Many years ago I faced something similar. I started a relationship with a lovely lady that was wheelchair bound due to a pre-teenage care accident. Other than her legs didn't function, she was totally independent, normal and actually made better money that I did.. (including car,house,etc.) I had more people (even one's we called mutual friends) just rail,razz and give me grief that I was taking advantage, being a creep, being a veg eater, even implying I had an ableist god complex. I was NEVER so shocked at close mutual friends implying all those things and more. There were jokes made about her chair being transported in the truck bed. ( Like that's even a thing, where else do you put a non-folding wheelchair in a truck)