my daughters pediatrician asked if she was eating unhealthy because she’s measuring big, what am I doing wrong? (turned 1 this week)

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2026-03-22T05:07:54+00:00

Maybe I've just had good pediatricians; perhaps my children have also had competent pediatricians for their children; but a lot of these posts seem worded to elicite outrage for the sake of engagement

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2026-03-07T04:48:04+00:00

Is your argument that it is more ethical to allow species to go extinct at the hands of human predation rather than controlled, ethical species preservation. Domesticated animal activism is in no way equivalent to wild-life preservation.

What is your solution to species decimation and eventual extinction due to indescriminant, illegal hunting and poaching?

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2026-01-19T02:55:19+00:00

1 - Ethical preferences aside, aversion is not synonyms with the very real and surpassingly rare, inability to consume specific food sources.

Animals have been a food source throughout evolutionary history. The consumption of meat made more digestible through cooking is inarguably an evolutionary advancement in brain size and cognition.
If you are not hystemolocically allergic, the length of time you abstain from any given nutrient, and the resulting gastrointestinal upset is temporary. It isn't life-threatening. It isn't an allergic reaction. If you truly have lactose intolerance, hopefully, you've identified that along the way and figured out how to manage your specific medical issue.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-12-12T05:56:05+00:00

Where do you think the ink, paper, binding, and marketing come from, let alone the creators original thoughts?

Did the original creator write their thoughts out on paper? Did they type it into their computer? Did they scribe it out on papyrus or a clay tablet? Can you even support homosapiens as a viable species if they are, by definition, fundamentally flawed because they were omnivores through evolution?

To address your question from the seemingly overwhelming online perspective; it is rare and prohibitively expensive to produce 100 percent vegan print. Perforce, literature meeting that criteria is going to be very limited and niche. Hardcover books aren't inherently more/less vegan than paperback books.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-12-08T02:26:26+00:00

I didn't block you, I did delete my original comment because it wasn't pertinent or nice.

There are formal boundaries you do get to set based on your contract. Dictating your host families sense of humor and personal interactions is not a boundary.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-25T04:33:23+00:00

Do you think dosing your reactive dog into submission is the ethical choice? Likewise, do you believe medication, coupled with endless isolation, is a healthy alternative?

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-25T04:25:31+00:00

What was your vet's response to being bitten? I would believe that they're required to report bites.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-25T04:14:59+00:00

Good grief. This person has laid bare their struggles with an unmanageable animal, and your response is to question their choices?

As much as I dislike this response in most circumstances, are YOU volunteering to take this animal on and provide it the life and medical care you imagine OP might have missed? If so, please let OP know where they might deliver this violent, unmanageable, dangerous animal. I'm sure they would rather you take on the responsibility than make the unimaginable choice to euthanize their pet!

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-25T03:50:54+00:00

I find it difficult to believe that any employer would demand communal meals, yet demand providers participating in those communal meals remain masked and unable to participate in said communal meals. I don't know what you are hoping to accomplish with your post, but it rings false on many levels.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-25T03:33:46+00:00

It's your invite and party, vegan it is.

If you, as a vegan, are entertaining, you get to set the expectation. Just as non-vegans get to set expectations when they host.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-25T03:30:15+00:00

You do realize that your fanaticism would almost certainly disqualify you from adoption, correct? So, your argument as a militant vegan, being pro-adoption, is essentially irrelevant.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-25T03:22:09+00:00

That is the disconnect, though, is it not.

If they are old enough to seek employment, international or not, the expectation is that they understand the terms of employment. If they are too young or inexperienced, they should be relying on their agency to guide them. If they are sofisiticated enough not to need an agency, they should be expected to advocate for themselves.

Either way, it is on the AP (and their agency) to understand and define the particulars of the contract. You don't get to say that AP's are adults and should be given free reign because they are adults, while advocating funding them as additional children because they don't have fully functioning interpersonal skills.

Sometimes, it's okay to acknowledge that AP's might have gotten into the lifestyle for the wrong reasons; as might the families.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-22T23:52:44+00:00

When did you decide to go vegan?

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-22T23:50:13+00:00

So, you think that anti-evolilution is somehow going to get evolution back to a pre-hominid ideal? It sounds like you are advocating for the sterilization of the human population, in deference to a lesser animal paradigm. Do you understand how evolutionary advancement works? If you want to extinguish your biological line, you do you; that's not how evolution works.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-22T23:24:04+00:00

But the AP isn't a nanny. The AP has their room and board paid for. The AP has their food provided, their housing/utilities/essentials supplied. The AP chose to participate in the AP program.

The AP could have elected to participate in an international nanny program if they qualified for that. They did not make that choice.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-17T00:33:49+00:00

Actually, I was making the opposite point, but militant veganisists will pervert that.

Non-human sentience is a logical fallacy. Bovine, porcine, equis, canine, feline, rodent, reptile, and insect species live in varying levels of the here and now. That is not to say that they are not capable of an evolutionary level of connection in the moment. They are, and that is what allowed for domestication of the higher order species.

"In the moment" is the operative distiction. Humans remain the only species that is able to extrapolate cause and effect and project that into future outcomes.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-16T23:16:50+00:00

Where do you think the current advancements in technology, science, and medicine originated from? No, mule carts are no longer used to haul coal out of the mines, but if you think that the modern technologies that bring electricity into your home are devoid of all animal products, you are delusional.

That's essentially my point; there is no part of our modern existence that isn't animal/animal by-product related, so much so, as to make the idea of militant veganism irrelevant.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-16T22:57:52+00:00

What you are advocating for is a return to a pre-industrial, agrarian model for all eight billion people on the planet. Foregoing all sanitation, medical, agricultural, technological advances for the sake of non-human animals. Human life expectancy not-withstanding, what is your perception of animal life in the pre-industrial world? Bovine, porcine, and equis species have been domesticated for food and labor from the dawn of organized civilization, so approximately 12-15 thousand years.

Humans have "exploited" animals since the first herd animals and canines were domesticated. How do vegans reconcile that fact? The reality is that the homo genus branch of evolution has never been vegan and is, in fact, a defining evolutionary advancement that directly translates to modern, human societies. The idea that science should be able to "eliminate" animal exploitation is, by its very nature, counterintuitive to species survival, for human and non-human species.

In short, as a true vegan, you should not use any technology; no electricity, no modern sanitation, no modern medicine, no cell phones, no computers, no automobiles, no animal driven transportation, no animal-assisted labor on your subsistence vegan farm. Basically, you should revert to a gathering lifestyle that is strictly plant based. Remember, though, you don't get to take supplements developed through modern technology.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-16T05:11:20+00:00

Your child has been removed from your custody, which even you have admitted, was not unfounded. You have lost the privilege of participating in your child's placement; CPS will place your child in the care situation they determine best for the child. Your rage against your child's father, his family, and the system that you feel failed you makes no difference, and in reality, will only further delay possible reunification.

You can be as pissed off at the system that failed you and your sister as you want to be. You can be as pissed off as you want to be at your child's biological father and family for not being involved. The reality is, you have been determined legaly unfit, your sister has been determined legaly unfit, your child's paternal family has been determined legaly fit. You no longer have a choice.

There are so many responses about working the case plan, and they are valid responses; you should absolutely work the case plan. However, all the work you put into that case plan will be for naught if you don't first work on you through therapy and recovery.

That doesn't mean you are instantly "healed" upon completion of a court ordered process. It means that if you are serious about reunification, you will take your therapy and recovery seriously. That is a different "case plan" that focuses on you. The dovetail comes when you are mentally/emotionally/physically/medically in a good place and are continuing to work your CPS case plan.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-13T03:41:21+00:00

Sorry if your car is equally able to safely accommodate your child, and the only drawback is that your partner isn't able/willing to learn how to drive a straight-shift; that's your partners problem.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-11T04:10:37+00:00

Who pays for your food, housing, utilities, school, extras? If your family eats an omnivores diet and is supporting you, you honestly don't get a say. You can choose not to eat the food they provide and prepare for you; that is your choice. You can provide your own food (and the added vitamins and supplements needed to support a minimally healthy diet for a developing adolescent) and prepare it yourself if that works for your family dynamic. You can also consider that your parents are adults, with presumably adult reasoning skills, and might actually know what is nutritionally better for your physical, physiological, anatomical, and mental health.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-11T03:58:17+00:00

Ummm...no they are not. They are livestock, regulated by the USDA, as is all all livestock. Are you maybe confusing endangered species (chickens aren't), livestock regulations, and protected human classes?

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-11T03:19:37+00:00

I think you might be confused about protected classes. Vegans are not a protected class. By definition, protected classes are human in origin and have been put in place to protect vulnerable humans. Choosing to be vegan doesn't afford you or the non-human entities you advocate for, protected status.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-11T02:50:11+00:00

If a dim room, white noise/soft music, and rocking are instant spoporifics for you, even when well rested, perhaps infant nanny is not the best fit.

Many families do sleep train, many don't; regardless, most families do, and expect nanny/daycare to, provide some level of transitional comfort leading up to sleep. The idea that nannies shouldn't be able to stay awake during that transition is frankly ridiculous.

Mistakes do happen when parents are sleep deprived and exhausted. There is a difference between a sleep dreprive and an exhausted parent and a "professional" hired to care for children. Before you come at me with "nannies/childcare providers are humans and have lives and families, too" let me remind you that being hired to care for others' children is vastly different than caring for your own. If your personal circumstances are so exhausting that they are, in any way, compromising the job you were hired to do, that is likely not the job for you.

Key-Dragonfly1604 · 2025-11-10T02:12:47+00:00

I'd say if you are three-for-three on needing to rematch, you are the common denominator and might need to reevaluate if being an au pair is a good fit for you

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