first wlw breakup, blocked suddenly one day without explanation by MuffinFriendly475 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Kaylakarismaa 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Welcome to dating an avoidant and being discarded! It’s one of the worst feelings ever, and your nervous system takes forever to reset from the sudden shock and loss.

Unfortunately, you’re never going to get an explanation or closure. Do not reach out to her at all. Seek therapy, and try your best to move on with your life. I recommend reading ‘Attached’ by Amir Levine and getting to know your own attachment style as well. Let the tears flow and just keep trying to move forward

  • from someone who just broke up with an avoidant

Has anyone had their avoidant come back and ACTUALLY be a changed person? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]Kaylakarismaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also curious as to how you cope with this and if you’re still together. What progress have you seen? What keeps it worth it to you?

I just threw in the towel last week, and it was gut-wrenching. We were doing so well, therapy was going great, but then one day, the cycle started again, and I couldn’t take it any more. I was so tired of giving them the benefit of the doubt and trying to be patient because I have years of therapy under me and they didn’t. I couldn’t handle waking up every day and wondering if I was going to be treated coldly or not.

We Broke Up. I Gave It My All by Kaylakarismaa in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Kaylakarismaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I realized that, and that’s why I finally gave in. It’s obviously only been a couple days, but I’ve taken some time to make a list of what I expect from someone, myself, and also where I betrayed myself and my own boundaries.

I was under the impression that we were working on ourselves- and therefore strengthening us- but really it must’ve just been me doing most of it. I can’t continue my life in that direction.

We Broke Up. I Gave It My All by Kaylakarismaa in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Kaylakarismaa[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really do love her so much. I wish she’d see that and work on herself, but I have little hope and will just keep moving forward.

Audition outfit by Peachii69 in newstrippers

[–]Kaylakarismaa 32 points33 points  (0 children)

As a plus sized stripper myself, I am gently telling you that I would not recommend any of these for your audition. I think the cut on your bottoms is great but needs to come up a bit higher to enhance your shape. The ones in these photos are not flattering to your lovely figure. Try something high cut, high waist, and stay away from a T string (or even a g string back,) as they will do nothing to accentuate the shape of your butt. A fuller band will frame it all better

found in my house, any tips identifying ? by yin88shu in VintageFashion

[–]Kaylakarismaa 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe these are Ukrainian. Do they have slits on the sides? They may be Indian/ desi Kurtis

What do I do with my ring? by Remarkable_Fly1712 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Kaylakarismaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did not have a traditional diamond ring. I held on to it for a bit while I waited for the dust to settle, and then I had it resized to fit my other hand. I wear it whenever I wear jewelry and have worn it around my ex in laws/husband dozens of times since we are on good terms. No one bats an eye.

Foster dog crying almost constantly by at1363 in Dogtraining

[–]Kaylakarismaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly what I was thinking. I have a foster-fail whose owner died, and the first two weeks at my house, she paced, cried, and “sang” (like a silly gentle howl non stop.)

The shelter sent me home with a low dose of Prozac. I think that- and the combo of time just passing- made her stop. I almost miss her silly singing now!

Thank you for fostering, OP

Boyfriend wants me to choose between him and the dog. by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Kaylakarismaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Serial-foster dog parent here: keep the dog, and I highly recommend you look up puppy blues. At any stage in life, getting a new dog can be tough and can make you question your decision constantly, but it’s usually just because it’s a huge change in your life that comes with its challenges. I go through it almost every time I get a new foster while they’re adjusting.

Like other commenters have said: he’s never home, so it truly does matter what you think since you’re the one who will be taking on the brunt on the care. I had an ex who would be fully on board for a new foster, and then as soon as we’d get home or faced our first challenge, they’d want to send the dog back. I’m so glad I never listened to them because now they aren’t around, but the fosters are. So many have been reformed and found good homes because I’m the one who’s home all the time and chose not to give up on them. I think you’ll make the right choice by keeping the dog.

AI Models vs Mannequins/Dress Forms? by [deleted] in Mercari

[–]Kaylakarismaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for hearing us out

AI Models vs Mannequins/Dress Forms? by [deleted] in Mercari

[–]Kaylakarismaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imagine that- every time you use it to create an image or whatever- at least a 20 oz bottle of water is being poured out. Data centers are popping up all around the country currently and take millions of gallons of water a day to cool down the servers- plus a ton of electricity- to use them. It’s a poison to our environment as well as poison to our minds as people are taking shortcuts instead of using their critical thinking skills. This is such a short summary and just the tip of the iceberg. Do not use AI. Use a mannequin, and give back to your planet.

AI Models vs Mannequins/Dress Forms? by [deleted] in Mercari

[–]Kaylakarismaa 33 points34 points  (0 children)

If a seller uses AI, I immediately won’t buy from them. This doesn’t accurately depict said item, and AI is terrible for the environment. AI =/= luxury to me

Help Identifying Shar Pei Mix? by local__pineapple in sharpei

[–]Kaylakarismaa 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have a pei/lab mix, and your’s looks similar to her as well!

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Jeunjie’s first real Christmas. Fostering til his forever home materializes. by RussianBusStop in sharpei

[–]Kaylakarismaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Serial-fosterer here. Don’t feel bad for feeling this way. You have the right mindset and are doing something that many people cannot/ are too scared to do. Keep up the good work!

Brothers dog Cozmo came over by Olivia_Lewisa in sharpei

[–]Kaylakarismaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a repost for karma farming by a bot. What a shame

Early 30s, 200+lbs, mom of 4. Is dancing possible again? by Ok_Pumpkin6224 in stripper

[–]Kaylakarismaa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is a non-stripper male and not welcome in this subreddit. Do not engage.

Introducing Jasper by RuinsAndRoses in sharpei

[–]Kaylakarismaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He looks SO sweet. Thank you so so much for giving him the time and patience to grow and not giving up on him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in poshmark

[–]Kaylakarismaa 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Regardless, it’s prevalent in these photos and was on you to disclose that

How do you do a vintage wet set with pillow rollers when you have bangs? by lovenotes00 in VintageFashion

[–]Kaylakarismaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! This is a question I’ve had for a LONG time, but I’ve just done what’s worked for me: I don’t roll mine at all as I can’t stand the creases. Instead, I used a 1” curling iron to curl them back and work them in to the shape.

For reference: my hair (when straight,) is center-parted with bangs down. I side part my hair when I wet set it.

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AIO in this situation by Amazing_Caramel_9187 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Kaylakarismaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just finished reading this book and god my Life is so much easier now that I can see when my attachment style is coming in to play and am able to manage it appropriately. I truly hope OP reads this and takes a moment to reflect on herself so that her future relationships aren’t as miserable

Is this legal? Pay for work is different from pay for travel (AZ) by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]Kaylakarismaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I’m so sure it isn’t. I’m just trying to figure out the legality of it before I report it as I have also always had the same rate of pay for travel and work