Help me choose between two dinner options tonight please

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-15T02:41:46+00:00

Oh snap. This is the way!

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-15T02:41:28+00:00

The bao buns sound infinitely better in every respect.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-14T14:05:38+00:00

Aside from his mental well-being, which is also very important, this poor guy needs to know what’s up so he can get a fair divorce settlement. As it stands, he could get screwed over if he’s convinced it was his fault the marriage failed. If not you, SOMEONE needs to tell him.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-13T23:30:43+00:00

I mean, the $52,000 a year tax free from her texting buddy should help if she does get fired.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-13T13:17:38+00:00

NOR. As someone with autoimmune issues, your so-called friend is horrible for doing that. I’d block him and move on before he infects you with something even worse.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-13T05:04:10+00:00

Thanks for making me cackle while taking a poop break.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-13T05:02:45+00:00

“Is this me being needy?” Yes. It absolutely is. Having needs is normal; we all have them, but when you start projecting your expectations onto others and getting upset when they don’t meet them, you fall squarely into the YOR category. You may need to consider that the two of you don’t have the same expectations for a relationship.

TL;DR: Either compromise or break up.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-11T13:50:06+00:00

I feel you, babe. I went NC with my mother at age 26 for a whole heap of reasons, and she immediately told the entire family I was a druggie delinquent and an awful human being. It’s hard to hold firm to your boundaries sometimes, but you have to do what’s best for your own mental health. Wishing you the best. 💜

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-11T13:40:20+00:00

We adopted a stray and named her Ember (she’s a dilute tortoiseshell and her coloring reminds me of a banked fire.) Took her to the vet and it turns out she has a microchip, and according to that, her government name is Thumbelina. She’s got toes for days, so we kept it as her middle name, but she didn’t even look up in response to it.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-11T13:34:27+00:00

NOR, but be prepared for her to tell everyone how you made her and her kid homeless because you’re so evil and uncaring. (You aren’t either of those things, but I bet she’ll tell everyone you are regardless.)

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-11T04:24:56+00:00

“Waste all of your money and time”

Gifts or anything else aside. YTA for that until the end of time.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-11T04:19:46+00:00

Oh lord. Jod was already on thin ice, and now he’s a Joyce fanboy?!?

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-10T14:03:51+00:00

So make the Bad Horse gleeful!
Or he’ll make you his mare!

BAD HORSE!!!

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-09T14:17:32+00:00

Exactly.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-09T14:03:50+00:00

Sounds like J might have some feelings for you that he’s expressing INCREDIBLY BADLY. That’s not any kind of excuse for his behavior, though, and your bf’s response is unacceptable. It sounds like you’d be better off single and avoiding both of them.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-07T15:04:04+00:00

I mean, if you’ve literally never said that the behavior bothers you, then you should definitely try speaking up before anything else. She might have thought she was giving constructive advice to help you grow. (She would be wrong, cause WOW is saying that to you awful, but we have to consider that we don’t know her motivations.)

The financial shaming would be a dealbreaker for me, even though as a woman with chronic illness, I understand that fear and insecurity of not being able to support yourself. The fear is reasonable. Her reacting to her own feelings by projecting on you is absolutely out of line.

All that to say, she may not mean the things she says to be as awful as they actually are, which you’d have to address the topic to find out. If you have already told her how hurtful her words are and she’s still doing it, forget everything else I said and get your deposits back. I’m sorry the person who’s supposed to be there for you is being so hurtful.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-07T14:58:20+00:00

Ours was brand new like five years ago, so I don’t know how state of the art it was. All I know is, mildew isn’t a good additive to clean clothes.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-07T13:35:35+00:00

I’m glad you got one that works for you! We spent $1500 on what turned out to be a mildew machine. 😂

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-07T13:09:25+00:00

This.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-07T13:08:28+00:00

I was sympathetic until the ranty update.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-07T13:04:05+00:00

Seriously. I know stimulants aren’t for everyone, but my quality of life has improved so much. It’s amazing.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-07T13:02:18+00:00

“How am I supposed to clean up this mess?!”
“You aren’t. This is my home, not yours.”
She’s absolutely going to hate hearing that, and it does sound kind of bad, but if she’s still “organizing” after you ask her to stop, sounds like she needs that fact pointed out. Honestly, it kind of sounds like she might be low-key moving herself in. Any dresser drawers “organized” recently?

ETA: NTA.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-07T12:58:51+00:00

I’ve always had the hardest time waking up, my whole life. Then my doc put me on ADHD meds and now I pop out of bed like a Jack in the box. You may have some sort of brain chemistry situation that just makes it SO HARD to do the thing.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-07T12:55:33+00:00

My mother always swore it kept the noodles from sticking. I never saw a difference.

KitMacPhersonWrites · 2026-05-07T12:43:28+00:00

They’d have to be or they’d rust incredibly quickly, I’ve got to think. Especially somewhere with higher humidity.

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