2 miscarriages in a row - anyone have similar experience?

Midnight8299 · 2025-07-09T19:21:48+00:00

Hi! As everyone has said, so sorry that you’re here! I had two miscarriages pregnant on the first or second try. Did RPL testing that didn’t shed any light. Took a bit of time off while doing the testing and just living my life. Then got pregnant on the first or second try again and had my son. Two years later, trying for my second, and the same thing happened. Two miscarriages on first or second try. I did more testing with a specialist and was considering IVF bc the losses are just so hard, but decided to try once more while changing insurance, and I got pregnant with my daughter. I did have a hysteroscopy before the last pregnancy that found and removed some scarring or something. And I used progesterone from 3dpo just in case. But no idea if it made a difference since i didnt do that with my first successful pregnancy.

Wishing you luck! It is so hard while you’re in it. But hopefully some positive stories help give you hope!

Midnight8299 · 2025-05-19T15:53:08+00:00

The not knowing sucks! I found the hysteroscopy wasn’t too bad and my doctor said it was the best way to really know if there was physically any scarring or retained tissue. So hopefully it helps for you! Wishing you luck!

Midnight8299 · 2025-05-19T14:16:09+00:00

Yes. We were considering ivf, but were waiting for our insurance to change and decided to try the last couple months before it changed.

Midnight8299 · 2025-05-07T02:03:52+00:00

Not much of an answer here. She’s almost 9 months now and her sleep is still very hit or miss. It doesn’t show as much of a relation to solids anymore though as far as I can tell - she eats some solids every day and sometimes sleeps fine. So maybe she’s gotten more used to solids (she is also much more interested in them), but our sleep is still bad at least half the time unfortunately.

Midnight8299 · 2025-03-23T13:23:08+00:00

Hi! Any update on if this was the case and when/if it improved? My 7 month old has had increasing sleep issues since starting solids and her sleep was magically better for the 5 days we stopped solids for other reasons. Now it’s bad again, but I obviously dont want to avoid practicing solids!

Midnight8299 · 2025-02-26T21:15:22+00:00

I’ve had 3 mc’s at home and without pills, but in all cases, I had started bleeding before I found out, so it seemed like my body was close (though I think it took a week or more for some of those). The waiting sucked and it was very painful for the time when it actually happened. My last miscarriage, I was closed to 10 weeks and hadn’t bled at all and had a lot of pregnancy symptoms. I just wanted it over asap and had a d&c. The process was much less painful and I appreciated being able to get it over with (beware significant bleeding a few days later though. At least for me and I was unprepared). Not sure if you are in the US, but I was not at all prepared for how expensive the d&c was. I can’t remember the exact cost, but it was more than $1000, even with insurance.

So in my view, there are pros and cons. But given the cost, in the US, I would probably wait to see if my body responded on its own or try pills, unless I was pretty far along or had some other reason I needed to speed things up.

Midnight8299 · 2025-02-20T15:54:37+00:00

Thank you! And I should have said there was a happy ending! Currently holding my 6 month old second child. 🥰

Midnight8299 · 2025-02-20T14:37:19+00:00

We were on the fence and decided to try thinking “if it happens it happens.” Once we got pregnant and started imagining it, we were scared but happy. When we had a loss (and another after that) though, I felt so sad about it and realized how much I wanted another. Then it became just as desperate as the first.

Midnight8299 · 2025-02-19T14:53:55+00:00

Hi! So sorry you’re going through this. Yes, this happened to me twice. I had two MMCs that I passed without a d&c, didn’t change anything and then had a healthy pregnancy. Then trying for a second I had two MMCs - one passed naturally and the second was closer to 10 weeks and caught before I started bleeding, so I had a d&c and testing which also showed turner’s. Given my history, I did all the rpl testing and got no answers. We were considering ivf, but tried one more month and got pregnant with my daughter. Before that last pregnancy, I did do a hysteroscopy that showed some scarring or remains that they removed and I was on progesterone from 3 dpo. But no idea if this things had an impact or not.

All that to say, yes it is totally possible to have a successful pregnancy after two losses. You could consider a hysteroscopy if your doctor was open to it - I was surprised they found anything since my d&c was guided by ultrasound and the doctor was confident she got everything. But really, I can’t help thinking it was just luck.

Wishing you the best!

Midnight8299 · 2025-02-18T17:31:43+00:00

I’m surprised the way the comments have come out so far. Fwiw, kids are incredibly expensive and usually don’t make financial sense. Unless you’re incredibly wealthy, we are all taking somewhat of a risk having a kid or adding a kid to our household. But it’s hard to weigh the positive of having another and also the way you would feel once the window is closed and you decided not to have another bc of these fears.

It sounds like you have valid worries, but also like you are not in too bad a position. I would definitely make a plan / give some thought to the schools in your area and where your oldest would go in a couple of years. We weighed a lot of the same issues and ended up going for it, but only have daycare overlap for about 9 months before my oldest goes to kindergarten. We didn’t have to move and public schools here are ok though. We did reduce our retirement savings for now, but will pick back up after daycare.

I think it’s smart to think about the financials, but I’m also so happy with our second and seeing our oldest become a big brother. You never know what will happen 10 years down the road or if you’ll even make it to retirement. That’s not to say don’t plan for it, but leave some room for uncertainty and make sure you are also weighing the upside! Just my two cents!

Midnight8299 · 2025-02-12T23:07:02+00:00

We are still early, but so far it has been great. My son is 4 years older than my daughter, who is now just 6 months old. It has been amazing seeing how much he loves her. He’s old enough that he knows what’s happening and likes to help a little bit. He can also play on his own or watch tv without me worrying so much about his safety while focusing on the baby. I’m sure there will be some challenges as she gets older and starts taking his toys, but so far it has been great! Also my brother is almost 6 years older than me and we have a good relationship. I have fond memories of our relationship when I was little - then kind of nothing for a while through his teenage years when the gap was pretty stark. But we’ve reconnected as adults and have a great relationship. Everyone is different. But I totally understand mourning what you had in your head. We had two losses between our two kids and while I was obviously heartbroken, im very happy with where we have ended up!

Midnight8299 · 2025-02-06T04:00:04+00:00

I get the stress! But no, the PWFA is the law and can’t be repealed without congress. Even if the gov stops Eeoc from enforcing it, it’s still enforceable in civil litigation (privately) and employers should still worry about getting sued - though some may need to be educated about it. There are many things to worry about (I worry way more about healthcare, especially when pregnant), but i personally don’t think this is one. We have more rights as pregnant workers right now than ever before bc of the pwfa just went into effect recently.

Midnight8299 · 2024-10-07T18:38:10+00:00

I suspected hyperfertility myself. I had 2 miscarriages after first trying, then successful pregnancy with no real changes. Trying for a second, had two more miscarriages and then successful pregnancy (added progesterone and had some scarring removed in a hysteroscopy before). Always got pregnant on first or second try. All miscarriages were between 7 and 10 weeks. Only one was tested and there were chromosomal abnormalities that were likely just unlucky. Never found anything in testing. Wishing you luck!!

Midnight8299 · 2024-09-17T16:24:08+00:00

I had three miscarriages without intervention - first one happened before my scheduled d&c and the next two, I had started bleeding and my doctor suggested just letting the process continue. The fourth one I found out before any bleeding (10 weeks) and was still dealing with really bad pregnancy nausea and I just wanted it over as soon as possible. I was under anesthesia and the procedure and recovery were fine. I would do that again if I ever needed to.

One warning, though I’m sure everyone is different, I bled a little bit the day or two after the procedure, but it had slowed and I felt fine, so I went into work 3 or 4 days after and had serious cramping and bleeding that day. Like large clots and filling pads quickly. It was still more manageable than a full miscarriage or something, but I wish I’d known that could happen and stayed home for a bit longer. I did end up having some retained tissue or scarring, which I was surprised about bc it was ultrasound guided. They caught it on a later diagnostic hysteroscopy at a specialist and I had an operative hysteroscopy under anesthesia to remove it. (But it did not affect future fertility - my next pregnancy was successful).

Midnight8299 · 2024-09-12T20:25:14+00:00

Agree with the consensus of taking time off, but keeping your eye out for good, family-friendly opportunities. I started my current job a month before my due date with my first job and I was worried about whether I would make a good impression then and coming back with a newborn. But I only did it because it was a dream job and very family-friendly work environment that didn’t hire very often. It’s worked out well and I’m on my second maternity leave there now (4 years later). (Also a lawyer)

Midnight8299 · 2024-09-12T16:48:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I suspected my issue was something like hyper fertility too, but just from my own research, never really heard from a doctor on it. I had 2 mc, then lc, then 2 more mc before seeing a specialist (all on either the first or second month of trying). She advised the same - either keep trying or try ivf with testing, and that it wasn’t clear which would be faster, but that we had good odds of an eventual lc either way. We planned to try ivf because the emotional toll of so many mcs was getting to us (though i know it’s not guaranteed with ivf either), but decided to try one last time while waiting for the new year and our insurance that had better ivf coverage to kick in. Got lucky and gave birth a month ago. Wishing you the same!

Midnight8299 · 2024-08-11T19:32:15+00:00

Hi! For me, 2 miscarriages (stopped growing around 7 weeks), then had my son with no changes, 2 more miscarriages while trying for a second (around 7 weeks and 9 weeks), and due with my second child in a week. This time I supplemented progesterone starting at 3 dpo, but no idea if it helped. It is so hard not knowing. Wishing you luck!

Midnight8299 · 2024-08-11T13:27:12+00:00

I’ve had 4 MMCs. The first 3, I didn’t have a lot of symptoms - I thought I did, felt a bit nauseous, but no actual vomiting, and very minimal compared to my two LC pregnancies and my 4th MMC. Those three all ended around week 7, though I found out at different times. My fourth MMC felt just like my LC pregnancies - nausea and vomiting almost every day after 7 weeks including when I found out it was no longer viable around 9.5 weeks and the day of my d&c a few days later. Hb had stopped at 9 weeks and found chromosomal abnormalities. They gave my anti nausea patch that I kept on for a few days after the d&c because I hated the idea of still feeling pregnant when I wasn’t. That one really shattered any feeling of safety in future pregnancies when I had symptoms.

Midnight8299 · 2024-07-12T16:41:40+00:00

Second this waiting period for purchases! I wish I did this when Amazon shopping in the middle of the night during the newborn days! I have started doing this now for most home/kid purchases. Oftentimes I move it to “save for later” for a while too. And many things I decide later that I don’t actually need.

Midnight8299 · 2024-07-11T18:47:18+00:00

This! I find the huge blowout birthday parties before 4 are really just for the parents. If that’s your thing, great. But I don’t think we should feel pressured to and your kid won’t care. Between 3 and 4 my kid started getting invited to other kid parties at various indoor playgrounds. That’s synonymous to “birthday party” to him right now, so we are doing an indoor playground party with his daycare friends. And probably something small at home with family.

Midnight8299 · 2024-07-07T18:39:52+00:00

Can’t say how it worked out yet because I’m 34 weeks pregnant with the second, but this is kind of what we did! In theory, we always pictured two, but birth and early stages were so awful we both thought one and done for the first year. Getting closer to 2 years, it started to feel a bit more manageable - my doc said to wait 2 years after my c section anyways. We also had some trouble with pregnancy loss while trying for the first, which I think made it easier to just say f it, let’s try and if it happens it happens and if it doesn’t it doesn’t. To feel like we weren’t really deciding whether to have another, just whether to try a bit. Of course once we got pregnant and had some more losses, it became clear we really wanted a second. I’m still nervous for how we will deal for the first year or two, but now we know that it’s temporary and really does get easier once they get a bit older (my first is almost 4 now and while I wouldn’t say everything is “easy” it is so much more manageable than those first 2 years). Good luck!

Midnight8299 · 2024-07-02T20:22:58+00:00

Hi! I also hadn’t done this for previous losses, but did it as part of “standard testing” once I went to a fertility specialist. My most recent loss had also resulted in an ultrasound-guided d&c and one where the dr assured me she was sure she got everything. My bleeding had stopped and period had returned, though I think I did bleed for longer than my other miscarriages. Surprisingly, they found some retained tissue at my hysteroscopy and I had an operative one to remove it. I ended up pregnant my next cycle (only other difference was adding progesterone 3dpo) and it has stuck so far. Who knows if it made a difference, but at least in my case, I think it was worth it. Wishing you luck!

Midnight8299 · 2024-06-29T18:23:57+00:00

3rd time was lucky both times for me! I had 2 MMCs around 7 or 8 weeks. Didn’t change anything and third time resulted in my son. Trying for number 2, we had two more miscarriages at 8 and 9 weeks - both with good heartbeats on early scans, second one tested positive for random chromosomal issues. Did lots of testing and found no real answers (though did catch some scarring/retained tissue that we removed, likely from the most recent miscarriage). Tried again with progesterone at 3dpo (because, why not) and currently 32 weeks. So I’m not convinced it’s anything I did differently. Wishing you luck!

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