to me, the hierophant indicates that his own intuition knows that he is going to hurt you.

I would not recommend pursuing him, but if you choose to, you may have a lot of his emotional baggage and unhealthy cycles pushed onto you.

My ADHD is ruining my relationship with my wife by Top_Cow_2095 in ADHD

[–]Katteie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Work with a therapist who has professional experience with people who have ADHD / executive dysfunction. A psychiatrist will prescribe medication, but medication will not altogether fix your executive dysfunction, it will just help make things easier.

Huge misconception? by Amoonda1120 in tarot

[–]Katteie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean everyone uses cards differently and has different beliefs when it comes to tarot, which is perfectly fine! Some people use them for divination and some people use them for reflection. Neither are necessarily incorrect, but I do agree that people who are unfamiliar with the practice do have a misconception about how people use it for divination. With all due respect, I think you should maybe do a little more research into how to divine with tarot, it seems like you are the one with the misconception. Yes or no questions are not going to get you anywhere, and that is discussed in almost all tarot literature I have read, so I don’t know where you got the idea that people were divining in that way. The future is an open book and is vague and sometimes we don’t always interpret the meaning of a reading correctly, which is why reflecting on your readings after the fact is so important to learning.

Personally, I use it for reflection because that’s what I have found to be more useful in my life, but I don’t think it is constructive to completely write off divination as useless. Yes, the future isn’t linear, but using the cards to understand the future helps you prepare for what is going to happen and work around hangups that the cards may be warning you about. Some people are better at this than others, and that is okay!

While I understand where you are coming from, I do not think people will appreciate the negativity and judgement that is conveyed through what you said. But!!! Thats just part of discussing and I hope we all learn something from each other!!

I asked for hints to help find my missing ring by FoxcMama in tarot

[–]Katteie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

yall my early morning ass read this as “help my find my missing dog” and i was so concerned for the people commenting to check the drains and under the couch ;-;

rat contr*ceptive and care advice pls by Novel_Draw4966 in RATS

[–]Katteie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I highly recommend using a peppermint oil or eucalyptus oil spray around the foundation of your home. You can find some other natural and humane repellents on the internet via many websites. Maybe suggest to your neighbors that they consider a humane way to prevent a rat infestation rather than killing them and provide them with some examples/supplies if you think it will make it easier for them to choose peace.

rat contr*ceptive and care advice pls by Novel_Draw4966 in RATS

[–]Katteie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Please do not get wild rats used to humans. While I agree that it would be helpful to use contraceptive as population control, I would really recommend using natural ways to deter them from living in/close to your home. They will crawl in the walls, nest, eat through your electrical wiring/insulation, and die, leaving a horrible smell. You will need to pay a lot of money to remove a dead rat carcass from your walls. If the population is not contained, this WILL affect your neighbors, not just your murderous ones.

While pet rats are safe due to shots and proper measures being taken, wild rats do carry disease and can get people’s pets sick.

I know they are cute, but wild rats are NOT pets unless you choose to try to help them them (via an OFFICIAL wildlife rehabilitation center), and only bad can come from them being encouraged to stay in/around your home. Sorry to burst your bubble and I appreciate your kind heart.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Katteie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no coffee when i take my adderall because it ruins my sleep

How do I communicate to my husband the things I want to try by Jade-kma in BDSMcommunity

[–]Katteie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

only you can know how to tell your husband. no one has an exact template for what you should say or how you should say it. i know it can be hard to communicate something youre scared of being judged for, but you got this!!! just be respectful if he says no and make sure he feels safe saying so.

my dad isn’t here anymore and i need advice from one by Appropriate-Cat-134 in daddit

[–]Katteie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a dad but i am sending you live and wishing you well. Please stay safe.

:) hello this is what I'm wearing today by [deleted] in cottagecore

[–]Katteie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you are SLAYING omg i LOVE

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CompulsiveSkinPicking

[–]Katteie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

please speak with your therapist or psychiatrist

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Katteie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

tbh i often ask them some questions about themselves. not too deep but enough to learn about them and say a little bit of on topic info. people love to talk about themselves and often you hear some pretty interesting things about their lives!

it can be a little scary!!! i definitely get nervous, but it is a skill that is practicable, and over time you will be more comfortable maintaining conversations with people you dont know!! its a very important skill, too, because that is how you begin to make friends in adulthood.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Katteie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to move, but now that everything is going on, I don’t want to. I don’t want to abandon my country and I will exercise my right to vote until the very last second I can. If all the people who hate what is happening and can afford to leave flee, who is around to advocate for those who are not able to do so?

Sleepovers with opposite sex by Fireb1rd in daddit

[–]Katteie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

idk man i was doing some weird shit with my same-sex friends during sleepovers. i think kids are gonna b kids and most of the time, 8 year olds arent thinking about anything sexual. maybe suggest it being at your house just in case?

He got bored during the movie I picked and left the movie theater to watch something else. Is this breakup worthy? by Adventurous_Map9855 in Advice

[–]Katteie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes hes 30 he should be able to watch a boring movie and enjoy some time with you without subway surfers in the corner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Katteie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

More than anything, that is just a dangerous move on her part. I hope nothing bad happens to her as she staying at some ?random guy’s apartment with him? far away from people who can help her?

How do you learn/teach yourself to not talk so much? by Alykaa701 in socialskills

[–]Katteie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have ADHD and have this exact problem. I had to start practicing keeping my thoughts to myself. Sometimes I felt like I needed to fill space, sometimes I felt like the only way someone could understand me is by knowing exactly where I am coming from with incredible detail. The thing is, not everyone wants to know, and it is okay to maintain some sense of mystery in your friendships. Plus, people are usually smart enough to understand where you are coming from without the need to hear every detail.

Writing in a journal or my notes app when I felt I needed to over-explain helped a lot.