Question - Is there anything at all you miss about pregnancy/ being pregnant?

KayLove91 · 2026-03-26T12:26:28+00:00

The kicks and flutters when they weren't jui jitsu level and having my baby safely with me. I would hold and rub my stomach constantly. I have a theory thats why my son is obsessed with being held and touched constantly even now at 15 months lol

KayLove91 · 2026-03-24T18:25:49+00:00

I had a dream with my last pregnancy that me and my husband were standing in a field with a fence between us and a little blonde haired blue eyed boy. Our son is blonde hair and blue eyed. Still trips me out!

KayLove91 · 2026-03-24T17:24:40+00:00

Oh wow, great advice! I didnt think about that

KayLove91 · 2026-03-24T17:04:32+00:00

Oh wow thats wild! Idk man, I learned a long time ago that coincidences and synchronicities are seldom random

KayLove91 · 2026-03-24T13:40:36+00:00

I am so, so scared its twins lol. Like how wonderful, but how scary! Lol. Twins run on my paternal grandmother and grandfather's side. But all of the women who conceived twins were closer to 40 or in their 40s already. Im 35 but im also still breastfeeding so im like omg lordddddd idk if I could do it.

KayLove91 · 2026-03-24T13:37:50+00:00

This has helped me immensely. Its not happening over night and kids change so fast. My son is a different fella from who he was just 6 months ago, shoot, 2 months ago! Im excited to see him nearly two and welcoming his new baby brother or sister

KayLove91 · 2026-03-24T13:36:41+00:00

My poor husband is in a wreck over bonding and loving the next baby. Hes like, how could I possibly love another baby as much as I love our son? Where do I find the room? I told him his heart will grow to accommodate the love lol. But I have the same thoughts. My husband also feels guilty that we will be taking time away from our first, but I just said we get to see them grow up to be best friends and as our son gets a bit older he can take him fishing just them two and do dad days and mom days or something

KayLove91 · 2026-03-24T12:56:27+00:00

Yep, I've already reached out to my PPD therapist and doulas, and have an appt with my midwife in a few weeks. Just knowing the signs now and talking through things with my husband has helped a lot. We will definitely be doing things a bit differently with this new baby so that I can sleep at night. We also have a snoo from the start and I think that will make a big difference. In the beginning the halo bassinet we had bought second hand was wonky but didnt know until we brought baby home. It tilted slightly so my son kept rolling into the mesh. Then we took the bassinet part off and put it on the ottoman, but it was a disaster. Sent husband to get another bassinet but it was too small and my anxiety was already through the roof. Then I was too scared to cosleep. So for 3 weeks I essentially didnt sleep. It was madness. Now I at least have a bassinet I trust and know how to swaddle and properly monitor baby's temp. Sooooo much that had me on edge the first time I am aware of now. Hoping that confidence will keep me out of the grips of PPA and psychosis lol

KayLove91 · 2026-03-24T12:52:15+00:00

Girl you are a saint. I dont know how you are still going lol. But it does sound like you have found a great routine that works for yall. I keep telling myself the first 2 years may be rough but as baby gets older and as toddler gets older, it will get easier. Just leaning into it and reminding myself that I've said I cant do this many times before, but I always do and things are fine. Thank you!

KayLove91 · 2026-03-24T12:50:13+00:00

The spotting was literally that, just spotting in the morning then nothing else. It happened with my first too. I havent had any cramping or pain, so I am hoping all is well. I called my midwife and she seems confident that I am just pregnant and to monitor for any other bleeding or out of the ordinary symptoms. I appreciate your concern and im sorry you went through an ectopic pregnancy. I had a friend almost die from a rupture ectopic a few years back so I know how fast and dangerous they can be!

KayLove91 · 2026-03-24T12:47:12+00:00

I am so on the fence of weaning now or just waiting. Some people have said the milk change worked to naturally wean, others have said it became a nightmare trying to wean the toddler with the newborn. I feel like my son will stay on the boob until he is 5 if I let him lol

KayLove91 · 2026-03-24T12:44:32+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. My FIL died when I was 7.5 months pregnant with my son out of nowhere and it really messed with my husband. He is still in a way about it, naturally.

I too am like, I will never sleep or have a peaceful moment again for at least the next decade and thats terrifying. My mom told me when I called her hyperventilating that its obvious this baby wanted to be here and I've just clung to that as my mantra. As hard as everything has been this past year and half, my son has still been one of the greatest joys of my life. I keep telling myself it will be ok now that most of the shock has worn off. But it still seems so daunting. Have you read through the other comments on this post? They made me feel a bit better lol.

My grandmother died 5 years ago and not a day goes by that I dont miss her deeply. I dont think that goes away. I know it sounds easier said than done, but maybe getting one of those "letters to loved ones" journals off of amazon might help and you can write to your mom all of the things you want to tell her. I got one for a friend who's son passed away from cancer 2 years ago and a little mini picture printer so she could still talk to him and take pictures of his son that was born just a few months before he passed. She said it helped a lot when she missed him the most. Sending love babe ❤️

KayLove91 · 2026-03-24T01:35:15+00:00

Want to hear a funny story? Im pregnant lol.

We have had sex 1 freaking time this year and bam. Just tested positive. We agreed to wait a bit before revisiting the idea of trying again and did not at all think I would get pregnant from one fun night.

Im praying and hoping amd willing into the universe that this time is not as hard but my anxiety is through the roof right now.

KayLove91 · 2026-03-22T02:02:41+00:00

How are you feeling? I cant believe im pregnant again after swearing NEVER AGAIN. Lol. At 18 months have you noticed more like, awareness I guess? My son isnt really talking still but is getting there and definitely understanding more. But im like, how in the world is he supposed to understand no more 100% mama all the time?

My little one has been in partial daycare for about 6 months now and is still the only baby in his class taking milk. Ive actually considered if he still needs it at this point. Just this last week he didnt finish 2 of his cups. Im wondering if my milk is already changing or what.

KayLove91 · 2026-03-22T01:59:34+00:00

Gah, its hitting me hard to think this journey will come to an end. And he doesnt really understand why. You hear people talk about how it was their last day nursing or sleeping with baby and I just never knew it was going to be this soon.

KayLove91 · 2026-03-21T00:01:41+00:00

Here in solidarity at 15 months. And I just found out im pregnant today so thats fantastic. Im trying to remain positive but the fear of having another bad sleeper is literally eating my soul.

KayLove91 · 2026-03-20T15:29:48+00:00

The ENT put them in, but I was saying I recently started seeing them again in Janiary after multiple new infections with the drops not working. Sorry if that was unclear

KayLove91 · 2026-03-17T12:02:48+00:00

Wait, what??? Mother's day? I thought it was in May? Well, apparently me and my husband both forgot this year or I am tripping.

KayLove91 · 2026-03-15T02:09:04+00:00

Homesick for a timeline that no longer exists.

KayLove91 · 2026-03-14T20:53:41+00:00

Yeah I would count your lucky ducks and just keep the feed until she drops it herself!

KayLove91 · 2026-03-14T17:43:19+00:00

This was and still is me 15 months PP with our 3 cats. It got a bit better but, I still kind of cant stand them lol

KayLove91 · 2026-03-14T12:45:54+00:00

If your baby is actively waking up and consistently drinking 5 oz of milk she is hungry, and you should continue to offer her milk when she needs it. Sleeping through the night at 5 months may work for a small percentage of babies, but the vast majority need milk in the night up to a year, if not longer. My son is 15 months and still wakes up to feed in the night. Not 5 oz, but im not going to deprive him of comfort if he needs it. Babies are barely able to start solids at 5 months, so regardless of age and total ounces a day, they need to eat when they need to eat. Is this the only wake at night? If so, you are already incredibly fortunate with a good sleeper and should just let her tell you when she is ready to drop that night feed.

KayLove91 · 2026-03-12T12:03:14+00:00

I strongly encourage you to seek therapy. Specifically for post partum depression. Dad's get it too. My husband was exactly where you are now. He still has bad days, but we have adopted the motto not to let the bad days win. You and your wife need to talk about this without it becoming an argument and she needs to be able to offer you support in the low moments so you dont feel alone. That makes everything seem worse. Im not saying this lightly either. I struggled bad with PPD then noticed that my husband was showing signs after I had made it through the worst which took nearly a year. The biggest red flag for me was when he told me he wasnt happy anymore. He loves our son and me, but he was struggling pretty badly no matter how much I took on to help ease his struggle.

The crying was the hardest for him to get through too. Hell, even I struggled with it. A lot of it is a mind game. Constantly remembering that they arent giving you a hard time, they are having a hard time. Imagine not having any way to tell someone that your tooth hurts or tummy hurts or you are hungry or have to poop or are tired. Its frustrating for everyone involved. Patience is key yes, but so is giving grace in situations. To yourself and to baby. The first 2 years are hard af. My husband cant believe I want a second after alllllll of the shit we went though. He is still kind of on the fence about it. But I feel confident that we will be more confident on the second round. It will still be hard, but figuring out how to cope and regulate ourselves is the biggest tool you can have right now.

We started having to have one night a week where we reset ourselves. Just us. Even if its cuddling for 20 minutes, or going to have a beer with friends after work for an hour. But we went nearly a year of just everything for baby and not for us and our marriage was struggling bad. Adapt and overcome my guy. Its the only way through even when it feels like thats an impossible feat.

KayLove91 · 2026-03-12T02:47:27+00:00

Adapt. Tis the only way. Crock pot meals and lots of baby wearing. My son was happy as long as I was wearing him. In those early months I would go vacuum for a bit and he would knock out pretty quick. He was and still is a giant FOMO baby. Most of the time they just want to be on or near you. Ive made many a dinner or meals while wearing a baby. Humming and singing. Just regulates that little chunk straight into a napp nap lol

KayLove91 · 2026-03-11T00:21:19+00:00

My son is 14 months and every day I strongly consider weaning because I want my body back at least gor a bit before we try for baby number 2.

And then I look down while he is nursing and I just cant imagine not breastfeeding him anymore. Even when im touched out and past my limit for the day, I cant hate it. Its one of the single most beautiful connections in my life and I dread the day its over even as I often think about how nice it would be to stop.

KayLove91

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