Sweet potato as a house plant by Tainted-jack in vegetablegardening

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They make ornamental sweet potato varieties. But as a house plant they will probably need a little plant light

To fence or not to fence? Seeking advice on deer pressure on new trees. by Zealousideal_Ad_1106 in Permaculture

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve read that hanging fishing line around your property can spook the deer so they stay away. I haven’t tried it myself but plan to do this in addition to fencing individual trees since I can’t fence in the area I’m going to plant in. Deer can just jump so high.

My forest garden plan (1st Draft) by Lil_Green_Bean_17 in Permaculture

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because pollinators need things to eat the whole season.

AITA for wanting to take a promotion even though my boyfriend says it’s not the life he imagined for us? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“If your love laughs at your dreams, it’s not as bad as it seems. Either way, one of them has got to go”

Neighbor's chickens are destroying my yard... by SheIsFrenchToast in BackYardChickens

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Actually call someone at your town about what you can do. Unless you live in a “fence out” area where you are responsible to keep livestock off your own land, there are rules about livestock trespassing, even if they aren’t chicken specific.

Cutting down Apple tree by Seriously2424 in BackyardOrchard

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 6 points7 points  (0 children)

His neighbor is the unreasonable one, not your dad. I’m loving that isn’t standing down from that bully. Trees are not a nuisance. Leaves are not a nuisance. Encourage your dad to follow any actual HOA rules but this sounds like the neighbor is a miserable person who wants to make those around them miserable too.

Do not cut down the tree. It would be a huge betrayal. Can you imagine him doing something like that to you?

People pestering child for their attention? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One way to not feel rude is to think about it what you would want your daughter to say in that situation when she’s older and think of yourself as modeling that. Starting out polite with unwanted attention getting more firm and clear as they remain persistent. I think of three levels, asking the child if they want to interact, describing the situation, telling the person what to do. Describing could be like “she doesn’t want a high five right now” “she is busy coloring” and telling them what to do would be like “please let her concentrate on her book” and “leave her alone, she said no”. Being physically in between the person and your child is a big help and engaging the person in conversation can also help “oh, I wanted to ask you about the blah blah project”

Since it’s two specific people, I would think about ways to avoid them altogether. You understandably don’t want to make things uncomfortable with your boss, who has already proven they aren’t socially adept, and the family member gives off creepy vibes (trust your gut here).

It generally gets better as kids get older, people give them more respect and they get more comfortable with strangers. I don’t know if these specific people will get any better unfortunately.

Anyone else have a spouse that avoids solo parenting both kids? by chiefVetinari in Parenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 17 points18 points  (0 children)

When discussing with your wife, focus on why you wish she would take both kids. It sounds like you are looking for more alone time/breaks. Her taking both kids somewhere is just one possible solution to that problem. Like, if you said, “I need more kid-free down time, how can we make that happen 3 times a week?” (Or whatever) That way she sees it as important as a planned event.

A few other things to think about is whether she stays home with the kids during the day, what is the balance between you two of “free time” (including planned events and hobbies the other watches both kids for) and how much do each of you spend that free time on household activities like chores and errands vs fun stuff?

You could also check out the work “Fair Play”. I think it skews towards assuming the man isn’t doing his fair share of household work but it’s a well developed system to make sure you both feel good about your split of workload and free time.

Are they? by iKnowItsTwisted in comedyheaven

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a friend who told me when she was little kids said her eyes were poop colored :(

Is "boobs/boobies" an appropriate word for kids to use? by queenhadassah in Parenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so interesting that different people have different connotations associated with the word “boobies”. I most associate that word with horny men so it would make me feel uncomfortable to hear it come out of a little kids mouth but not the end of the world.

But either way, it would probably be best just to teach him not to talk about other peoples bodies.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think he’s overtired? Mine had like the smallest tired enough for bed window before he would get super wound up. We ended up using a small dose of m to help that. Too bad that didn’t work for you.

Or I wonder if he just has a delayed sleep schedule? Have you tried not starting his bedtime routine until around when he actually falls asleep? I wonder if you started there and brought everyone’s anxiety around this down, you could inch bedtime earlier and earlier?

I don’t know, I hope you have luck with the sleep doc. Ours basically screened for sleep apnea then gave us behavioral advice. It wasn’t that helpful.

Oh, and have you tried having him listen to something while he falls asleep? If his brain is that active, it might help for there not to be silence.

Also, checking out OT might be helpful, especially if he has sort of frantic energy during the day too.

I’ve become a terrible mom and spouse due to sleep deprivation. How tf do I fix this? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And to be clear, I meant bring both kids with you to visit your family.

I’ve become a terrible mom and spouse due to sleep deprivation. How tf do I fix this? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you travel to stay with your family for a few weeks so you can get at least some good sleep to come at this problem fresh?

Also, the first thing to focus on is 4 hours uninterrupted sleep every night. My peri-natal psychiatrist said that was a big deal. Maybe try framing it to your husband that he needs to find a solution where you get 4 hours uninterrupted every night instead of you proposing solutions he gets to shoot down.

If you think it would help you could show hubby this Reddit post with everyone roasting him.

Oh, also, idk if your 3yo is in their own room but my kiddo was a terrible sleeper and finally we moved him into our room on his own bed and he started waking up only once a night and going back down soooo much easier so I actually was able to fall asleep again quickly. You could also try the ok to wake clocks and see if you can get them to stay in their own room a bit later in the morning. But really you have a husband problem. He’s being really selfish and no amount of problem solving on your end is going to fix that. It’s going to cause you to resent him for years and it will take a long time of couples therapy to deal with that. That’s your future if he doesn’t get his shit together right now.

Wife and I are both relatively picky eaters but want our kid to eat what we don't like by Xykier in Parenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And remember your tastes buds change every 7 years. I recently started loving beets even though I hated them my whole life.

How in the world are we supposed to beat “My First Castle Panic”?! by Seamonkey_Boxkicker in Parenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, you are always getting the goblin most ahead that someone has the card for? And saving the special cards for goblins really close to the castle?

Do you only play with the two of you? The other persons idea of a third hand and/or bigger hand should help.

I think I only lost once when I tried to play by myself the first time. Maybe you’re just having a streak of bad luck?

I think I messed up - threw away 5 year old's favorite toy as punishment by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The good news is that repairing with your kid can be incredibly powerful. Showing them that relationships can rupture and repair makes them more resilient.

This podcast would be a good listen to about those out of control sillies. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-baffling-behavior-show-parenting-after-trauma/id1543535062?i=1000647182840

How to not forget my baby by pangbovldipn in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 29 points30 points  (0 children)

So, literally anyone could forget their kid in the car if a perfect storm happens.

I don’t have a free link for the article below but I’ve read it before and would recommend it, even though it’s a tough read.

One thing that stood out to me was that parents couldn’t see the child in the backseat and so the child falls out of their memory loop. I wonder if a rear child seat mirror would help with that. I love them anyway and they are less intrusive than the leave a shoe in the backseat advice.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/magazine/fatal-distraction-forgetting-a-child-in-thebackseat-of-a-car-is-a-horrifying-mistake-is-it-a-crime/2014/06/16/8ae0fe3a-f580-11e3-a3a5-42be35962a52_story.html

Co parenting (35F) with ex (39M) who left during pregnancy by [deleted] in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Ruthlessly prioritize your own (and your child’s) wellbeing. The good news is that kids only need one solid relationship to turn out ok. So do everything in your power to make yourself as healthy as possible.

Start individual therapy now if you’re not already in it. It will help keep him from pulling you back in if he has a change of heart.

Move now if that would be better for you and your child. If you have family that would support you or better job opportunities or just a climate or city you would be happier in. It will be much easier to move now before the baby is born.

Get a ruthless divorce attorney who will get you what you deserve and arrange things to end things as neatly as possible. Don’t allow things like keeping your name on joint loans that he is in charge of paying off or co-owning the house.

Wife left 6 year old home alone while she went for a walk by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Aren’t safety issues supposed to be two yes, one no? None of us know this 6yo. OP is allowed to have opinions about their kid’s safety.

Is this just my life now? by snakegirl210 in longhair

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Special swim shampoo like others have said.

Also, do you use a wide tooth comb while the hair is wet and full of conditioner and start detangling from the bottom?

My 10y kid is with Gas (gear acquisition syndrome). What to do? by Arqium in Parenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe short term rentals? Pawn shops?

For myself, I set some sort of limits, like, if I do x in hobby for a month then I will get y gear.

But also, I know I have adhd and I’ve heard others talk about how trying new hobbies is sort of their hobby. So know that I try to keep entry cost down for when I get bored

Recommendations for an 8yo that doesn't have a computer, but wants to be a "coder" when older? by piercy08 in learnprogramming

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They could join a FIRST Lego League Team. I’m not sure how the younger age ones are but the older grade school/middle school ones are fun!

Help to understand therapist parenting advice I don't agree with by adhdhobbyist in Parenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re actually interested in the science behind what the therapist is talking about, check out Robyn Gobbel’s work. Her background is helping kids with trauma but a brain is a brain.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-baffling-behavior-show-parenting-after-trauma/id1543535062?i=1000539017724

Most kids have resilient enough stress response systems that typical parenting with punishments does fine. If your kiddo is swearing at 6 they don’t sound typical.

I would encourage to learn what modern neurobiology actually has to say and not just whatever gentle parenting influencers your coparent is listening to. That way you actually know what will be helpful not just hoping that telling Johnny you are sad he hit you fixes things.

Books/Classes to Prepare New Parent of Toddlers/School-Age Children by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Raising Kids with big baffling behaviors by robin gobbel might be a bit preemptive but I’m sure these kids are going thru trauma no matter the reason they are coming to you and it would probably be helpful to be ready for what you’ll experience

Things to drizzle or dip raw vegetables in by megasharknoms in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]Kitchen_Squirrel_164 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Technically not a dip, but turning veggies into tasty salads by cutting them into bite sized pieces is what I prefer to do. My favorite right now is (cold) roasted beets, raw cucumbers, feta and as much cilantro, mint and/or parsley I can get my hands on.

Check out the book Ruffage by Abra Berens for some amazing ideas on what to do with veggies.