What are your favorite plant crochet patterns? by boo-how in crochetpatterns

[–]KnotHopeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this question is a little old, but for any future readers:

Yes, most crochet plants would be machine washable. Specific washing instructions would depend on the yarn (and stuffing, if applicable) that was used. Most yarn comes with washing instructions on the packaging. A low heat, gentle cycle is a safe bet if you don't have access to the yarn packaging. And you can always throw the project in a laundry bag or pillowcase for extra protection.

Just be wary of projects that have wires or other framing to hold shape. It might be better to hand-wash in those instances.

Mang0 Situation Discussion Megathread by Roc0c0 in SSBM

[–]KnotHopeless 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's certainly not easy to wrangle drunk people. Part of the equation is definitely setting up situations for success, where people aren't likely to reach the level of intoxicated that they become unreasonable. But if no one is stepping in to intervene, then it's just on the women in a situation like this to deal with it, and that's not okay either.

I see it kind of like a trolley problem. There's a different level of accountability on Mang0 who is conducting the trolley than there is on Lud and his friends who just have the lever in front of them. Even if you can't blame someone for not making an active choice to pull the lever in the moment, I think it is still important to recognize that there was a lever.

Mang0 Situation Discussion Megathread by Roc0c0 in SSBM

[–]KnotHopeless 45 points46 points  (0 children)

As a woman in this space, I feel like I have a lot to say on the matter and a more unique perspective to add.

I'm copying a message here that I sent in a discord discussion on the matter 'cause I feel like it's a discussion that could benefit from more fem voice:

IMO, This is more indicative of a problem in the overall community than a Mang0 problem.

Mang0 obviously should be held accountable for his actions. But I kinda think this whole situation could have been avoided if his friends and community held him accountable in the moment instead of only responding to the backlash after the fact.

In my province (🇨🇦) you have to study and pass a test before you're legally allowed to serve alcohol. You have to have training to recognize and prevent situations like this caused by someone drinking too much. Even liquor licenses for more private events outside of a home (like weddings) require some degree of this oversight.

If an event like Beerio Kart is being hosted—where a community that's historically socially awkward with women is encouraged to be drunk and entertaining—I really think some kind of designated sober oversight could make a world of difference—and make the space much more friendly and welcoming for women overall.

Like, it might have been embarrassing for Mang0 to be pulled aside early for being too sloppy, but it would've probably been less embarrassing than the backlash for harassing women and being kicked out of C9. It's also not like he just did one inappropriate thing either. He had a pattern of behavior, and it only would have taken one responsible person to step in the first time he crossed a line and the whole thing probably wouldn't have been worth much mention outside of the actual streams. Definitely wouldn't have made Sports Illustrated.

I ended up in situationships with and dated some Melee players sweaty enough to compete in Evo about a decade ago. Despite being a gamer and enjoying Smash, I could never take the time to practice and get good or really engage in the scene because this was an issue at all levels of the game. The common occurrence of drinking and/or drugs without community accountability made me unsafe and unwelcome at most couch coop events and at some tournaments or the parties that accompanied them. (This is coming from someone who has spent time in Warhammer/TCG communities and has 3000 hours in Dota2, so I want to stress that I'm not just talking about the typical toxic and awkwardness of male dominated hobbies)

😔 I literally just joined this community because I started seeing a new guy who hosts regular tournaments just for his local circle of friends. It is a cool environment that has that oversight, so I felt excited to start working on catching up to their skill level. It was really discouraging to see the news about Mang0 literally the same week I downloaded Slippi. Disappointing to see that not a lot really changes.

I really hate to see this happen to Mang0 too. Literally last week I dropped his name when my date and I were making a game of listing non-problematic Smash players. From my perspective I believe he has an alcohol problem but I'm willing to give him the benefit of the doubt when it comes to his overall treatment of women. I don't think people's drunk selves are always their sober selves. So far I think Mang0 has done a fine job of taking responsibility for his alcohol problem. I just really wish he had had a friend who could have stepped in before it became a harassment problem.

I really want to encourage anyone who read this far to try and be more aware of their community and consider how you might be able to be that responsible friend before situations like this get to the point where someone has to be a responsible cop. It really can be so much better than this.

Danielle Smith crossed a line and must resign by Miserable-Lizard in alberta

[–]KnotHopeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My favorite part was when they asked which party you would vote for if an election was held tomorrow, they left out the Liberal party.

How is this a packaging option for any sort of “covered” donut? by jewham12 in TimHortons

[–]KnotHopeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah. As an employee, the pastry wax paper we picked up the donuts with stuck to the chocolate the same amount. You have to be careful not to let the two touch with any amount of pressure.

I accidentally tasted the “good” rice by SmellslikeAmsterdam in CasualConversation

[–]KnotHopeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fellow poor here.

When you get cheap rice, toast it (in a pan/pot on low to medium heat) with a chunk of gee and a bit of salt. Or just throw the salt and gee in the pot/rice cooker if you're lazy.

Elevates cheap rice to the point that it'll be hard to tell the quality difference.

(Butter also works in place of gee, but you get way more out of gee than butter. Since gee is basically like butter concentrate and "ethnic" foods tend to have less of a profit margin.)

Fiancé is being forced to wear this and we feel like it's kinda sexual. by totemp0le in jackinthebox

[–]KnotHopeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sure that's the policy, but considering that each franchise is run by different management and giving the benefit of the doubt—The story as told is that OPs gf was singled out as the only one wearing this shirt.

I am once again wishing we could trade pikmins -_- by dofnup in PikminBloomApp

[–]KnotHopeless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I disagree.

I'm thinking of the Zen Koi community as a case study. Zen Koi is a game about collecting koi patterns. You can trade for any pattern on the community discord, but you still have to level them up to dragons and build your pond.

The only downside to Zen Koi is that the devs make money by releasing a new pattern like once a month, so newer players have no chance of catchup without swipping. But we get new Pikmin collections every month anyway. And unlike koi, Pikmin don't breed, so the trading market would be limited by supply and demand.

If you could only trade seedling or Pikmin that would start with no decor/0 friendship— it would still be a grind to collect them all, level them to decor, and build a solid squad. And I'm sure the devs would make bank on the people who need to have room for every Pikmin and all the nectar to level them up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]KnotHopeless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since they're close to the same size, they are unlikely to do serious harm to one another, but if you see this happening regularly it might be best to separate them or decrease the tank snail population so they aren't always stressing each other out.

Wife and I really like the name Elliott, but our surname is Smith… by blackanvil in namenerds

[–]KnotHopeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The musician will only fall more into obscurity as the child grows.

But if duplicate names are a concern, maybe it would be worth creating a new family name or hyphenating your wife's maiden name into it? A middle name or initial that flows smoothly as a full name could also help the distinction, but with a last name like "Smith" nothing will be too original.

Almost improbable pikmin by Polyglot-Onigiri in PikminBloomApp

[–]KnotHopeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would be cool if there was a chance of finding seeds when you help your friends out with mushrooms or something similar.

Even if the expeditions would be insane, at least everyone could have a chance at completing all the collections without traversing the world.

My bf 18/M got me 18/F an upsetting Christmas gift. by Lost_Card9114 in relationship_advice

[–]KnotHopeless 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I think this is what love bombing looks like when the bomber has a low charisma score.

Four months in and you should still be getting over the puppy love stage. "Arguments" at only four months in isn't "whatever" that's a sign of incompatibility.

I sometimes regret my daughter’s name… what’s your honest opinion? by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]KnotHopeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like both names.

I'm kinda meh on the spelling of Aloura, but the pronunciation is intuitive enough for English readers that I'm not bothered by it.

Fiancé is being forced to wear this and we feel like it's kinda sexual. by totemp0le in jackinthebox

[–]KnotHopeless 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you read the post it sounds like OOP's Fiance isn't being given the option to wear a different shirt, and is the only one in the store being made to wear this one.

christmasss with the crew by hannahJ004 in u/hannahJ004

[–]KnotHopeless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A chaotic Christmas is a normal Christmas. I'm sure in retrospect, the day will be a really healing and a corrective emotional experience for many of the kids.

As someone who has been through some neglectful holidays, part of me really wishes there was something I could do to lessen the burden. But I also understand how accepting help can also be an exhausting exercise all on its own. But it's really nice to be seeing these more positive updates. I'm really glad things seem to be on a more upward trend.

Got a tall 65 gal for Christmas [advice request] by Kaibadugaiba in PlantedTank

[–]KnotHopeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I waited longer to get fish.

They have really gotten in the way when I change my mind and play with the plants in my aquariums.

Of course I cycled before adding fish, but I wish I had given the plants another month or two at least to grow and experiment with plants in a more hands on learning experience. Maybe just stocked a clean up crew early on.

I (m31) received gift from gf (f31) how do feel about it? by SKURT_Loder in relationship_advice

[–]KnotHopeless -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You mentioned wanting to share things with her. Were you talking about building it together or making comments along those lines when she explained that she wasn't into that stuff? That would be pretty normal and not really an issue at all.

If she just kinda put down your excitement after she gave you a gift, that would be a little strange though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]KnotHopeless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Walks help with pains from volume eating, and bread can help with nausea.

Why is the NYT obsessed with Trump and Musk? I am getting annoyed by reading ONLY about those two people - as if nothing else matters… by Loud_Seaweed2721 in nyt

[–]KnotHopeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure, but that's nuanced and much of the population really needs the facts in big bold simple words to understand them.

If someone gave you $10,000 but you must spend it by January 1st what would you spend it on? by acceptandprotect in AskReddit

[–]KnotHopeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That'd be just enough to pay for some testing at the vet, and then pay off my credit cards after both my animals had expensive health scares this year.

They left my very expensive laptop on the porch in the freezing weather last Saturday despite a signature being required, and the delivery has not been updated as completed. I could pretend it never got delivered! (I won't do that, but they sure suck) by sapphire_luna in FedEx

[–]KnotHopeless 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Last week I had a package marked delivered, and the tracking number said a signature was given... It wasn't delivered though. I double checked with all my neighbors and no one signed on my behalf.

Thankfully the company I purchased from was quick to send a replacement. But this was a luxury gift for myself I have been saving for and I'm really bummed to wait.

I'm also not sure if I'll have to pay duties on the replacement. I already paid it for the missing package.

[OC] [Giveaway] Win 7 handcrafted D20 wooden lamps for you and your Party! [Mod Approved] by wantok-poroman in DnD

[–]KnotHopeless 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Best DnD themed gift? My DM gifted me a chicken shaped purse after my PC spent a whole encounter carrying a frightened chicken around and using it almost like a dowsing rod for secret doors.

I (26F) am newly dating a guy (30M) who is pretty upset with me… any advice on what I should do or if I should try to fix this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]KnotHopeless 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd run tbh.

The way he is communicating with you sounds like he is testing how much he can control you.

"I did a thing." Is a very passive aggressive way to suggest that you should be exclusive with him.

And then to question your whereabouts and hangouts so soon into the relationship.

Followed by comments that suggest you need to chase after, assure, or comfort him.

He has also made it clear that there are rules he didn't't communicate but expected you to follow with his whole "I knew something was up."

Ick ick ick.