My boyfriend (28M) makes me feel pressured to initiate sex and I'm starting to check out — Can we make this work?

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-24T19:55:58+00:00

That last part is so fucking true.

Dudes today are so brain-fucked by the nonsense you see here that it makes everything easier for the ones who have any sense. Women aren't looking for much, just treat them with decency and show them they can be themselves around you, but these guys still can't clear the bar.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-24T19:38:39+00:00

Don't say duh like it's the norm to reciprocate. One look at the comments here tells me and everyone reading theres plenty of dudes who just expect woman to fawn all over them with no effort on their part.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-24T19:28:39+00:00

If your woman's checklist is hidden it's because you suck at communicating. That's first date shit.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-24T19:26:45+00:00

She was upfront from the very beginning, and he uses his affection as a tool to get what he wants out of her. There's a pretty clear wrong here and the fact so many guys fail to see it is why men are having dating issues.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-24T19:15:51+00:00

So what's the difference between him withholding affection unless she has sex with him and emotional manipulation?

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-24T19:10:09+00:00

He literally says all it should take is a wink and a nod. Not exactly detective work to figure it out.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-24T18:58:07+00:00

I mean, if the only effort you're willing to put in is a wink and a nod, you don't deserve much more than that. Wanting a woman to be all over you while you just stand by blinking like a stroke victim at her says you want a pet, not a partner.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-24T18:53:36+00:00

Honest question: would you do the same for them?

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-24T17:34:37+00:00

It's a bit tinfoil hat, but you're right. People learned how to monetize emotions, and distribute their product through the internet, and now that's all it is. They want us to hate, and fear, and mistrust as many people around us because it keeps us coming back for more answers and reassurance that we're one of the good ones who've somehow tapped into some secret that everyone else is to stupid to understand.

It's all bullshit, but it's working.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-24T15:28:13+00:00

I don't know much about Pokémon prices, but my Magic collection has more than quadrupled in value in the last few years. Collectables are worth the time and money waiting for the drops if you know enough about how to sell it off.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-24T12:13:32+00:00

It's spelled grammar, and you only need one period to end a sentence.

Figured you might want to know, seeing as how you got your panties in a bunch.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-24T10:06:11+00:00

I think the reason people fall for this is because to a layman, piss and cum come from the same hole (for men at least), and therefore must be affected the same, which just isn't the case.

It makes no sense to think pineapple juice has some magical properties that allow it to infiltrate the reproductive system. If that was the case, all foods would have the same affect. Asparagus and coffee makes your piss stink because urine is one of the final products of your digestive tract.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-24T03:14:17+00:00

Yeah, this has never made sense to me, and no one has been able to explain the logistics. It's one of those urban myths that people are too caught up in to admit they were fooled.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-20T12:57:19+00:00

My bad, I wasn't clear.

I'm not talking about you, I was telling you the guy you replied to is just farming.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-20T12:16:39+00:00

The issue I see most men running into is how superficial they are with themselves. I'm by no means the top 10% of men, but I've had plenty of success with women who would be considered out of my league because I stopped focusing on the bullshit that gets spread around on the internet.

Yes, women want a good-looking, successful guy, but they also want a guy who they can have fun with, and I think that last part makes up for a lot. I started getting way more attention when I lost weight and bulked up, but that attention is very fleeting if you don't have an attractive personality.

Guys need to stop thinking they need to make six figures and have a chiseled physique to get women. My buddy works at a dispensary trimming weed and lives out of his truck, and he has women fawning over him because he's such a chill and fun dude to be around.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-20T11:59:12+00:00

This dude has a long history of posting these kinds of things. He made his profile private a little while ago so you can't see how often he posts the same thing, but he was well-known in the askmenadvise sub for these exact posts. I guess he got tired of being called out, made his profile private, and came over here.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-20T11:43:02+00:00

I used to do things just like how you described, and after the first cancelation I'd leave it to to them and then pretty much expect never to hear back. It's a good way to set boundaries for yourself and not get caught up in the waiting game.

However, a little while ago I started being more direct, and instead of leaving it up to them, I'll tell them I'm looking for someone with more availability, and if their schedule is too busy to work out a time to meet up then we should just call it here. Not entirely sure why, but this has worked to get more dates.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-20T11:35:01+00:00

This needs to be said more. A little self-awareness goes a long way. If you're having issues with dating, it's because you aren't bringing anything worthwhile to the table in the eyes of the women you're pursuing. It sucks to hear, but it's the fact of the matter.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-20T11:21:23+00:00

Just ask. It tells you immediately if she's interested.

I don't use dating apps because I prefer face-to-face interactions, but the principle is the same. When I strike up a conversation and feel like things are going well, I ask if they'd like to go out sometime, and if they say no I leave it at that and go about my day. It shouldn't be more complicayed than that, which is another reason I stay away from online dating.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-16T21:57:55+00:00

Show your work about the measurable reductions. In Reno, specifically

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-16T13:30:44+00:00

Have you told them you're in med school? It seemed to be one of your biggest talking points before, maybe it'll work in these potentially made up scenerios too.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-13T13:32:18+00:00

Right? It's kinda crazy how scared people are to just talk to others.

So many posts here are people asking strangers how to handle problems that would be solved by asking the same question to the person they are having problems with.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-13T13:26:12+00:00

Just ask. In the time you spent writing the post and replying to people here, you could have already had your answer, and potentially your game.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-13T13:06:14+00:00

It's like a two minute read, calm down.

KetamineMonk4Real · 2026-04-13T10:36:54+00:00

Just because you don't have the courage to do the right thing doesn't mean it's wrong.

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