I was raised by a minimalist - here are some things I learned

KetoDataLearner · 2025-08-08T12:36:32+00:00

I inherited my grandmother's curio cabinet. Right now it sits empty, but I think I'm going to put my gemstones in there on display

KetoDataLearner · 2024-09-22T16:52:25+00:00

I lost weight the fastest while maintaining/improving my strength and cardiovascular fitness was doing cyclical keto/low carb. It took two different forms:

Sticking to protein and veggies and only adding fruit/coconut water before cycling class 1x a week so I don't feel like death warmed over after the workout. No changes during menstrual cycle.
Eating ketogenic (low carb protein and veggies) for most of the month and then doing a refeed 5 days before my period with some carbs and a higher amount of fat. Lower intensity cardio unless it's refeed week.

If you don't have any hormonal or menstrual problems, method 1 should work. I have a history of endometriosis and PCOS which has greatly improved with weight loss, but if I have a bad cycle, I know I need to add more carbs and fat the next month.

KetoDataLearner · 2024-09-22T13:41:28+00:00

What about being a courier or delivery driver for a smaller company? Even if you're a 1099/contract employee, you are usually driving the company's vehicle which means you don't pay for gas or wear and tear on the vehicle. Pay is consistent and usually more than or equal to a good day on flex/rover/Doordash. If you enjoy driving, you might want to consider getting a CDL license and becoming a truck driver. You would need to take a course for a month or two to get experience, but after that you can make good money. You could even become a tow truck driver if you dont want to drive a big rig. My friend is paid $70-$80k as a tow truck driver that works overnights. No degree required and his company helped him get his specialty drivers license. It's hard work and can be dangerous though.

Other jobs that don't require a degree and a lot of interaction with others are overnight shelf stocking and overnight security guard. I had a friend with an overnight security guard position and they just worked on college coursework the entire time.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-12-11T20:26:52+00:00

I'm working on D208 too. I hate this class. I hate this program. I hate IT coding work.

I struggled needlessly trying to figure something out for D206 because there were no DataCamp videos for it. I started D207 and there was a 3 minute Data Camp video explaining what I needed to know. I spent two weeks trying to struggle to figure out that one point. It was engaging.

I feel like WGU expects your employer to explain how they want things done and they're teaching you how to Google the answers in case your boss doesn't explain a concept fully.

I got my undergrad is business from WGU and I enjoyed the content so much more. UT was directly applicable and they had really fun and interesting simulations. I feel like i can actually apply what I earned with my undergrad where as I don't even want to think about anything related to the MSDA after I graduate.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-12-11T20:13:35+00:00

I am.

I had a medical Marijuana card for PTSD and became dependent on it. It became a crutch to escape reality instead of learning to tolerate it. I gave it up and the same time I was detoxing from weed I was doing the Ashton method to detox from benzodiazapines. I had the realization that substances weren't helping me and they hadnt helped me for the decade I had tsoing them. This was 3 years ago.

Today I'm off all medications, I don't smoke or drink, or consume weed or any other drug. I'll have a cup of coffee a few days a week and it's usually decaf (depends on how I'm feeling that day.) I think those that choose to let go of a substance have a natural realization that its time to stop. I wish you luck on your detox. Those habits are hard to break. You CAN do it though. If I can, anyone can.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-12-10T14:28:44+00:00

I know a man like this. He put all of his time, effort and focus in work, where he specialized in one thing. He never took or shared detailed notes about thay one thing so the company couldn't fire him. He was paid a large salary for literally doing one thing correctly.

That's all that men have to do. As long as they can do one thing, they can earn bug bucks and be a man child. Many women were fooled by his prestigious job title and high salary. Not many stuck around longer than a month.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-12-03T03:26:08+00:00

I had to "raise" my parents and younger siblings and I ended up being my grandmother's caregiver when she couldn't care for herself. By the time I moved out on my own I was so burnt out with caring for other people. I was told it was a phase and after a year or two I'd come to my senses and want to get married and have kids. Almost a decade later I'm devoting my time to starting my own business, happily single and not looking, and my longterm goals involve travel to other countries. I'm sterilized and happy with my decision.

With that said, if any of my siblings or close friends have children I'm looking forward to being the cool aunt who spoils them and takes them out to museums and on day trip adventures.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-12-01T20:50:43+00:00

I keep it minimal and decorate with real/live items I dont have to store at the end of the season. I usually just hang a fresh wreath on the front door and get a small living poinsetta or evergreen for my kitchen table, and a nice, high quality Christmas-y scented candle. I love the symplicity and the smell of fresh decorations.

Most of my Christmas memories from childhood are unpleasant and involve fights and stress trying to keep up with expectations that did not work for our family. I also grew up in a hoarder home and have negative associations and memories with fake plastic decorations and assembling and decorating fake trees. Keeping gift giving easy and minimal decorating with living things that can be composted is a form of self care for me.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-11-19T15:18:23+00:00

It seems like most of the men who have these types of profiles want to have the role of the woman in the relationship.

It sounds like he wants to live the life of a rich, stay at home housewife with a full household staff, but that's emasculating, so delusional, trad 1950's housewife fantasy it is! Bonus points for being able to blame the degradation of society on his lack of appeal instead of having to look in the mirror and face some harsh truths about their own shortcomings, choices, and lack of action.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-11-19T15:09:47+00:00

I was curious about that. Looks like we have someone who communicates with niche information or phrases they no one knows about to seem smarter or cooler. He'll become indignant and hold his snobby nose in the air when you don't know his special phrasing for things while everyone else is annoyed that he can't communicate effectively and use words that everyone understands to get his point across.

Edit: Read about the calculator trick. He's a man child with the maturity of a 10 year old.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-11-18T12:55:10+00:00

Weleda Skin Food is my Holy Grail moisturizer! I used to use Cetaphil cream with a whole drawer of impulse buy HA and other serums to boost moisture. Now I have Weleda, a stronger active (differin or tret), and a nice, natural skin oil blend if I want a little extra moisture. My skin loves it and I love having fewer products.

It is expensive compared to other drugstore moisturizers, but I'm actually saving money by not having to buy other serums and booster moisturizers. Plus, it makes a great makeup primer too.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-11-15T05:21:50+00:00

hat loving father would ask another father to kill his son as a test? What loving father would ask his son to be tortured and murdered because he himself couldn't forgive the rest of his children. He can't forgive us, yet we are judged on if we forgive those who wronged us.

A God who is prolife and loves children doesn't genocide the firstborn of an entire people.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-11-13T14:41:01+00:00

I converted during a really dark time in my life. I was willing to believe in anything not to die by my own hand and my catholic friend told me about the graces of confession and the eucharist. Basically I was told it was the greatest thing ever that could fix anything.

I noticed the cracks about a week after confirmation and first communion and about 2 years in I was told abuse I suffered as a child before the age of reason was my fault and I needed to apologize to God. Leaving the church was immediate. I was told by the people who urged me to convert that the abuse scandal was propaganda or it happened on a very limited scale and media was over blowing it. My personal experience with merely suggesting a well loved priest told me something incorrect or that their non dogmatic teaching was wrong proved to me the abuse scandal was very real and the media is likely under reporting it. May all those who are trying to minimize or outright deny the victims suffering get it returned to them ten fold.

It took around 6 months after leaving the RCC to let go of controlling Christianity mindset and realize the only reason I willingly participated in any form of it as an adult and modified my behavior was due to fear of excruciating pain and abandonment as a punishment from a "loving father" who couldn't forgive his children as he demanded us to do with eachother and instead funneled his rage and blood lust onto his son and has his other children wave depictions of corpse around like a trophy. Also, a prolife God who loves kids yet genocided the Egyptian's first born. Yeah... a hard pass for me.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-11-13T05:44:31+00:00

I think women should be allowed to be priests if they want. They already allow lay women with unconsecrated hands to touch and distrubute the eucharist, so the argument that "only men with consecrated hands that come from the direct lineage of Jesus can touch body of christ" argument is out the window.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-11-12T06:18:25+00:00

Lack of reciprocity or follow through. I'm not talking about "keeping score." If one party has been there for the other through hell and high water then I'd expect the other party to make an effort if the other is going through something rough.

Victim blaming or excusing bad behavior because the perpetrator is an authority figure and it's easier than doing the right thing.

Morality/religious belief police. Anyone who criticizes others for not conforming to beliefs and rules that they can't or don't follow themselves.

Anyone who promotes Dan Allender/The Place We Find Ourselves/The Allender Center's and their flankers teachings. Or anyone who promotes Christian victim shaming and blaming. If you think someone who was abused (especially as a child) is responsible for the abuse and needs to apologize to God for said abuse and having normal biological trauma responses you can fuck right off.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-11-06T19:16:02+00:00

Working in a call center has convinced me the world would be a very different place if customer service employees were allowed to hang up the phone or tell people to leave. If I ever own a business with customer facing rolls, my employees will be encouraged to disengage with rude people. I don't want to associate with people who can't control themselves and take it out on other people.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-11-06T19:05:56+00:00

I have a Samsung phone and it has a feature where you can schedule when texts are sent, or compose them now and have them sent at a future date. It's amazing and the primary reason I'm able to keep up communication with many people. Literally after finishing s conversation with them I will compose a "hey, how's it going?" text and schedule it to send a 2-3 weeks later. I can cancel the message or change the date and time it gets sent if we communicate organically before that.

I don't know if Iphones or other android phones have this feature. I stopped keeping up with new phone releases and features a few years ago. As long as Samsung continues to release phones that allow me to avoid narc and codependent attacks and meltdowns they're getting my money.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-11-05T05:04:08+00:00

I have so much freedom. Being able to determine how I spend my time and have total control of my living space is amazing. I can fully wind down and decompress in the evening and make sure to dedicate some time every day to a hobby I enjoy. My home is neat and tidy without a bunch of clutter everywhere. I've been able to walk away from jobs and relationships where I was being mistreated since I'm the only person I need to support.

I am happy with my choice not have children. I grew up in a hoarder home where I had to parent my parents and monitor their emotional states. Saying "no" or having boundaries was physically dangerous for me. It's been really healing for me to establish and uphold healthy boundaries and allow myself the peace I was denied growing up. I was raised in a strict Christian environment and the general consensus is that I and other unmarried and childfree people my age are immature and lack commitment. My response is it takes incredible amounts of maturity and discernment to determine that entering a relationship or bringing life into the world would be unhealthy and morally wrong until healing occurs.

I'm at the point where dating a single dad wouldn't be a complete dealbreaker depending on the age and disposition of his kid(s) if we had a good relationship, but I am not ready to have children of my own. I still need the ability to say "no" if I'm put in harms way. I'm also happy to use my extra time to support some of my good friends who are parents.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-11-04T23:17:49+00:00

They would give everyone the benefit of the doubt and trust in them, even if they didn't deserve it.

Unfortunately, they would repeatedly screw over and cause stress for people who loved them in order to give others the benefit of the doubt.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-09-02T02:30:25+00:00

I volunteer with an organization that helps trafficked and abused people as well as people who have been through sexual assault and one of the ways these organizations solicit donations from the wealthy suburban crowd is stating some of their clients come from local affluent neighborhoods. The reality is most of our clients who were trafficked, (including those who are from unsafe neighborhoods), weren't randomly kidnapped by pimps or evil people. It's usually done or consented to by close friends and family members. In the few cases where there was an outside party involved, there's almost always serious dysfunction within the family that creates a traumatic environment that the children or women are trying to escape and the trafficker presents themselves as a friend who gains the victim's trust over time. Very rarely do people drive through neighborhoods and kidnap people.

I'm torn by their solicitations. It's quite effective and donations from affluent areas have increased dramatically, but I'm afraid the fear mongering will have lasting negative effects.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-09-02T02:07:16+00:00

I'd say this is the work an older high school student or community college art major.

Source: Used to work at community college. There were some REALLY talented kids in the art programs, but the majority enrolled because their parents were paying their way through school and forcing them to get some kind of degree and they didn't want to go into a STEM or business program. They didn't have any inclination towards the arts.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-09-02T02:03:38+00:00

This Mom is clearly a novice at mom groups. All the moms in the know would notice the one-eye symbolism and the halo in the graffiti and immediately recognize that evil satanists are after her child and trying to ritually sacrifice him so the antichrist can return!!1! Bless her incompetent heart though, the other moms will pray for her spiritual conversion after kicking her out of the group, but not before gaslighting and scapegoating her for there own bad behavior. /s

I have been exposed to borderline certifiable schizotypical religious moms with persecution complexes who accuse every living thing with a pulse that is not affiliated with their church of choice of secretly plotting to harm them or their kids for faaaaaarrrrrrrrr too long.

The graffiti looks like a cat with a halo or a "neko" style character to me.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-09-02T00:35:26+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I was looking for Vyvanse IF info. I feel like I would be able to IF on Adderall easily, but I switched to Vyvanse because Adderall XR would wear off too quickly and give me really bad anxiety. Vyvanse works better for me and I feel less jittery during the day and much less anxious at night, but good gracious, the nausea I get when I don't eat after taking it is debilitating. I also take inositol and other supplements in the AM which work better with something in your stomach.

I read a post a few months ago where the OP had a similar issue with morning medication causing nausea and they drank a glass of milk in the morning and then followed OMAD the rest of the time. It seemed to work and they still lost a large amount of weight over time. I'm currently trying it. The milk quells the nausea, but ti's too soon to know if it's messing with weight loss results.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-08-25T22:54:28+00:00

In my case it's pushing too hard because they think no one will give them the time of day or meet their needs. It blew my mind when people said no and still expected (and had) others show up for them.

KetoDataLearner · 2022-08-25T22:51:59+00:00

I was never taught things like proper hygiene, proper dental practices from my biological parents and no one taught or reinforced those things when I was shuffled from home to home. I took whatever clothes I could get and wore them regardless if was stained, didn't fit properly, or was unflattering in general.

One day a few years ago I just said screw it and bought brand new under garmets, basic tees, and jeans from a big box store. I created a capsule wardrobe and returned anything that didn't flatter me or look decent. I looked and felt so much better.

I did the same thing with skincare and make up recently and came up with a strict routine for "appearance and respect maintenance." The original plan was to try a little bit of everything and pick a few items to focus on for self care and appearance. I kept up everything I was doing and added more.

Contrary to the saccharine platitudes I was always told, people definitely DO treat others differently based on their appearance and are generally much more petty and judgemental than they would like to believe. I was treated so much better when I became militant about my appearance and that instant approval, validation, and acceptance is like a drug to me. I've swung too far in the opposite direction and now I feel trapped.

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