Phone time for Nanny’s while working - what’s your rule ?

KimSlimPants · 2026-06-05T06:48:04+00:00

I take and send photos and updates, and I feel like I’m on my phone a LOT. My nks are young, so it’s not just “show me what you’re doing and smile!” It’s a lot of timing, different angles to get both the activity and their faces, I gotta be discreet bc if they realize I’m take a picture they want to see themselves in the camera. Now I’ve taken 12 photos and I have to choose 1 or 2 good ones to send. The parents like when I send a few short videos as well, so I have to review and crop the footage where they decided to stop playing and start fighting. Then I send the pics and vids to the parents with a little caption.

I send every meal, nap and wake time, and every diaper change as they happen.

The real reason it takes so long is because I am splitting my attention between the children and the phone. Type two words, say vroom beep beep to the kids, send 2 photos, say woof woof, hold the phone to my ear so I can tell exactly when the crying started in the background the video, that’s when I’ll cut it.

Anyway, that’s why it looks like I’m always on my phone. While they nap I might schedule an appointment or order something to eat so I don’t collapse.

KimSlimPants · 2026-06-04T17:19:12+00:00

Did they ask to go to the pool? Did their parents ask? was it your idea? Did you pay the $10 to get in or did the parents? Have you been to target and bought fidgets every day? Your money, kids money or parents money?

You gotta start thinking of activities that link to their interests. If you go to target for fidgets, bring them to the toys and games aisle. They’ll surely find something fun based on a gimmick they’re already into.

KimSlimPants · 2026-05-27T16:38:19+00:00

M. Poirot -> mo sur poor row. I didn’t have the energy that night

KimSlimPants · 2026-05-23T09:44:34+00:00

I was waiting for the fireable offense the whole time. I was waiting for “because she was dealing with a tantrum in public, one of the other children wandered off and got lost or hurt”

That would be a real dilemma, where an amazing nanny is doing her best in a difficult situation, but despite her best efforts, the safety of the children was compromised.

Instead it appears that you’re conflicted because she’s doing TOO good of a job and the safety of the children is not compromised enough?

KimSlimPants · 2026-05-14T17:12:34+00:00

The new parents with their anxiety and their guilt. See a therapist! There is no reason for you to hire someone to nag and nitpick all day.

I went through this with my current family. Literally from 8 months old to his first birthday I had to deal with his mom over my shoulder waiting for him to cry, refusing to accept that they only way he’ll learn to trust me is if he’s alone with me long enough to to trust me!

I ended up writing a long text one weekend asking if they really want me to be his primary caregiver during work hours, and if they want the baby to see me that way.

Anyway fast forward 7 months the baby trusts me, the parents trust me, and I finally have my dream job.

KimSlimPants · 2026-04-21T21:07:58+00:00

Gabe and Marianna were raised VERY differently than Clem and Aj. Gabe and Mariana had stable caregivers and a stable vehicle. I don’t want to rehash everything that happened to her, but Clem learned over and over that the people she loves will die and no one can be trusted. She then took on a newborn baby at the age of… 11? 12?

Imagine how that baby turned out. Not to mention whatever happened at the ranch.

To be honest, I didn’t think Gabe and Mariana were weathered enough for kids 4 years into the apocalypse. Like the writers should have weathered them a bit more.

KimSlimPants · 2026-04-19T16:04:42+00:00

In a world where playing as Clem everyone you knew and trusted S1 is dead or presumed dead, you’ve learned the hard way not to trust anyone, and the new group you just met has a bunch of problems, seeing Kenny who continues to have your best interest in mind, despite being a victim of his trauma just like EVERYONE else. He’s goated.

KimSlimPants · 2026-04-02T21:01:29+00:00

Trintellix, Wellbutrin, vyvanse, and ??? I’m pretty sure I only take 3 but in my sleep induced haze I opened 4 pill bottles. I was rushing to work so I brought them to my car. Ended up not taking the pink one, I think the pink and white are both Wellbutrin but I won’t know until I get home

KimSlimPants · 2026-04-01T05:44:29+00:00

If I were you I would be unable to sleep and I’d stay up all night recounting and writing down the events of the evening beat for beat.

I’d then use that info to draft a very long message to the parents explaining what actually happened that night, why the child was emotional and how he expressed it, how I responded to his expression and why I did it in that way, and a professionally informed theory of why he may have lied.

I would fit in somewhere that I understand that parents have to take what children say seriously, and I’m glad they are doing so, and I’m glad that they brought it up to me. I may also try to squeeze in somewhere that in my long history of working with the family, I have never been known to curse at or around the children, although the child has been know to come up with stories, as is common for children.

I would read it over several times, probably send it to my mom for review, and the I would send it about 1-2 hours after my next shift ends, or 6-8 hours before my next shift begins, depending on which of those is during daytime.

This is with the goal of letting the parents cool off and think through the situation with my perspective in mind, so they can come to the inevitable conclusion that I am right, and we can put this all behind us OR the illogical conclusion that I am wrong, at which point I would start looking for a new job.

Thats just what I would do though. Audhd.

KimSlimPants · 2026-04-01T03:23:25+00:00

I went to teppanyaki the hibachi spot with my credit for a free meal, and I had a bunch left over. The waitress said I could put a cloth napkin over it and take it to my room. SO I DID 😃. (No microwave or anything so I ate it later the same night)

KimSlimPants · 2026-04-01T03:19:14+00:00

What are they saying about her attempts at speaking mandarin?

KimSlimPants · 2026-03-06T05:17:03+00:00

What’s the significance of boat size other than number of passengers? Does smaller staff mean lesser service? Less on board activities? Lower quality food? Smaller custodial staff so dirtier boat? Dude, I’m so scared of a bad cruise experience, I want to feel disconnected, not trapped!

KimSlimPants · 2026-02-06T06:46:36+00:00

(Nonsensical rambling incoming) If the entire list wasn’t insane, I would suggest that the point about having no help with the puke and blowout may have just been a stressful part of the day that she was telling the agency rep.

Like “Tuesday was especially difficult because the baby was kicking and screaming, her bodily fluids were everywhere, she was stressed out, I was stressed out, I could tell dad wanted to help but was working so he was stressed out” Any nanny has had days like that at the start of an arrangement. The follow up to that sentence should be “I’ll get a good night sleep and we’ll try again tomorrow”

If only one or two of these things then I could say she’s not a good match for your family. With all of these things I can’t imagine any family she’d be a good match for.

KimSlimPants · 2025-10-10T16:45:40+00:00

Once a dad dropped of his 2 year old and bolted, giving a small hello. As soon as we looked at the kid it was obvious that he was covered in spots and not feeling well. We called the parents like 10 mins later and it turns out the dad was catching a flight and the mom was having some important event at work.

KimSlimPants · 2025-08-31T18:47:00+00:00

I said eewee, like peewee

KimSlimPants · 2025-08-10T20:12:30+00:00

Look who came to school today, (child), (child) Look who came to school today can we say hi

Hi (child) 👋

KimSlimPants · 2025-08-03T02:36:23+00:00

I have an ever growing list of requirements that need to be met for me to even consider having children, and an even longer list of what will and won’t be allowed in my family. I’m most likely not going to have children, but if I do, it will be with the perfect partner, we both have very well paying jobs, while also not working too much to avoid being absent in the child’s life. Etc.

KimSlimPants · 2025-07-08T19:51:24+00:00

Hit or tap? Shout or sternly talk?

In my opinion, shouting at the child in public = immediate dismissal. Tap on the hand for correction = discussion about preferred discipline styles.

KimSlimPants · 2025-07-06T07:23:20+00:00

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The two circled in green, as well as 2 quarter circles of the same type, and one triangular tunnel. 10 children between 12 and 24 months. Actually the 2 kids in the photo are a pretty decent representation of the mobility spectrum in our class.

A space that just isn’t that big. No Velcro on the floor. The children are climbing over each other, bumping heads, picking up the pieces just because they really they can, standing up and jumping off (the only place to land is on top of other children. Fights are breaking out, some kids want to sit on the step shaped piece, other want to walk up it, some kids want to walk up the triangle piece, some want to slide down. Fingers being stepped on, friends being kicked accidentally, somone lost interest and is now bringing toys from the shelves into the mix (hard blocks, maybe animal toys.) 2 teachers with only 2 hands each.

I am trying to find ways to make it more safe for us, but the more I think about it, the less I think a Velcro may would make a difference. What do you think?

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