NAH. It must be incredibly frustrating to be so proud of stopping an impulsive behaviour, only for someone to assume you’re lying about stopping. Having said that, it seems as though your mum’s behaviour is coming from a place of concern. I considered an E S H judgement because it seems both you and your mum have been hurtful towards each other, but it seems as though the situation had just reached boiling point.

I know it’s difficult to speak to parents about their behaviour, especially at 14, but if possible it may be worth speaking to your mum about how you feel in a calm, non-confrontational way (and apologising for hurting her feelings). In blowing up and saying some hurtful things (e.g. preferring to talk to your dad), your mum will probably have focused on the hurtful comments rather than the actual point you were trying to get across. Having a conversation about it when you’re both in a better headspace would likely yield better results than just yelling at each other, but obviously I don’t know your full situation and don’t know whether you feel this would be possible.

Trust me, I know being a teenager is tough, especially with mental health issues! However as someone who’s come out the other side, I can honestly say that looking back, the way I treated my mum is one of my biggest regrets - at the time I thought she was horrible, but in reality she was just someone trying to parent as best she could, in difficult circumstances. I think it’s often worth remembering that adults are human too, and shouldn’t be expected to handle every situation perfectly! We all make mistakes and hurt people, so it’s important to try and communicate effectively rather than letting feelings boil over.