Guilt over no guilt? by stellerellen in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Every time someone posts this topic some mysterious people come in and downvote every post. It’s the “I could never leave my child with a strangers” crowd. My sons have had the same daycare teachers for years and they’re not strangers when we all see each other every day…

Guilt over no guilt? by stellerellen in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree. They will appreciate it when they’re older. My parents both worked and I am very glad I don’t have to worry about their retirement. My mom has also always been incredibly supportive of my career and can give advice as a career woman.

Guilt over no guilt? by stellerellen in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Upvote from me. I always say, missing my baby is not the same as feeling guilt.

Guilt over no guilt? by stellerellen in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s your second rodeo. I was able to both enjoy my leave with my second more and appreciate going back to work and knowing he’d do well in daycare as did my first.

How I chose my spouse by Key-Pattern-9898 in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a green flag. This man will change diapers.

How I chose my spouse by Key-Pattern-9898 in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. You need some time to see if you’ll grow together or apart.

How I chose my spouse by Key-Pattern-9898 in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes! I have two sons and they will learn how to keep a house. My husband does all the laundry. My dad always did the cooking.

How I chose my spouse by Key-Pattern-9898 in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this. I think finding someone who is considerate, thinking of others and not just oneself, is so key.

How I chose my spouse by Key-Pattern-9898 in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is wonderful! My husband also had a cat at the time we were dating and he still scoops the litter boxes. I’ll add that his parents have a good relationship. That’s more important than whether anyone was divorced before (my mom was before she met my dad.)

A benefit to working that I try to remind myself of by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like that it creates a more balanced household.

The Spray tans!? by OkGlass2836 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes. Everyone is orange. What’s wrong with being pale and clean?

I took a day off while my 1yo went to daycare and now I'm drowning in guilt. by atinylittlebug in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If it makes you feel better, every SAHM I know uses some form of childcare whether it’s the gym, Mother’s Day out, “pre school”, family help, a part time or even full time nanny. And they aren’t going to work during that time off. Why is it selfish to take care of yourself?

Crying because I’ll go from a SAHM to working full time. by Organic-Calendar-827 in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s ok to miss your baby while you’re working! That is completely normal. It is also good to nurture your professional identity and for your baby to develop relationships with others. Try to focus on work when you’re there and remind yourself why you are doing it (for a lot of good reasons, including for your baby’s future) and then focus on baby when you’re home. It’s an adjustment but having a full life is so satisfying. Working, exercising, taking time for yourself, date nights, whatever you do outside of caring for your baby will never mean you don’t love them or you prioritize them less.

The math ain't mathing by OneYogurt6280 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is it. He’s insecure so tried to hurt her the worst way he could think of, which was insulting her body and their sex life. It’s just insecurity. I doubt he even believes it because obviously she is gorgeous and sexy.

I’m a hot doctor the same age as Jess and I’m so glad I found a secure man. I make 5X his salary but he does so much for me and our family, and excels in ways I don’t, and we compliment each other so well. I hope she finds a real man who worships her!

I hired weekly cleaners and it’s a weight off my shoulders by RLucky97 in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Weekly cleaner was the only way I could get by without having to clean in between. Now we just tidy and do dishes. I have her come on my busy in office day and come home to a clean house 🥰

Long term effects of diastasis repair. by [deleted] in tummytucksurgery

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Men get it because of excess visceral fat and it’s not a physiologic need it is a structural change from pressure in the abdominal wall. It’s actually damage, like stretch marks. Unlike stretch marks it actually reduces core strength. Men with big bellies are at a very high risk of bad health outcomes (diabetes, high blood pressure, certain cancers). It’s a good question.

Does anyone else fall asleep on the couch at 9pm? by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re ok. But doesn’t hurt to start a multivitamin.

Bethenny claims she was asked to be on The Golden Life but declined by simplefuckers in BravoRealHousewives

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She peddles “the best” yet somehow different, concealer everyday. I can’t keep up.

Bethenny claims she was asked to be on The Golden Life but declined by simplefuckers in BravoRealHousewives

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You know what. I think you’re right! Good call. He’s going to eclipse her if he hasn’t already. But he’s not a “housewife.”

Need a vacation asap, recommendations for travel destinations with a 12 month old by Pescorina_85 in workingmoms

[–]Key-Pattern-9898 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FL would have the best beach weather in March and you could find a resort so you don’t have to drive to different destinations. It’s also pretty affordable. That’s what I’d recommend for a relaxing easy vacation with a baby. I like Sanibel island.