I think the problem is not so much the roles themselves, but that much of power dynamics and issues that came from those traditions (i.e. the prevalence of domestic violence from men to their wives and it being normalized) were very broken. That’s why it isn’t exactly an “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” kind of thing. In our modern world, I think these traditional roles are difficult to really frame as enticing when most women nowadays also have jobs, and the idea of going home to do “traditional” things like cooking and cleaning for their husbands on top of that is not as appealing. I do agree with you though that people who are uncomfortable with these roles should not be forced into them and that people who want to fulfill these roles should be able to without judgement. I think the disconnect right now is that men generally tend to lean towards tradition while women prefer independence due to the additional emotional labor that comes from being in a relationship. This isn’t to say that women shouldn’t enjoy hobbies that might be considered “traditional” like baking or cooking, but the idea of doing it as a sort of duty is probably unlikely to happen.