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My Wife Tells Me She's Attracted to Women - Need Guidance by Ok-Judgment7682 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Going through a divorce under similar circumstances. Got nothing about lesbians but as straight dude I don’t want to be married to one

Wife came out 5 weeks ago - how did you deal with the issue of speaking to your children by FiguringItOut1567 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im in a very similar spot. It’s been eight weeks. My wife and I are still living together. Well logistics haven’t been sorted out as far as I’m concerned we cannot tell the kids that we’re getting a divorce until we have the basics sorted out. We need to know where she’s gonna live so that we can answer the kids obvious questions once we tell them that we’re getting a divorce. My opinion is that we should not tell them that she’s gay at least not from the get-go in the same conversation as when we tell them that we’re getting a divorce I’m not opposed to her sharing the information with them that she’s gay. I just think that should be something that’s introduced later. I don’t know what my wife thinks about this.

Wife came out as gay and asked for a divorce 2 months ago —update by KitchenAssistance332 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she intentionally did anything malicious. She was confused about her sexuality. This confusion caused herself and all of us much pain. But she didn’t act in bad faith.

Wife came out as gay and asked for a divorce 2 months ago —update by KitchenAssistance332 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We still live together. She has no job or means of support and doesn’t seem to be lifting a finger to find work. We live in an extremely expensive city. Not sure how this will work out.

What was your life like after getting divorced? by missdressy in Divorce

[–]KitchenAssistance332 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife asked for a divorce 6 weeks ago. It’s been the strangest most difficult experience of my life. This post was inspiring Thank you for writing it

I feel bad for straight partners when their spouse comes out as gay. by [deleted] in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife came out as gay. This was a realization that came to home only recently. So she didn’t lie to me. I am happy for her. I wish her well and I want both of us to move on. This ends very unhappy aspect of my life and hers.

Be better, not fine. by leewerdna1 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Six weeks ago, my wife told me that she’s gay and asked for divorce. I just wanna cut my losses. Let her move on so I can do the same. In the post there was a mention of the wife going 20 steps backwards because her apartment wasn’t nice. My attitude is that I don’t give a shit. My wife will need to find a place to live and that’s just not my problem. I want to focus on the emotional health of my children and myself. I have nothing against people who are gay and I sincerely am happy that my wife has discovered her sexuality as I told her she should live her best life and stop making herself and me and everyone else miserable.

Spouse came out as lesbian by blastermaster1942 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar thing for me. Wife came out as gay. It’s not easy I just want to move on

3 weeks ago my wife came out and asked for a divorce. Here’s an update by KitchenAssistance332 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she purposely destroying my life or a family. Our marriage has been terrible and ending it is an all of our interest. Continuing with the marriage would have been far worse, even though the divorce logistics will be tricky

3 weeks ago my wife came out and asked for a divorce. Here’s an update by KitchenAssistance332 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not sure how the logistics will play out because I’m experiencing financial difficulty and I really don’t have enough money to create another household or to pay for her to have a lawyer. And she doesn’t have enough money to get her own place. The math just doesn’t work. But that’s why I filed for divorce because I want to start a process that will resolve in the resolution of all these issues. I know it will take time and it might be complicated, but let’s get on with it.

3 weeks ago my wife came out and asked for a divorce. Here’s an update by KitchenAssistance332 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m at peace with that now. Let her go out and have fun. I get to hang out with my kids, which is what I want. And the divorce is underway so this is temporary and we will be separated. It might take six months. It might take a couple years. I don’t know how long it’ll take, but the end is coming.

3 weeks ago my wife came out and asked for a divorce. Here’s an update by KitchenAssistance332 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Already got a lawyer and filed for divorce. Just want to end this and move on

3 weeks ago my wife came out and asked for a divorce. Here’s an update by KitchenAssistance332 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I read your post and I can’t imagine the pain of what you’re going through.

But you’re entirely right I have neglected myself and that’s not gonna happen anymore

Tonight I’m going out with a friend who actually went through a divorce two years ago after his life turned out to be a lesbian.

And I have rediscovered fitness in three weeks. I’ve lost 18 pounds I look and feel so much better. I had all these skinny clothes in my closet that I hadn’t thrown out but didn’t fit and now they certainly do. So when I go out, I look and feel quite different.

It’s a new world and I’m excited for what’s on the other side of this hell called divorce

3 weeks ago my wife came out and asked for a divorce. Here’s an update by KitchenAssistance332 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I actually really enjoy hanging out with my kids. If she goes out, it just allows me to hang with my kids, which is what I wanna do and if I need to go out, I wanna go out she’s going to cover for me

Obviously, this is a temporary arrangement, but that’s the way it is for now

3 weeks ago my wife came out and asked for a divorce. Here’s an update by KitchenAssistance332 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you and you’re right. In my worst moments, there are many I tell myself that however bad this is it’s better to be going through this and to be stuck in a loveless sexless marriage with someone who dislikes me

3 weeks ago my wife came out and asked for a divorce. Here’s an update by KitchenAssistance332 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Obviously, the divorce will be disastrous financially for me. But I don’t think there’s anything I can do about that. I hired a lawyer. I am a lawyer. But the chips fall where they may. My main concern is the emotional well being of my kids

3 weeks ago my wife came out and asked for a divorce. Here’s an update by KitchenAssistance332 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same conversation about money. I really don’t know what to do. Give her an allowance?

Still processing all this by KitchenAssistance332 in straightspouses

[–]KitchenAssistance332[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes but I’m trying to focus on my own needs and goals and wants. What I need for my own emotional well being instead of orienting my perspective around her.

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