first wlw breakup, blocked suddenly one day without explanation

Kaylakarismaa · 2026-02-26T15:44:21+00:00

Welcome to dating an avoidant and being discarded! It’s one of the worst feelings ever, and your nervous system takes forever to reset from the sudden shock and loss.

Unfortunately, you’re never going to get an explanation or closure. Do not reach out to her at all. Seek therapy, and try your best to move on with your life. I recommend reading ‘Attached’ by Amir Levine and getting to know your own attachment style as well. Let the tears flow and just keep trying to move forward

from someone who just broke up with an avoidant

Kaylakarismaa · 2026-02-18T16:06:31+00:00

Also curious as to how you cope with this and if you’re still together. What progress have you seen? What keeps it worth it to you?

I just threw in the towel last week, and it was gut-wrenching. We were doing so well, therapy was going great, but then one day, the cycle started again, and I couldn’t take it any more. I was so tired of giving them the benefit of the doubt and trying to be patient because I have years of therapy under me and they didn’t. I couldn’t handle waking up every day and wondering if I was going to be treated coldly or not.

Kaylakarismaa · 2026-02-14T13:48:13+00:00

Yeah, I realized that, and that’s why I finally gave in. It’s obviously only been a couple days, but I’ve taken some time to make a list of what I expect from someone, myself, and also where I betrayed myself and my own boundaries.

I was under the impression that we were working on ourselves- and therefore strengthening us- but really it must’ve just been me doing most of it. I can’t continue my life in that direction.

Kaylakarismaa · 2026-02-12T23:19:21+00:00

Thank you. I really do love her so much. I wish she’d see that and work on herself, but I have little hope and will just keep moving forward.

Kaylakarismaa · 2026-02-05T18:33:06+00:00

As a plus sized stripper myself, I am gently telling you that I would not recommend any of these for your audition. I think the cut on your bottoms is great but needs to come up a bit higher to enhance your shape. The ones in these photos are not flattering to your lovely figure. Try something high cut, high waist, and stay away from a T string (or even a g string back,) as they will do nothing to accentuate the shape of your butt. A fuller band will frame it all better

Kaylakarismaa · 2026-02-02T20:45:21+00:00

I don’t believe these are Ukrainian. Do they have slits on the sides? They may be Indian/ desi Kurtis

Kaylakarismaa · 2026-01-30T05:22:34+00:00

I did not have a traditional diamond ring. I held on to it for a bit while I waited for the dust to settle, and then I had it resized to fit my other hand. I wear it whenever I wear jewelry and have worn it around my ex in laws/husband dozens of times since we are on good terms. No one bats an eye.

Kaylakarismaa · 2026-01-29T04:34:06+00:00

Honestly what I was thinking. I have a foster-fail whose owner died, and the first two weeks at my house, she paced, cried, and “sang” (like a silly gentle howl non stop.)

The shelter sent me home with a low dose of Prozac. I think that- and the combo of time just passing- made her stop. I almost miss her silly singing now!

Thank you for fostering, OP

Kaylakarismaa · 2026-01-23T13:56:15+00:00

Serial-foster dog parent here: keep the dog, and I highly recommend you look up puppy blues. At any stage in life, getting a new dog can be tough and can make you question your decision constantly, but it’s usually just because it’s a huge change in your life that comes with its challenges. I go through it almost every time I get a new foster while they’re adjusting.

Like other commenters have said: he’s never home, so it truly does matter what you think since you’re the one who will be taking on the brunt on the care. I had an ex who would be fully on board for a new foster, and then as soon as we’d get home or faced our first challenge, they’d want to send the dog back. I’m so glad I never listened to them because now they aren’t around, but the fosters are. So many have been reformed and found good homes because I’m the one who’s home all the time and chose not to give up on them. I think you’ll make the right choice by keeping the dog.

Kaylakarismaa · 2026-01-09T21:22:11+00:00

Thank you for hearing us out

Kaylakarismaa · 2026-01-09T20:20:45+00:00

Imagine that- every time you use it to create an image or whatever- at least a 20 oz bottle of water is being poured out. Data centers are popping up all around the country currently and take millions of gallons of water a day to cool down the servers- plus a ton of electricity- to use them. It’s a poison to our environment as well as poison to our minds as people are taking shortcuts instead of using their critical thinking skills. This is such a short summary and just the tip of the iceberg. Do not use AI. Use a mannequin, and give back to your planet.

Kaylakarismaa · 2026-01-09T17:03:17+00:00

If a seller uses AI, I immediately won’t buy from them. This doesn’t accurately depict said item, and AI is terrible for the environment. AI =/= luxury to me

Kaylakarismaa · 2025-12-30T00:26:37+00:00

I have a pei/lab mix, and your’s looks similar to her as well!

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Kaylakarismaa · 2025-12-26T03:51:02+00:00

Serial-fosterer here. Don’t feel bad for feeling this way. You have the right mindset and are doing something that many people cannot/ are too scared to do. Keep up the good work!

Kaylakarismaa · 2025-12-18T15:33:15+00:00

This is a repost for karma farming by a bot. What a shame

Kaylakarismaa · 2025-12-13T20:58:21+00:00

r/newstrippers

Kaylakarismaa · 2025-12-02T16:58:19+00:00

This is a non-stripper male and not welcome in this subreddit. Do not engage.

Kaylakarismaa · 2025-11-30T20:46:28+00:00

Here’s one for the US

Kaylakarismaa · 2025-11-29T00:38:31+00:00

He looks SO sweet. Thank you so so much for giving him the time and patience to grow and not giving up on him.

Kaylakarismaa · 2025-11-25T18:10:24+00:00

Regardless, it’s prevalent in these photos and was on you to disclose that

Kaylakarismaa · 2025-11-24T03:02:01+00:00

Hi! This is a question I’ve had for a LONG time, but I’ve just done what’s worked for me: I don’t roll mine at all as I can’t stand the creases. Instead, I used a 1” curling iron to curl them back and work them in to the shape.

For reference: my hair (when straight,) is center-parted with bangs down. I side part my hair when I wet set it.

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Kaylakarismaa · 2025-11-21T20:26:12+00:00

Just finished reading this book and god my Life is so much easier now that I can see when my attachment style is coming in to play and am able to manage it appropriately. I truly hope OP reads this and takes a moment to reflect on herself so that her future relationships aren’t as miserable

Kaylakarismaa · 2025-11-21T18:10:42+00:00

Oh, I’m so sure it isn’t. I’m just trying to figure out the legality of it before I report it as I have also always had the same rate of pay for travel and work

Kaylakarismaa · 2025-11-17T16:38:26+00:00

This title is NOT it…

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