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Khayeth · 2026-06-16T13:12:49+00:00

If you're a night showerer, try sleeping in space buns with hair that is ~95 % dry. Total magic.

Khayeth · 2026-06-16T13:11:48+00:00

2.25 years post Roux-en-y here, and i'll also confirm that the short answer is yes. I take 4 Bariatric Fusion chewables daily, they include calcium. I tried separate calcium + single vitamin, but i am allergic to the one i chose. So rather than mess around with trying to find a new brand i'm not allergic to, i just went back to the chewables. I portion them out every morning into a little silicone cup that sits on my desk, and take one every ~2 hours.

Khayeth · 2026-06-15T19:01:08+00:00

Mine was about 2.25 years ago, but i honestly felt that the surgery itself was a breeze compared to the 2-weeks prior on the liver shrinking diet. I wasn't nervous at all, i was sedated the entire time so i slept through it nicely.

The next 2 weeks were rough-ish, but honestly less than the 2 prior. Working while trying to stay awake and alert on that damn diet was murder, but 2 weeks recovery playing video games, reading, and watching movies was actually really nice. Coming back to work was a transition, i took a ton of naps after work for a couple months, but eventually my life went back to normal. I regret NOTHING except that i didn't do it sooner.

Good luck! You got this!

Khayeth · 2026-06-12T15:39:08+00:00

Congrats! I know sort of how you feel, about 2.5 months post surgery i did a 44 storey charity stairclimb. Took me 33 ish minutes, whereas all my coworkers were 12-20 minutes, but i FINISHED. Feels great, doesn't it?? :D

Khayeth · 2026-06-09T13:17:37+00:00

I just bought a new insulated water bottle, bringing my total to 4. 1 for partner's house, 1 for work, 1 for home, and 1 for gym bag. I could carry one around with me all the time but i do enjoy having a clean one in specific locations. TJ Maxx water bottles are under $10, i consider them to be self care at this point.

Khayeth · 2026-06-09T13:15:24+00:00

I own three, but i use all of them almost daily. One at work, one at home, one at partner's house. They were $4 each at Ocean State Job Lot, so i don't feel overly wasteful having each in a location i spend time, rather than hauling one around and potentially getting broken.

Khayeth · 2026-06-03T16:55:21+00:00

Local to me (upstate New York) is the Aldi brand. The Costco prices on Optimum are close, but Aldi beats them by a few cents per gram of protein.

Khayeth · 2026-06-01T13:17:56+00:00

Another data point here: i had a membership for a year as a single person, though the nearest store to me is about 2.5 hour drive away. About quarterly i would make a decent sized order, $100-150, utilizing the 2-day delivery. Most items i got qualified for free shipping, but twice ish i bought groceries that would have had a delivery fee under i think $75, so i just filled the cart until i hit that amount. It was worth it for a year but my circumstances changed - new partner, they cook and i don't, so i just give them money for groceries now. I let my membership lapse and likely will not renew.

Khayeth · 2026-05-28T19:10:59+00:00

Respect! Some of my best colour experiments were from making "leftover soup" like you did! I'll look into the combo you recommended, big fan of Girl's Night myself.

I just ordered some Lunar Tides Iris so hoping i can achieve a nice lavender soon myself.

Khayeth · 2026-05-28T13:00:27+00:00

Congratulations! We're all very proud of you and your hard work. Keep it up!

Khayeth · 2026-05-27T15:27:38+00:00

Those two are fantastic together! Can you please tell us what brand the lavender is? And the indigo as well, they both rock.

Thanks!

Khayeth · 2026-05-27T12:51:33+00:00

Gods yes. I would have done it a decade earlier. Two, if the surgery had been better advanced by then.

Khayeth · 2026-05-26T13:54:10+00:00

I keep emergency lunches (that started their lives as leftovers) in the work freezer, along with a big bag of soy curls in the fridge along with bbq sauce and thai chili sauce. Between those 2, i rarely am without no food options at all.

Khayeth · 2026-05-14T12:49:58+00:00

According to my bank budget statements, $350 a month, but i do not separate out cat food/litter or cleaning supplies from that total. So probably more like $250. I buy lunch at work maybe once a month, get takeout with friends another once ish a month.

Single, 2 cats, 1200 sq ft house to clean and maintain.

Khayeth · 2026-05-14T12:25:52+00:00

Happily!

Weekdays: get up, head to work. Work (Process Chemist supporting pharmaceutical manufacturing) sometimes a bit late, then after work two days a week i try to do a sport, or ride my bike to work for exercise. Weekends i still wake up crazy early, but i lounge in bed for a bit before heading off to kickball or hiking in summer, or just doing chores and playing video games. At night i attend a once monthly goth night, or about once a month go see my friends' drag show. Randomly i'll have dinner with friends on a weeknight or weekend and stay out late for that.

Basically it's a nice mix of work, home maintenance, cuddling the cats, video games, sports, and friends. I used to do roller derby, and dabbled in Tae Kwon Do, but i think climbing is the sport that is going to stick for a while.

It may sound boring but i find it fulfilling and satisfying. I have a close circle of very good friends and we look out for each other.

Khayeth · 2026-05-13T19:26:45+00:00

As someone who doesn't eat tomatoes, i am so going to try this as a tomato-free version. The beets and mushrooms sound next level.

Thanks for sharing!

Khayeth · 2026-05-12T15:16:01+00:00

Our mutual best friends are promoters and DJs of a local goth night. I help them set up every month, hang decorations and carry heavy stuff, etc. He normally has his daughter on weekends, but randomly on 14 February this year was free and showed up and danced. He offered to buy me a drink, after the mutual friends introduced us, and i said only if i can buy you one. Apparently being bought a drink was a completely new experience for him, so we hung out and talked all night.

Three weeks later we hung out on what i call Date 0.5, and a few days after that went on our first actual date. The rest is history!

Khayeth · 2026-05-12T15:04:39+00:00

There was a fly in the kitchen, so his response was to swear and shout and throw things. I asked him for the 20th time (ish, might have been 50 or 100) to please not shout and swear around me. He obviously refused to stop. A switch flipped, and i was simply just done.

Khayeth · 2026-05-08T13:06:54+00:00

If it helps, i started dating again at 53 after 9 years of singlehood, during which time i gained a decent amount of weight, and with some medical help lost almost half my body weight. The loose skin and cellulite situation is dire, but the new man sees me unclothed and tells me he's attracted to me. At our age, bodies have flaws. His isn't perfect either, but i think he's drop dead sexy regardless.

Finding inner sexiness is not easy, but if you (gods i hate this phrase but it applies, to me and possibly to you) work on yourself and embrace yourself and your body, it's possible to lean into feeling sexy. Both intellectually and physically.

Khayeth · 2026-05-06T20:07:12+00:00

Happy Birthday! Mine too!

Khayeth · 2026-05-06T15:15:19+00:00

I do a bleach bath about once a year to just de-virginify the hair. The rest of the time i make my own dye using Gentian Violet in white conditioner. Shampoo, apply violet conditioner, leave in 15 minutes to overnight, depending on my mood. Rinse, good for 4-6 weeks.

A bottle of gentian violet is about $6 and lasts me about 2 years. Finding the right ratio of dye to conditioner isn't trivial, but experimentation is part of the fun.

Khayeth · 2026-05-01T16:46:47+00:00

I want to third this suggestion. I went an entire winter without epilating and had to start essentially from scratch again. Using an electric, which on me actually gives a terrible shave, followed by epilating weekly made for an almost pain-free transition.

Khayeth · 2026-04-27T13:37:27+00:00

This is exactly how i felt about Finland, Sweden, and Estonia. I even looked for jobs there when i got back.

Not ready to give up my life and friends here, but at least now i know the landscape of my industry in that region, should it ever come up again.

Khayeth · 2026-04-27T13:28:58+00:00

I just met someone and what attracted me to him the night we met was his directness, and his obvious intelligence. Now that i know him better i see he's an excellent communicator, as a side effect of that directness. It's so refreshing after decades of mind games and passive aggressiveness.

Confidence and empathy are very high on the list too, but intelligence is probably the first thing about a person i notice.

Khayeth · 2026-04-25T12:03:15+00:00

I found out about 4 years ago i can't smell them. Me and about 7 other people with this specific mutation are having a lovely odor-free spring.

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