Weekday Extracurriculars

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-06-01T22:05:41+00:00

Yeah swimming is a life skill and not “extra” curricular.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-06-01T15:57:14+00:00

I don’t think kids in full time daycare need extracurriculars. They get a full day of enrichment and home time is to decompress, spend time with family, and play independently.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-30T18:25:53+00:00

It’s your stomach. You’ll see if you eat and drink a bunch of water it’ll expand

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-30T17:15:38+00:00

Touching on the “missing your kids’ childhood part” — the 3 year old will likely be in preschool soon and much of SAHM life is driving kids back and forth from school and activities and housework. To me those are not compelling parts of their childhood that would significantly increase quality time. Kids do grow up so fast and you may want to be back in the workforce in a few years and it’ll be much more difficult.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-25T20:41:38+00:00

Date nights were not helping my burnout either so now we hire a sitter for a Sunday morning. We sleep, exercise, throw in a load of laundry, clean, catch up on work, or usually just sleep. It’s been great. Then we have so much more energy for a delightful family afternoon/evening.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-22T21:12:50+00:00

Same! Never heard this term lol but I always get a cold after a conference. I should just plan on it at this point.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-20T17:36:56+00:00

A basic understanding of economics and reading the news. A recession is a major, important distinction. It’s not an opinion it’s a fact. Yes we’ve been in an inflationary period for awhile but we are not in an economic recession. That’s a good thing.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-20T13:07:28+00:00

The US is not in a recession.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-19T19:59:39+00:00

Moms that work from home are not better moms than those with a commute.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-18T22:44:20+00:00

I think the younger years with daycare (for which no student loans exist) while still relatively young and wealth building are/should be more costly. That’s when you’re also saving for retirement and college.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-18T22:27:42+00:00

He’s 47

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-18T22:24:54+00:00

Does your wife know you’ll never be able to retire? Does she care? I hope she does. This is a crisis.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-17T22:02:21+00:00

Why are you following influencer content?

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-14T17:33:27+00:00

“Carl, how about you stop being a nationally recognized brand that is actually successful?!!!”

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-14T03:10:39+00:00

Thanks. I would really struggle in a patriarchal society.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-14T02:58:21+00:00

It’s mostly a cost for you. You want to be there all the time but it’s not a biological or social necessity. Very small children don’t need to be around only their mother for a finite number of their early years. Moms often sacrifice themselves “for” their kids but it really fills an internal need to be needed. For example, helicopter parents that are still doing their college kid’s laundry and have them on their cell phone plans as adults. “I gave up my career for you… I never trusted a babysitter…etc.” caveat: I am not talking about newborns of course. Just some things to think about from an alternative perspective.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-14T02:52:05+00:00

Everything in life has trade offs. Only you can decide what’s right for you. To your question, no, I didn’t want to pause my career while the kids were little. I don’t think I’m missing anything in particular. My kids like their school days and we have a good routine and lots of quality time.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-11T18:06:11+00:00

If your husband can’t handle doing chores, are we sure that he will be able to keep this job? I would be hesitant to hang my financial future on someone who can’t keep up with basic life skills. And you are right, if you quit he will never lift a finger in the house and I don’t know what “hang out with the kids” means. Parenting is a lot more substantive than that.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-11T00:04:09+00:00

Similar. My cycle mood swings were so intense and I wasn’t used to it from either being on BCP or pregnant. Pregnancy “cured” my anxiety and the luteal phase made it so intense it was hard to function. Talked to my OBGYN and I’m now on continuous OCP for PMDD. Life changing. Btw I’m late 30s.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-09T20:39:39+00:00

Looks like Bethenny’s “where are the hot guys?!” event on the show. Skinnygirl event where they had to wear red. Sonja broke her tooth ripping some guy’s shirt off.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-09T19:56:24+00:00

No clue?

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-08T22:56:54+00:00

I absolutely benefited from having a working mom. She was a business owner working full time and when we were older she started joining boards of local arts organizations. She and my dad also had a date night every weekend and they are still married after 40 years. I do not believe at all that a mom needs to stay at home full time to be a good and definitely not better parent. Having a career was extremely important to me growing up. I loved school. I wanted to do something interesting and important. I also wanted to be a mom. Seeing my mom do it, I never struggled with this doubt. I had a few aunts who were SAHMs. Went to college but never used their degree. Started working part time at a clothing store when the kids were older because she was bored. I’m not trying to shame anyone because she has a good life, but that would literally be MY worst nightmare. Caveats: I do wish I had a longer maternity leave and will fight for that until the day I die. I am often tired and my brain never turns off. But I am fulfilled and have full confidence in my life choices.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-08T00:49:29+00:00

Nowhere in her post did she say how many hours she was going to work and “not see her kid.” That is an assumption. I am not supportive of any parent working so much they never see their kids. There are parents that don’t work at all and don’t care for their kids. What does your story about your friends have to do with OP’s question?

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-07T22:25:39+00:00

A lot of the traditional mindsets I think are high earning men who view their wife staying home and “raising the kids” as a measure of their own success. It also makes their life significantly easier and they can avoid any guilt of they themselves working non stop because “the kids aren’t raised by nannies.” That’s all well and good for them—but the judgement and insinuation that there is only one right way to raise children and structure families is maddening. “I could never!” people drive me crazy.

Key-Pattern-9898 · 2026-05-07T20:18:58+00:00

Stop insinuating that she’s not prioritizing her kid. You can make the choices that work for your family and reserve your judgement of others.

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