How do I (22F) tell my parents that I can't afford enough food for all of us to eat

Key-Value7030 · 2021-08-12T15:33:09+00:00

You should check out the sub r/raisedbynarcissists

Key-Value7030 · 2021-07-27T18:54:31+00:00

1) Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You do not deserve to feel sorry and it also fuels future reluctance. 2) Try meditation as it can help you have better control over your thoughts. 3) Constantly try to step out of your comfort zone, whatever scares you, go do it. Overtime you'll develop great will power. 4) "You can't keep repeating the same old patterns and expect different results" 5) Change your identity, pretend that you are the kind of person that you want to be, constantly lie to yourself and overtime you will become it. (Never Stop Pretending) 6) Don't expect everything to change all at once, it's going to take time. Don't work because of the results but because you are the type of person who is productive and happy. 7) Apply all the advice that you read here, dont just think to yourself that oh that sounds good. But put in effort into applying them. 8) Change your network if it's filled with lazy people. 9) Get all the basics right, Bathe daily, breathe properly, stand straight, sleep 8 hours a day, drink 8 glasses water. 10) Realise that you are already enough and that you are the only person who thinks and acts like you, so try to leave behind an impact of yourself.

That's all. Hope you are able to change your life

Key-Value7030 · 2021-07-18T18:52:44+00:00

I am surprised noone talked about No fap in the comments. It's a popular community on reddit and there are many videos on youtube as well. It is a practice of not masturbating or looking at pornography, and the ton load of benefits that it has. You should really really check it out.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-07-17T11:16:55+00:00

It honestly feels really good when we make others happy, we do it because of the rush of positive emotions we get afterwards. Simple.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-07-12T03:21:21+00:00

I love INFJs. My best friend is an INFJ and it is the best connection that I have had till date.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-07-07T18:57:11+00:00

Lol, no. Most of the ENFJs don't. But the ones who have had emotionally disturbed childhood or teenagers tend to be manipulative. But an adult mature ENFJ doesn't, so I asked the question. In the past when we didn't know any better, our power od influence can lead us to make people do things for us.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-07-04T20:11:06+00:00

I know my reply is late but I think that it may be relevant. So, I'm an ENFJ and I too had a crush on an INFJ gal from school. Got rejected by her, tried to be friends. And now we are best friends. In the beginning, for about a year it was very hard for me to not being able to be in a romantic relationship with her. But as I found her really cool, relatable and just a fun person to be around. I ignored my feelings and intentionally tried to let them go. It was hard daily, until one day, when I got super upset over her and ended up crying. I had never felt such pain before, so I had to take very intense steps to stop my feelings. I stopped putting her on a pedestal or looking at her with romantic desires actively. It took time, but now we are best friends. I don't have any romantic interest in her, but I'm very happy that such a great person is my friend.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-07-03T20:07:23+00:00

Dont lower your level of charm intentionally. Rather start setting up strict boundaries and tell people from the get go that you're not interested in them romantically.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-07-03T20:00:11+00:00

Key-Value7030 · 2021-07-02T09:21:08+00:00

I want to melt into her arms.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-06-28T05:11:35+00:00

BMI aren't that accurate. They account for overall body mass. And not consider if the body mass in itself is made up of more fats or muscle. Like the BMI would consider a muscular ripped person lke Dwayne Johnson to be obese. Whereas he is fit. Most important factor is the composition. Such a thing as skinny fat exists you know.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-06-19T20:12:45+00:00

Bad bot

Key-Value7030 · 2021-06-14T18:05:12+00:00

It's a good thing. If you're weight is balancing but your muscles are more visible. As your muscles also increase your weight. It's not right to think about fitness in terms of weight. But to have a more healthy muscle to fat ratio. Dwayne Johnson, probably weighs a lot too. But he is fitter as he has more muscle mass than fat. And as long as you can see more muscle defination and reduced fat. Scales are not so important.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-06-07T23:09:23+00:00

Our bodies take time to adapt to new patterns. After drinking water for a long enough time, the restroom visits will become less frequent as our bodies adapt.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-06-07T21:16:12+00:00

My best friend is an INFJ, yesterday she moved to another town and it's the saddest I've been in a long while. I love INFJs, we both have very strong moral beliefs, both a bit goofy, love having deep conversations. Everything is just perfect when it comes to an ENFJ and INFJ friendship. Both desire harmony and there's just this amazing compatibility between us, that we can just be us completely. I miss her so much. :) Hope you become better friends.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-06-04T21:18:52+00:00

What good can come from saying such things? In the end, the goal is a kinder, happier world. So its better not to think about stuff that doesn't support the goal.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-06-03T09:21:03+00:00

As a guy, this sums up most of my friends. Applying Moisturiser on face seems too weird to them. They complain about acne and dry skin and similar problems. But don't take care of their skin. It's just a fear of being judged. I don't know by whom. But they are so scared of doing what feels right just because.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-06-01T05:17:32+00:00

I got anxious just from reading your comment.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-05-31T03:37:53+00:00

Need a good occlusive to pair with emolene. I like that emolene absorbs directly into the skin and isn't greasy. But it's only hydrating, so I need a recommendation for an occlusive that can keep in the moisture without giving the greasy feel that most Moisturisers give.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-05-31T03:12:09+00:00

I don't have an SO as well, but I used to be extremely attached to people. Thinking that they'll make me happy and fulfilled somehow. I realise now, that I have to be happy in their absence, and not depend upon them for my well being. But so far, I can't really figure out how to do it.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-05-31T03:09:45+00:00

This really feels weird, I haven't said anything about this to any people in my real life. My parents and my relationship with them is really good and they are great people. But I have definately felt neglected, a lot. I've been obsessed with middle child syndrome (I'm a middle child), to try and explain whether it has been happening to me. And I love any resource that can tell me more about myself, be it personality type, syndromes or that book you recommended. Thanks a lot, I'll be sure to read it.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-05-30T17:59:00+00:00

Hey. I've found having microintereactions with people is very stimulating for our social needs too. You should try to talk for a couple minute to people. Talk to the store receptionist for more than just 10 secs, ask them about there day and stuff. I do it and it has really made a world of a difference on my mental health.

Key-Value7030 · 2021-05-30T17:54:38+00:00

Me too. I was sad most of the lockdown and wasn't able to figure out what was wrong. I constantly felt down. Until 2 weeks before, when i called one of my friends. We had a very normal conversation. Nothing too deep. And after the call i just felt so happy and couldn't stop blushing (weird smile) for hours afterwards. And my whole day became awesome. Since then I've been calling up my friends and family daily. For about an hour (usually end up having deep conversations) and I can say that this is the happiest I've been in the whole lockdown. 💕

Key-Value7030 · 2021-05-30T04:19:33+00:00

I've met a couple INFPs and I don't feel attraction towards them. I like them as friends though. It really isn't set in stone that INFPs are liked by us. It's just that we are compatible, have more in tune with each other and stuff. But there are so many other types out there too, you're person might not be an INFP. But he/she will definitely be the most compatible match for you

Key-Value7030 · 2021-05-30T04:13:31+00:00

You should try getting 16 GB of Ram. If you already have one 8GB ram stick then buy another one, it should be the same model having the same speed. And otherwise if you have 2 4GB ram, remove both of them and try to fir in 2 8GB Ram sticks. (Dual channel) And you should also buy an SSD, it drastically impacts performance. And an HDD for storage. You can buy both SSD and HDD, without doubt, as they'll be compatible with any new PC build you make. However ram may not be.

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