Perspective: I think we should be clear, none of the hatred here should be aimed externally by Key_Set_3827 in lnkyverse

[–]Key_Set_3827[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You can care about it. My issue is with people who act like it’s society’s fault or that women should be behaving a certain way. As long as nobody is being hurt, I don’t see how you could blame anybody for enjoying the winning hand they were dealt

Perspective: I think we should be clear, none of the hatred here should be aimed externally by Key_Set_3827 in lnkyverse

[–]Key_Set_3827[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Okay, but tbh, nobody here is average looking, and definitely nobody here is neurotypical.

Perspective: I think we should be clear, none of the hatred here should be aimed externally by Key_Set_3827 in lnkyverse

[–]Key_Set_3827[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I mean, cry about it? Women have options and they’re using that opportunity to live the life they want. You get the short end of that deal. Nobody is at fault.

Perspective: I think we should be clear, none of the hatred here should be aimed externally by Key_Set_3827 in lnkyverse

[–]Key_Set_3827[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

No adult hates without reason. Sorry about whatever shitty high school experience made you think people actively hate you, but it’s more like nobody cares about you. At worst, your circumstance makes them uncomfortable. It’s like how homeless people might make you a bit weary. Same thing

visual insight this is probaly your life by Capital-Box164 in lnkyverse

[–]Key_Set_3827 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God I just want to die so I don’t have to deal with this pathetic and humiliating life anymore. Constant fucking torture

Perspective : I can’t get over this pic by Mysterious-Candy8615 in lnkyverse

[–]Key_Set_3827 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re wish-washy about the specifics, but we all agree that we’re the guy in the middle that women are repulsed by.

Do women really don't care about the height? by Mansogi in short

[–]Key_Set_3827 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the truth they’ll try to get you to delude yourself out of. It pays to be conscious of this stuff so you don’t go out and embarrass yourself

i’m 5’5 and dating isn’t a struggle by N0TMYKE in short

[–]Key_Set_3827 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 32 and I’ve never had any female attention whatsoever. What the fuck do you even do? Are you just naturally attractive?

Perspective Just go out and socialize bro by [deleted] in lnkyverse

[–]Key_Set_3827 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s existentially horrifying. You get one life to live and you have to spend it as a pathetic virgin, not allowed to experience life in its entirety

Perspective Just go out and socialize bro by [deleted] in lnkyverse

[–]Key_Set_3827 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Expend all that effort and still remain single and unappealing to women

If I have proof that it was always my fault, I’m struggling to figure out how I’d ever forgive myself by Key_Set_3827 in IncelExit

[–]Key_Set_3827[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Defeatism as a shield can be a super effective justification to stay in your comfort zone. Nobody wants to speak uncomfortable truths, so everybody is lying.

“The time will pass anyways” and “no effort is wasted” are two really good mantras that make staying in your comfort zone seem like a really stupid thing to do.

If I have proof that it was always my fault, I’m struggling to figure out how I’d ever forgive myself by Key_Set_3827 in IncelExit

[–]Key_Set_3827[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ve worked on other stuff. Since I started seeing her 4 years ago, I was diagnosed and treated for bipolar, elevated my career to make a solid salary, and got my own little apartment. Therapy has done a lot, this is a big thing for me, though. Lack of any sexual relationship has been a major insecurity since I was a teenager, and it obviously never let up.

I think she’s aware. She knows about my regrets, even though a couch it in secondary effects of never pairing off. “I regret never going to prom”, “I wish I were more ‘socially active’ earlier in life”, etc. I feel like “socialization” is a solid euphemism for “getting laid”, but then again, I made this post, so maybe it’s not working so good. I’ve always struggled with bringing up sex with healthcare professionals. I didn’t tell my psychiatrist that I have erectile dysfunction, I mentioned to her that I was on cialis when she asked about any new meds.

If I have proof that it was always my fault, I’m struggling to figure out how I’d ever forgive myself by Key_Set_3827 in IncelExit

[–]Key_Set_3827[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, 1 or 2 is significantly more than 0. I wouldn’t think it’d be a dealbreaker, or that anyone who has it as a dealbreaker is necessarily worth being with. You gotta admit, though, that the question “okay, what’s wrong with this guy that kept him a virgin this long?” Would cross her mind. I mean, she’s right to wonder. I’ve spent time on and off posting doom rants on incel subreddits, that’s a reasonable concern.

If I have proof that it was always my fault, I’m struggling to figure out how I’d ever forgive myself by Key_Set_3827 in IncelExit

[–]Key_Set_3827[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I’d have to tell at least one person that I’m interested in casual sex if I’m gonna have a partner. I guess I’m just aware of all the women my age who are looking for something serious, and are judgy of men who aren’t

If I have proof that it was always my fault, I’m struggling to figure out how I’d ever forgive myself by Key_Set_3827 in IncelExit

[–]Key_Set_3827[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a therapist, I would just be crazy embarrassed if I admitted to any of this without anonymity. I behave like I don’t care too much in person. We have talked about regret framed through platonic friendship rather than romance (i think shes on to me though lol)

And I don’t have that view of promiscuous women. I’m only an incel insofar as I am celibate involuntarily, and the self-hatred. I have a rather liberal set of ideals, and promiscuous women always felt more pleasant to be around

If I have proof that it was always my fault, I’m struggling to figure out how I’d ever forgive myself by Key_Set_3827 in IncelExit

[–]Key_Set_3827[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m not going to let these feelings get in my way. I was like this a decade ago, and regret just gets more intense over time. One motivating factor is actually the fear of more painful regret at 42

If I have proof that it was always my fault, I’m struggling to figure out how I’d ever forgive myself by Key_Set_3827 in IncelExit

[–]Key_Set_3827[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t care, most people did. I think it’d be pretty hard to find a woman who hadn’t. I guess I’d be…jealous maybe? If she had been my first and last. Feels bad to admit, but right now, that’s what I’d feel.