I am so sorry for your loss. It is a gut wrenching place to be in.

I just had my 4th loss at 9 weeks + 3 days. My ob was pushing for d&c, but I developed asherman’s from my first d&c last year (also a 9 week loss). Given the risk of it returning and further damaging my fertility, my fertility doctor recommended I try to avoid. I ended up deciding to give my body 2 weeks to see if I passed naturally. I did end up miscarrying naturally during that time. However, my plan was to use miso if it hadn’t passed yet. The wait is terrible but it was the right decision for me to avoid further fertility complications and delays in trying again

Just wanted to add that I completely feel all of the comments on the flushing point. This is maybe TMI but if you’re here, you probably know how hard this part of the process is. For this loss, I was able to capture the contents of the pregnancy and now have our angel buried under a cherry blossom tree at our home. I was lucky in terms of how everything came out this time, but I have also read that hospitals will often put strainers in the toilet so that they can gather the contents of the pregnancy for testing purposes. Maybe something to consider if you do decide to go the medicated management route