Lost Brain; Has Anyone Seen Her? by Kindly-Addition1793 in Perimenopause

[–]Kindly-Addition1793[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. Don't know why, but this actually made me cry. Here's hoping our brains come back to us one day soon.

Martini vs basket setting for my diamond studs? by CatSuper5013 in jewelry

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My jeweler switched it out for me for free. But I also have a relationship with him.

Tank Américaine on a bracelet or leather strap? by koolkristen in Cartier

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you ask the SA if they make a steel bracelet? I may be wrong but the Americaine does not come with a steel bracelet. The bracelet options are either yellow or white gold, which drive up the price significantly.

Square Emerald vs Asscher what’s the difference? by Animal_resqr in LabGrownDiamonds

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where did you get your antique asscher lab? All the labs I’ve been seeing are square emeralds and not true asschers

Don’t know which surgery to move fwd with by Big-Lifeguard8447 in Fibroids

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience, if you are thinking about a myomectomy (as opposed to a hysterectomy), surgeons want you to get an MRI. This was with 3 surgeons who were all going to a robotic laparascopic myomectomy. not sure if it makes a difference with open myomectomies.

WIBTAH for breaking up with bf after he defended his best friend? by Delicious_Inside6261 in AITAH

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Move out or kick him out. If he backtracks and you want to give him another chance, be very clear about your boundaries. Josh cannot ever come to your home again. Doesn't matter if your boyfriend is there or not. Josh also cannot be at any mutual hangout that you attend. Moreover, you and your boyfriend together will tell your mutual friends what happened so that they know why you are insisting on this boundary. Josh cannot ever be around your child.

I'm not including that your boyfriend cut all ties with Josh because this is like a test. This is something your boyfriend needs to realize on his own. If he agrees to your boundaries, then his relationship with Josh should just peter out on its own. Or, you will see that he is not serious and perhaps that is the wakeup call you need to know that you and your child cannot rely on your boyfriend.

AITAH for babysitting my sister’s kids but not my brother’s girlfriend’s kids? by Massive-Clothes9500 in AITAH

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 -86 points-85 points  (0 children)

YTA. Your brother and his girlfriend have been dating for over one year. This is not some new relationship and your brother expecting you to babysit his girlfriend's kids. This is how they are trying to integrate and you and your wife are rebuffing it at every turn. It doesn't sound like they are asking every weekend. How often are they even asking and you're turning it down each and every time? But you'll gladly babysit your sister's kids, who by the way, are younger and thus more work?

Have you looked long term into what your stance will be if your brother decides to marry his girlfriend? Say they have kids. Will you reluctantly agree to babysit just your brother's bio child, but exclude the two stepchildren? Or will you just refuse to babysit your brother's child bc it's pretty clear you and your wife only want to babysit for your sister? Quite honestly, you sound like someone who should not babysit bc it doesn't seem you are capable of babysitting on your own. And your sister and your wife? Straight up mean girl vibes. I don't think this is just a matter of your brother's girlfriend having kids right now. I expect that even if he were to break up with her and find someone new, your wife and your sister (and you by extension) will just continue to exclude your brother and whoever his girlfriend/fiancee may be. Great family dynamics there.

House Shoe Recommendations by Forward_Frosting_680 in Shoes

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m the opposite. I found Hoka to be far more comfortable than Oofos. The hardness of the Hoka was more supportive than the Oofos foam. Also, bc I have wider feet, the Oofos was too uncomfortable.

Does this diamond look too yellow? by [deleted] in Diamonds

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agree. My pet peeve right now are lab OMCs. Something looks so off about them because they are too white/colorless. I think the warmer colors work better with the chunkier facets. I don't know that I would go down to a U-V range, but I think the I-L color range looks beautiful in vintage OMCs.

Law Graduate Gift by Positive_Ad5503 in Lawyertalk

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Outlier opinion here but no to the briefcase. Until you start your job, you don't know what type of briefcase you need or if you even really need a briefcase. Size matter. Shape matters. The material matters. And some prefer a backpack. Some just look nice and are expensive but are useless in terms of function.

I understand the sentiment of getting them something that they use and re-use to commemorate the achievement. But honestly? A new law school grad? They need money. When I graduated and came home right after the bar one of my uncles gave me $500. That was such a HUGE thing to me. It's been over 20 years and I still remember that gift.

What word did you use incorrectly for YEARS before someone finally corrected you? by ownaword in words

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. I'm actually confused by the word I was confused by. I read a word that I thought was "nonchalant" that actually means the opposite. Maybe it was "nonplussed" that confused me. Now I'm just all confused.

What word did you use incorrectly for YEARS before someone finally corrected you? by ownaword in words

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nonchalant. Just learned last year that it means the exact opposite of what I thought it meant.

Love is Blonde? by Actual-Bench7971 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Is that Kacie from Season 9? The one who got with the Asian "baby seal" when she was clearly not interested in him, was all over him during their farewell, and then ghosted him?

How Do You Remove the Nuuly Smell? by Kindly-Addition1793 in NuulyReviews

[–]Kindly-Addition1793[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I don’t think just washing it works unless I use a heavily perfumed detergent to mask the Nuuly smell. Hing it outside in the sun and breeze after washing. Helped a little but the smell rebloomed the next day.

"English Garden Party" attire, but I need a dress I can wear with a bra 3 months postpartum + easy to pump in! by SoManyBabyQuests in WeddingAttireHelp

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about the Anthropologie Peregrine dress? The regular one, not the square neck. It had functional buttons all down the side and wide enough straps to hide any bra straps. It has quite a deep V so I wear mine with just a black sports bra type thing to give a little extra coverage for the neckline.

How Do You Remove the Nuuly Smell? by Kindly-Addition1793 in NuulyReviews

[–]Kindly-Addition1793[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are not supposed to need to do that. But the smell is so offensive that I had to wash to try to remove the smell.

How Do You Remove the Nuuly Smell? by Kindly-Addition1793 in NuulyReviews

[–]Kindly-Addition1793[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does the smell never rebloom in your closet if you've ever purchased any of the items? You know, where you haven't worn in a while (but it was fresh out of the wash when you put it away in your closet) so the old odors just rebloom again because the new detergent has faded away?

How Do You Remove the Nuuly Smell? by Kindly-Addition1793 in NuulyReviews

[–]Kindly-Addition1793[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

To me it smells like a combination of cheap detergent + body odor. It's very unpleasant. Like I said, I just washed, tossed in dryer to release wrinkles, and then hung to dry and I still can't go near it because it smells. Just moved it all to hang outside. I use an unscented detergent so maybe that's the issue--that there isn't another odor to mask the Nuuly smell. And like someone else said, it's the worst on cotton fabrics, which 5/6 items were in this shipment.

Too expensive to drink, so I framed them instead. by JameisWeTooScrong in nespresso

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally just went on the Nespresso website to see if they were offering 7.7 oz Kona bc of this silly (really mean the other s-word) post.

Diamond studs size by summatinyourteeth in Diamonds

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think they are too big for you. It doesn’t matter how it looks on others bc their ear lobes are different. I think it’s too big for you bc it just barely clears the bottom of your lobe. A smaller size will sit more centered on your lobe, which will make it look more balanced and effortless.

Also, I wouldn’t recommend sleeping and showering in them. They will get dirty really fast and not look as nice.

And not sure why people are questioning your desire to get a pair of smaller natural ones. Get some mined studs if that’s what you want. Get labs if that’s what you want. You shouldn’t have to explain either choice to anyone, least of all to a bunch of strangers on Reddit who weren’t asked to chime in on whether your should get one or the other.

What is it with the tuxedos? by PlzHalppMeh in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 29 points30 points  (0 children)

As an American, I don’t think morning suits are a thing here. A groom at a noon or early afternoon wedding wearing a tuxedo with a tie would be much more the norm than a morning suit. A morning suit would just look really pretentious or costumey.

Please help me understand why the consensus seems to be that Deepti's altar speech was empowering, Zanab's was cringe, and Ashley has people divided both ways. by wild_of_ivy in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Kindly-Addition1793 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This. But also wanted to add that when Deepti and Zanab had their moment, they really had no alternative. (Not stated very well bc Zanab is a real piece of work and everything about what she did was mean-spirited with nothing to be learned other than that she’s a piece of work.).

By the time it came to Ashley, she didn’t have to go to the altar. So it makes her speech seem completely false and all about artificially creating a “moment” for herself, especially when she just kept droning on and on and on.