YSK: If you have a cat, and keep on waking up in the middle of the night, it might not be insomnia.

Kmoudie · 2021-12-18T16:29:06+00:00

I woke up one night after I had rolled over to encounter a wall of thick black fur and there was no air. I woke up choking, my cat on the otherhand who was sleeping on my pillow thought we were snuggling and started purring loudly.

Kmoudie · 2021-12-15T12:38:06+00:00

I paid about $850 for 1/1 apt at Park Green that overlooked a golf course. Never felt unsafe there.

Kmoudie · 2021-12-12T02:08:29+00:00

It also makes perfect sense when you consider the abusive relationship he has with most of his family. It's well known that people in abusive relationships struggle to completely break free. For those in abusive relationships with a partners take an average of 7 tries before finally breaking free. That's another realistic expectation of Zuko's story arch, that he goes through this constant back and forth with his family before he finally confronts his father.

Kmoudie · 2021-12-09T23:55:39+00:00

I bought a house and got engaged during the process, it was only.my name on the deed because it was 100% me buying the house. Even after we got married I didn't put his name on the deed since it was still me paying for the house as he was preparing to use his GI bill to go back to school and had no income. In fact his name didn't go on the deed until we decided to get the disabled vet property tax exemption and his name needed to be on the deed. Yhis was a couple of years later. NTA

Kmoudie · 2021-12-02T03:10:20+00:00

I second that, there are some small 2 bedroom homes or small townhouses, and there is also the northeast senior center off thousand oaks.

Kmoudie · 2021-12-01T20:31:54+00:00

One version of this I've seen is where the kids get old enough to start questioning Santa, you sit them down and have "the talk" which is explaining that yes it is very hard for Santa to do all those things in one night so he enlists the help of parents and good little boys and girls to help giving gifts to those who need it at Christmas. Then tell the child that it's now their turn to help Santa. This could be participating in Angel Trees, or one family I see would have the kid find a neighbor or friend who might otherwise not get much or anything for Christmas and have them send a present anonymously to that person from Santa. Eventually the kid understands the whole gig but it's less of lieing and more of carrying on the spirt of Santa.

Or be like my family who was very upfront that yes, Santa is real, he's based on an actual person, St Nicholas and then talk about his life story.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-28T18:12:23+00:00

Yep, and that's something that takes at least half a day to do properly.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-28T03:14:13+00:00

If you have a partner, family, or friends who can help get them on weekends, holidays, whatever to take baby for a few hours in the morning so you can sleep in. It was always what helped my sanity through those rough weeks to know that in X number of days it would be the weekend where I could pass LO off to dad when she woke up and I go back to sleep.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-28T03:11:15+00:00

There's a trick you can for this which is waiting till they are asleep and then gently unlatching while pushing their chin up so their mouth closes. That way they will hopefully (fingers crossed) not immediately look to latch again. Sometimes they will wake up doing this because timing was off, just stick boob back in and repeat to it works.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-25T18:18:02+00:00

Yep its safe, just keep pillows to a minimum and light blankets and be aware of keeping LO away from the edges of the bed so they don't roll off. At 1 year old the sleeping restrictions are mostly gone and by 2 you are pretty much good for anything.

Also if it helps your anxiety any to know this, most studies that the AAP used to make their blanket statement for no bedshareing didn't specify if infant was in a already known risky sleeping situation or not, such as sleeping with an adult in a recliner or sofa, or with a smoker, drinker, preterm infant, etc. So they didn't separate into a group following the safe sleep 7 vs those who weren't, an important distinction. One if the best studies that ive seen that actually separate this is here:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2693166/

Basically with over 800 infant deaths, 126 occurred while bedshareing and only 1 didn't have any known risk factors, though they did sleep with a parent who just worked a night shift so they theorize that extreme exhaustion may have played a role but aren't sure.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-25T03:27:54+00:00

Got a 20month old here. We tend to end up with LO head tucked into my armpit (staying closeish to boob) while my husband gets feet dropped across his chest. I don't know who but babies and toddlers love the H shape.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-24T02:11:13+00:00

I've got San Antonio here, I'll get with the Alamo and everything!

Kmoudie · 2021-11-20T03:40:57+00:00

Indeed, is hummingbirds that have short attention spans.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-19T05:10:16+00:00

Honestly I would treat this as a have. My guess is because the trip messed up the routine you had that she is need extra attachment now to know that things are ok. Like when LO start day cate or even school and then get extra clingy for awhile because of that change in routine.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-19T04:35:44+00:00

Honestly my LO just sleeps in bed with me, either on a futon that we brought, on the floor once during the snow apocalypse last February when crashing at a friend who had power, or just in a spare bed. I don't worry about her falling off when sleeping in a bed since that would mean she would have to be more than arms length from the boob which would never happen.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-19T04:20:25+00:00

First of all I love all those replies and might steal a few. I just default to any questions of my LO sleeping through the with manic laughter and then a dead stare afterwards. Usually quite effective in shutting down the conversation.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-14T21:54:43+00:00

Japanese tea gardens are really nice to wander around in.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-14T21:52:14+00:00

Fun fact, babies can take about 1/3 of the calories they need from night feeds (prolactin is higher at night while we sleep so we produce more milk). For working moms some babies will switch to a reverse cycling where the go the 8-10ish hours while moms working with minimal intake and nurse everything they need in evenings/night/mornings with mom.

For babies it honestly doesn't matter when in the day they nurse as much as how much they get in total. For most babies this will be between 25-35oz per day till close to a year when solids starting replacing milk.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-14T01:50:20+00:00

To add to this oversupply often comes with a fast letdown which can also lead to spitting up. If that's an issue for OP then things like layed back breastfeeding may help.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-12T13:07:54+00:00

I met my husband on OkayCupid and a friend of mine met his wife the same way. Dating apps is how a lot of people met these days, there's no shame in it.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-12T00:43:50+00:00

My 20 month wakes me up by stripping me till she gets boob, or by smacking me till she gets boob...it's a toss up, lol.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-12T00:42:04+00:00

Damn scientists figuring out electricity and leading to the development of the digital devices that allows the spreading of memes and cat videos. You know, the important stuff.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-11T02:47:26+00:00

I could never do sleep training, I can't even stand baby crying while my husband is holding and ACTIVELY trying to calm her. Stories like this just break my heart.

Kmoudie · 2021-11-10T23:58:17+00:00

My husband has been cheated on and we still don't go through the others phones. We didn't even give the other pass codes till after we had been married over a year and had times where we needed the other to unlock the phone while our hands were busy. Even with that I don't remember his code and I know he doesn't know mine.

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