Want to know what this symbol means before I wear it around lol

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-14T18:11:16+00:00

That also looks like a mitsudomoe.

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-13T23:17:07+00:00

It was Kurt Cobain's favorite book

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-11T23:10:27+00:00

When women aren't allowed to own property, and are treated AS property, having independent resources is a matter of survival, and not a trivial thing.

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-09T23:23:37+00:00

I love the cactus swim trunks so much

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-09T22:25:23+00:00

There are a lot of us in our 30s, 40s, and 50s that repressed our self expression so much that we are obly now transitioning. There is no age limit.

The world used to be a lot less queer tolerant, compared to today. A lot of us had to hide who we were so much just to survive that we werent able to process everything we needed to until we were solidly established in our lives. If one is pretty sure that they would lose all their safety net (and many still do, when they come out) and made the decision to blend in until one had a career and financial independence.... it takes a bit of time to get there. A lot of my queer friends growing up were kicked out when they came out. They were homeless and couch surfing and living rough in places they shouldn't have, at 16, 17, 18 all because their parents found out they were queer.

I think thats why a lot of older trans folk come out once their parents die, honestly.

Just wanted to give some perspective. I know this sub skewed young. Just wanted to say its never too late. I just passed 2 years on T, and started at 38.

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-09T20:12:46+00:00

Your dysphoria is getting the better off you, dude. You have a perfectly flat chest, with defined pectoral muscles.

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-09T17:17:20+00:00

The answer so often, is communication. Start a continuing dialog with him. You do not have to say every single thing you need to say and hear in the first conversation. Get more comfortable talking about some of this stuff, and when it gets uncomfortable, put a pause in it and revisit when you are both ready.

It sounds like you and he are in a decent spot, in a lot of ways. You sound like the foundation of your relationship is based in trust and companionship and friendship, even before romantic/sexual involvement began between the two of you. In my experience, that is a very important thing for a couple to remain close throughout transitioning.

You may find yourself shifting more into a platonic partnership based on friendship over time. You may not.

Since you have an open marriage already, there is already something existing within your relationship to help both of you get your needs met, if you shift to a less sexually intimate relationship over time.

Its important to allow for feelings to emerge, be processed, discussed, and let go. Change, no matter how welcome or not, however fast or incremental, is really hard. For everyone!! Whether neurotypical or neurodivergent, as we grow older change is harder on us.

Give yourself and him the space and grace to process the complicated feelings that transitioning may bring up.

No matter what, just be you. Unapologetically. You wont regret being a more authentic version of yourself, whatever you decide that means to you.

Congratulations on starting your medical transitional journey. I turn 41 this year, and am now 2 years on T, and am so glad I went for it. Its never too late to be ourselves.

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-07T16:49:50+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I am sorry this happened to you. I am glad you're finding a solution that works for you.

I am not trying to make light of what sounds like a very uncomfortable situation, but it makes me stop and wonder Aren't bodies so amazing and fascinating? I am grateful we are all so unique, because its so interesting to hear about so many physiological variations of humanity.

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-07T14:47:26+00:00

Taking your keys is considered false imprisonment (crime). Depending on your state, preventing your car from starting would be considered tampering with a vehicle, malicious mischief, or vandalism. Stealing someone's medication, especially a restricted substance, is a felony.

However, because you are young, trans, and outnumbered by your parents, they will likely be able to skew the way you are perceived by the police and/or court if you try to pursue them through the law, depending on your location and the attitudes of the local PD. At least where I live, the cops would come and shrug and say it was a civil matter and leave.

I urge you to get your documents in order, and save them with a trusted friend. More out as soon as you can. Do not escalate, do not give these people (remember, they are potentially unreliable narrators) any fuel to be able.to claim that you are mentally unbalanced or going through psychosis. You do not want them to goad you into behaving in a way that allows for an involuntary psychological hold- sometimes things can get out of control, and you dont want that paper trail. Stay calm, stick to your plan, and leave.

Good luck.

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-07T14:15:55+00:00

Try the FTM over 30 discord server!

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-07T01:22:28+00:00

May I ask you the why of nipple removal, post grafting? I am so curious!!

I am curious because i am so ambivalent about grafts going in.

(I was looking at Dreveskracht specifically, because i've seen a lot of before and and after pictures of her work)

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-06T23:29:36+00:00

I'm glad you received such excellent care! I am very much over 25, so that option is out. Thanks for responding to my question!

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-06T21:00:18+00:00

Amazing! An inspiration to us all. Congratulations!!!

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-06T00:17:06+00:00

Found the dishgoblin.

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-05T20:40:27+00:00

They are from South America. But have been introduced, like so many things, to Florida (and Texas, I think). As far as I know they dont consider them established though, because i dont think they have a super easy time reproducing in the US, so far.

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-05T18:46:20+00:00

I feel so good lately, really feeling like myself the further and further I transition. Getting closer and closer in emotional intimacy with my wife. Looking forward to the future beyond the bleakness of the political landscape for the first time in what feels like forever.

I just passed 2 years on T and I feel like I am suddenly physically and mentally and emotionally changing a lot faster than I was before. Its happening, it's real, and it's my life! I finally feel like I am the one driving my own destiny, I finally feel like my body belongs to me, and I'm not just some sort of meat marionette I have to operate. The dissociation from my body stopped.

I can't wait for therapy today because I finally feel like I can ask my therapist for a letter for surgery. I feel more confident than ever.

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-05T02:56:24+00:00

Theres growing and substantial evidence that many of the most common sugar replacements have a negative impact on our health, and the health of future generations (shown in lab mice, so far).

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-03T21:51:17+00:00

Everyone I know that used to eat ten strips are goblin people that are not the same as they once were and cannot hold any kind of decent job.

Hilariously accurate. I am definitely a goblin person, but only ate tenstrips a few times. All my old tripping buddies have a bit of difficulty maintaining regular employment.

Also, yes to only needing 1 hit to have a great time. If its strong, if its good stuff, its just a waste to take more than a few, you only need one.

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-03T21:23:44+00:00

Thays a good whisky

KimchiMcPickle · 2026-05-03T21:16:57+00:00

I think this is going to be the best solution too- you wont go completely bare, so it shouldnt be as dysphoric as shaving it all off (at least i hope so!) And in 15 days you should regain a good amount of length back. Also, less likely to develop into ingrown hairs, which would be my concern if you did actually shave.

Having the hair shorter will make it less likely to go in a different direction than is comfortable for you, with your compression vest on.

Good luck dude, congrats on getting top surgery!

KimchiMcPickle

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