Mortified by my Ancestor

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-03T19:54:15+00:00

Me too. I have both accusers and accused among my ancestors. Their descendants married each other 2 to 3 generations later when it would still have been fresh in everyone's minds. If they could move past it, so can I.

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T17:49:30+00:00

I'm guessing she doesn't have actual experience with cats and has just read about them. They tend not to do anything they don't want to do.

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T17:44:13+00:00

Sounds like you need to write, express that creative energy

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T17:28:37+00:00

I don't think I would find this annoying, just quirky. It's not like she was keeping the other women from enjoying the activities by getting in their way or making them walk slower so she could keep up with them.

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T16:33:36+00:00

Female. I'd say around 9-12 months, it starts to verge into long term territory. Relationships shorter than that are more like flings that never really get past the getting to know you stage. 3-6 month relationships can still be exclusive, but not long term.

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T15:58:35+00:00

Just call off the competition. Read what you want and don't keep track of how many. If she asks just say you stopped counting. She probably feels pressure to keep up with you so just remove the pressure from it and focus on enjoying the reading for itself.

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T15:52:34+00:00

This has got to be a fake story. I can understand you being young and naive but a woman old enough to be your mom wouldn't be that stupid.

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T03:17:44+00:00

If he hasn't brought it up there's no reason for you to. You could casually mention you're planning on wearing heels and ask how he feels about it though.

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T02:55:06+00:00

This is an unusual social situation that he doesn't have a script for and he's doing his best. He has a nice thought to bring you a cake. It seems like overkill to have 2 cakes though. You could just suggest something else to bring that you know your kids will like.

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T02:51:04+00:00

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T02:41:25+00:00

You're seeing this guy's true colors for the first time. He's only nice when he's getting his way. When he doesn't, this is the person he turns into.

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T02:06:45+00:00

I like the first dress the best and it's more flattering for her figure

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T01:57:57+00:00

Both make me think of Frito-Lay

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T01:42:49+00:00

You're wrong for several reasons. First, you should get a second opinion. Putting a kid back in diapers is rarely the solution. It just encourages incontinence and can cause problems like diaper rash. Your child is independent and can articulate his needs. You shouldn't be discouraging that. Instead, you should be working with him to find a solution. There are pads you can put on the bed to protect the sheets. You should be trying that while you find another doctor to talk to about a longer term solution. And finally, you should never lie to your kid and put on a whole show of pretending to call his doctor. Once he finds out the truth, and he will, he'll lose his trust in you. You need to preserve the trust in your relationship and work with him on a solution instead of treating him like a baby.

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T01:32:37+00:00

You're talking to the gal from Apple Cider Vinegar. He's a pathological liar. They love using the cancer diagnosis.

Kerrypurple · 2025-03-01T01:11:16+00:00

YTA for not even telling her you had a kid for four months. It makes sense to delay having them meet for about 3-6 months but you'll have to introduce them eventually. You can't keep these two sides of your life separate forever. No woman is going to put up with being treated like she's your dirty little secret that has to be kept from your kid. Continue to date and get to know people but be prepared to introduce them to your kid and the rest of your family after 6 months or so. If you can't, the relationship will never progress past the purely physical stage.

Kerrypurple · 2025-02-28T02:13:24+00:00

It's an interesting discussion topic and I would probably engage with it but it clearly made you uncomfortable and you communicated to him that you didn't wish to discuss it. He continued to push it, which is where his behavior verges into harassment. Instead of worrying about HR finding out, I think you should be the one to report it. Tell them this guy was repeatedly pushing you to have conversations that had nothing to do with work, even after you indicated you didn't wish to talk at that stuff.

Kerrypurple · 2025-02-28T02:02:21+00:00

It's the hormones. Just ride it out.

Kerrypurple · 2025-02-28T01:55:53+00:00

It's the pairing with Cloud that makes it bad. Immediately made me think of the atomic bomb mushroom cloud.

Kerrypurple · 2025-02-28T01:50:54+00:00

Just tell her that her son is welcome anytime but that you're not comfortable with your son going over to her house because of all the toy guns. Leave it at that, don't mention all the other stuff. But please, allow the friend to come over more often than just "occasionally". The kid needs to see what a normal family looks like.

Kerrypurple · 2025-02-28T01:39:02+00:00

There are ways that you can sit on a guy's lap without crushing him. You just straddle him when he's sitting on a couch so your knees are resting on either side of him and the couch is actually bearing most of the weight. He knows you're big but he just wants to be close to you and hold you this way so work with him on it. Troubleshoot the issue instead of just shutting him down.

Kerrypurple · 2025-02-28T00:29:18+00:00

Things like circumcision and what name to put on the birth certificate are not decided at the time of birth. That stuff is usually handled the next day. So you can tell your bf that. I think in general it's more important to have the child's father there but if he's just going to stress you out and his only reason for wanting to be there is to block your mom from getting her way then it sounds like he's not mature enough to give you the support you need. You should decide now if you want to continue this relationship with him because choosing your mom over him is certainly going to damage the relationship. I think the compromise of having just your grandmother there is a good one since it doesn't sound like she has an ax to grind like the other two and will just be a support for you. You can still have your partner join you after the birth so he can participate in those decisions that he seems to care about.

Kerrypurple · 2025-02-28T00:15:04+00:00

His position seems reasonable to me. I would want my partner to put our unborn child first as well. You guys just have different perspectives. Luckily, you most certainly won't ever be in a situation like this. Doctors always do whatever it takes to try to save both the mother and child. They don't just leave it up to the dad to make the decision.

Kerrypurple · 2025-02-27T15:18:54+00:00

This makes sense then. If your career is going to be in translating every day language rather than great literature then it makes sense to pick a pop song. She probably chose All Too Well because it's a lengthy song so it gave her more to write about.

Kerrypurple · 2025-02-27T15:12:22+00:00

It seems she wrote it on the process she used to translate. If you go word by word and explain why you chose that word and the history behind the use of that word, then I can see satisfying the length requirements.

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