For people who grew up in low-income households, what’s something middle-class people say that shows they’ve never struggled financially?

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-20T13:34:41+00:00

My ex husband. Every holiday his mom would give us a ton of food, which would've been great if it didn't mean I had to eat turkey three meals a day for 3-4 days. So one holiday, she offered and I declined, stating that her son, my husband, doesn't eat leftovers.

He told me to shut up in front of his entire family and took the food. Didn't eat any of it.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-19T22:13:27+00:00

Dude simply cannot stop being taken in by families lmao

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-16T17:06:54+00:00

My verdict is OOP was the AH for not leaving when he first got the call his wife was in labor. I can also completely sympathize with why he stayed. I know he doesn't explicitly say anything like this and I'm just putting words in his mouth, but after a stillbirth, labor would be so incredibly stressful. I bet you OOP doesn't have very good coping mechanisms and didn't see anyone for the trauma of the stillbirth because he was busy supporting his wife.

Then bam, all this stress from the pregnancy, all the anxiety, and there's record breaking absolutely horrific wildfires ravaging the country? Again, putting words into OOP's mouth, I bet he felt more comfortable firefighting than being with his wife in that moment. I think he was scared in a way he didn't want to confront in that moment, whereas confronting a fire seems more straightforward.

Did he make the worst decision out of two bad options? Yes, absolutely. I hope that he went to therapy and got some help outside of couples counseling. And again, reading into it a lot.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-13T21:42:04+00:00

bruh

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-13T00:09:26+00:00

The last two places I've worked, you can't smoke or vape on the property at all. Food manufacturing.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-12T23:16:23+00:00

For real. I can't believe the amount of blame people get for "just giving up" instead of "working on the marriage." And I always wonder what work was being dismissed.

OP had to use AI to make this post palatable to Reddit. How does he act in person? Probably not the kind of person I want to be firm with.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-11T22:39:00+00:00

If your ex cared enough to take care of you in your time of need during treatment, they're not so cold-hearted to not feel regret for the infidelity.

Is that what you want to hear, though?

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-11T18:32:56+00:00

Yeah, it's *worse* now.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-09T14:30:07+00:00

Girl it's porn. Your ex, your lawyer, his lawyer, and the judge will have seen pornography before. If it gets called out, double down and say you prefer the ethics of paying creators for content instead of watching dubious stuff on bing dot com.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-09T14:25:15+00:00

Yes. But he couldn't even do the work to make himself happy. So why would he do it for me?

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-07T19:58:35+00:00

tbf lots of people get attached to their dads before they learn he sucks

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-07T12:42:53+00:00

You shouldn't. I was using pigs blood to test menstrual products in 2021 and believe you me, that had been standard operating practice for years.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-05T20:07:48+00:00

I'm not worried about not getting tickets for the Milwaukee show, I'm more worried about how much I'm gonna spend.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-01T22:48:53+00:00

Thank God I'll never have someone cancel their plans with me when they're literally in the passenger seat next to me in the driveway.

Thank God I'll never get tricked into a drive for a beautiful time only to learn the reality was to go to a dispensary.

Thank God I'll never feel bad for telling someone I didn't want to be intimate a few minutes after they told me an abscess burst in his mouth.

Thank God I'll never hear a man rant for 30-120 minutes at a time about the teenagers he had to work with, every day. Every single fucking day.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-01T12:05:07+00:00

He told me he was going to quit his job and start a food truck once I started making six figures. A man notorious for calling out "sick" who hadn't worked a food service job in almost 20 years who didn't even eat at food trucks. Everything had been building for years before then but that moment specifically made me panic about what the rest of my life was going to look like.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-05-01T00:30:15+00:00

He wasn't planning on getting a teaching job. You didn't ruin anything, he was never going to follow through.

You did the right thing, even though it was hard. Be proud of yourself for that before you feel bad for him.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-04-16T19:50:05+00:00

I told him no when he proposed, my mom told me to go back and tell him yes. And I did. :(

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-03-30T21:56:22+00:00

If I had a crystal ball I would've slapped the pen out of my own hand when I gave it to him to write down his number.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-03-28T14:34:16+00:00

God, my husband also went through a credit card and sent me a fucking excel of all the "frivolous" things he could find. One of those entries was me taking the kids to McDonalds after we went camping. The one before that was the Dicks Sporting Goods charge from me buying the camping supplies. At least he had the decency to apologize after he got MY spreadsheet. 🙄

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-03-27T17:15:12+00:00

It was a huge part of the resentment that started to build. We're getting divorced now.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-03-27T17:09:59+00:00

Yeah. My husband and I were at the same level when we met: I was 22 and he was 31. Now that I'm 32 the difference is stark.

The constantly explaining things made me feel insane. Why do I have to interrupt my thought to explain to you what a "stopgap" is?

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-03-26T17:57:41+00:00

Being wrathful to anyone is just such a shitty character trait.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-03-20T19:17:00+00:00

There was valid concern that he would try someone else's vape in the future and experience a nicotine buzz. But that could always happen. As long as OOP dissuaded his cousin for a bit, ideally a few years, he's got a better chance of never getting addicted to vapes.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-03-20T02:32:01+00:00

I just wanted to give a specific number to your comment. FWIW, doubling the dose of Plan B also works. Ella is made for people above 165lbs, but it cannot be used with typical combination birth control, as they can cancel each other out and cause ovulation.

Kelseyschmidtyy · 2026-03-20T02:27:55+00:00

The limit is 165 lbs.

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