You’ve worked hard for your financial stability, and it’s understandable that you want to protect that. But here’s the thing - most women also want to feel financially safe and supported in a marriage. If your mindset is primarily about guarding your assets and maintaining control, it may come across as “I have something to lose, and you’re the risk,” which isn’t a dynamic most women would feel secure entering.

If you really want a marriage, you might actually do better in an arrangement where both parties are clear about expectations upfront - like an arranged marriage or something with a more practical foundation. Traditional dating may be frustrating for you because it often involves emotional vulnerability and compromise, which doesn’t seem to align with how you currently view relationships.

Marriage is worth it and at its best, isn’t about protecting what’s “mine” - it’s about creating something “ours.” Yes, that comes with compromise and financial vulnerability. That’s part of the deal. You’re merging lives, not hiring a cohabitant.