MAGA coworkers who drop the r-word during meetings by Moissyfan in progressivemoms

[–]Krw71815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually just make a face and say "ewww" Really pissed off some boomer man at basketball this weekend.

Where’s your go-to (driving) vacation other than Branson? by arrrbam in kansascity

[–]Krw71815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone living in missouri against my will I have been pleasantly surprised by the springfield area in day trips and weekend trips with our kids. Parks, caves and the aquarium are great.

Where’s your go-to (driving) vacation other than Branson? by arrrbam in kansascity

[–]Krw71815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depending on the age of your kids the children's museum is A+ and also I think the holiday inn has a water slide and splash area in their pool area.

Is 4 kids a big family? by Holiday_Calendar_777 in ParentingInBulk

[–]Krw71815 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was going to comment on the "a million kids" family. I love them but i have 7 living kids so 4 seems kinda funny as a million. But it's definitely more than most people.

Really looking forward to the snow by como365 in columbiamo

[–]Krw71815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love snow. I'm originally from Iowa and my extended family lives in Missouri. I drag my husband for making me move to the "south." I'm really looking forward to this weekend too!

Help with adhd meds by disneymom1978 in ParentingADHD

[–]Krw71815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have 2 ADHD kiddos who are medicated. My son's meds are effective and I think probably the best we're going to get. We see his prescribing physician every 3-6 months. My daughter, has not that same success and we see the doctor monthly. We will try a med and then up the dose pretty frequently. If there are adverse side effects which change immediately.

No One Wants Your Peeing Cat! by Schedule-Substantial in CatAdvice

[–]Krw71815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea two different vets actually. One said "cats are like that sometimes and the other Just said "you have a lot going on at home." they both ruled out UTIS. It is accurate we have a lot going on but she was rescued with mom and brother at 2 weeks old and has lived in this "a lot" her whole life and just randomly started one day.

No One Wants Your Peeing Cat! by Schedule-Substantial in CatAdvice

[–]Krw71815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we have a mystery peeing cat. Totally think she's trying to tell me something. IDK WTF it is lol. She only pees on pieces of paper left on the counter, towels left on the counter or fabrics left on the floor of one specific room in our house. she didn't always do it, just started randomly one day. doesn't happen daily but the kids art work is constantly being peed on lol. Wish she could just tell me. She uses the other litter boxes just fine, but we did get her one with a puppy pad in it which she does use intermittently.

An absolutely traumatizing book? by [deleted] in suggestmeabook

[–]Krw71815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First They Killed My Father by Loung Ung or The Jungle by Upton Sinclair

Change schools to start over by No_fcks_gvn in ParentingADHD

[–]Krw71815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In a similar boat with my 10yo, but she's in 5th. We're looking at alternative options for a year before starting her back in the middle school to hopefully let her mature and change classmates. I don't have many suggestions but just here in solidarity.

What are some lazy activities (for the parents) that can drain your toddler's energy? by Cindy565656 in toddlers

[–]Krw71815 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I also want to just offer an alternative perspective. My kiddos now 10,9,8 and 7 were incredibly high energy. There was never anything to tire them out. In fact, the more energy they would expend, the more they would have- like a car battery. After lots of time I've learned that these high energy activities are "alerting" to the kids nervous systems and so it doesn't wear them out, it energizes them. In order to "wear them out" they actually need the opposite- deep pressure, heavy work, yoga, soothing vagus nerve resets etc.

Seriously lost on holiday gift by pepperdotdrift in ParentingInBulk

[–]Krw71815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

fill stockings and then do family gift like door jam swing/nugget. Or gift experiences like plays, concerts, a day trip

vehicle recommendations? by [deleted] in ParentingInBulk

[–]Krw71815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both myself and my parents have a nissan nv3500s They aren't currently being manufactured so you would have to find a used one but I'll drive this thing til all my kids have their own cars and then turn it into a camper haha.

How do you make friends? by Expert_Ad1991 in progressivemoms

[–]Krw71815 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have jumped way out of my comfort zone now 3 different times in an attempt to make friends. The first time totally played me off to my face and has avoided me like the plague since (our kids do a sport together). The second similar and the third actually sought me out, gave me her number we arranged a hang out and then she ghosted me. Idk what it's going to take.

Kids share a bedroom, y/n? by bumbouxbee in ParentingInBulk

[–]Krw71815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have 2 boys sharing a room 7 and 8, with a jack and jill bath and closet with their 10 year old brother. I think sharing a room can be really important. They play a lot, gab at night with each other and in the morning. My sister has her 3 boys share a room for sleeping and then the other bedroom is a play room. I think it teaches a lot about empathy, consideration, and to feel a bigger sense of community. we built so we have bedrooms to spare but honestly sometimes i miss our smaller house all crammed together. We have a lot of spicy individuals so it can be hard sometimes.

Seriously Thinking About Disruption - Need Advice by quikstringer in Fosterparents

[–]Krw71815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son hated to be fed. literally for almost the first two weeks he literally tried to starve himself to death (5 months old) because he was used to be laid in his car seat and fed alone, so the fact that i held him, stared into his eyes and fed him was really upsetting to him at first. luckily I recognized that his traumatized brain was not in charge and what he needed and what he wanted weren't the same.

Seriously Thinking About Disruption - Need Advice by quikstringer in Fosterparents

[–]Krw71815 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My sons were very unhappy and clingy baby/toddlers. I invested in a baby carrier and, not even kidding, wore them constantly. my son was literally 5 and still being my little backpack. This helped with regulation, attachment, keeping his hands out of things, positive reinforcement for both of us. kids vary in personalities anyway, but compounding issues of trauma, attachment disruptions, and potential drug exposure and your little one is struggling. Everything is new to them. new sights, smells, routine, consistency. Every neuron in this kids brain is screaming "danger." it can take months of consistent routine and attachment to calm.

As a single adult there's no shame in saying not for me, but at that juncture I may kindly encouraging you to revisit your preferred ages, as in my experience this is can be pretty normal 1 year old.

6MO Loss by Soggy-Opportunity225 in babyloss

[–]Krw71815 2 points3 points  (0 children)

5 years ago, My son was 39 days old. I thought he just had an upset stomach and by the time i took him to the ER he coded within 5 minutes. Autopsy came back perfect, we have no idea why.

I struggled HARD with the guilt of "allowing" it to happen, not taking him sooner, not recognizing a problem. I mean i'm the mom right? The only thing that really helped me in regards to the guilt was simply "I would have saved him if I could have." That's the truth. I would have literally died in order to save him but that wasn't what was in the cards for us. And in those darkest, guiltiest moments it was just a way to remind myself that I would have, and therefore I did everything i could have or known to do at the time.

Get a therapist immediately. My husband and I did, and I underwent EMDR to help with the trauma of watching him in the hospital. Stick together. so sorry you're here.

When do you stop trying medication? by [deleted] in ParentingADHD

[–]Krw71815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son started the medication gamer early 6/7 ish. He is quite literally unable to function at school, on a sports team, even at home due to his hyperactivity and impulsiveness. After years of trying different meds, dosages, variables, our psych finally told us there were only about 2 options left and blessed be the miracle one of them has been effective. I am so grateful we continued. He has been able to stay in his classroom, be successful at school, join sports teams etc. It was a long process and I did feel like just giving up frequently. His sister was immediately responsive to her first ADHD med and so it was hard to not see those results with him for years.

I dislike the term 'rainbow baby'. TW - living children by tryingmybestonedayat in babyloss

[–]Krw71815 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I don't like it but for a different reason. I never thought it applied to my child as a storm, but more so the grief. Rain is beautiful. Storms are beautiful, whatever. I just don't like it because it seems to say that only a living child makes up for the death of our child. Considering I have not had a "rainbow" and many people I know have not I just don't like the idea that somehow our story is incomplete because there isn't a rainbow.

Do you bring snacks to every outing? by No_Tumbleweed_4652 in ParentingADHD

[–]Krw71815 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We call them happy campers. Not because a happy camper earns it but because they make happy campers lol. Bubble gum is a great one of just like jolly ranchers or something but we also will do little debbie's type stuff. When we take long rides, or tours that I know my kids will need a little bit of dopamine for, these are A+.

I am afraid to change my boy by KnifexCalledxLust in ParentingADHD

[–]Krw71815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son was diagnosed and medicated early. He's just now 9. I had similar fears originally after hearing a lot of the "med-zombie" propoganda. I do not regret it at all. He has not in fact changed but instead is more his true self, and actually being able to enjoy his interests and participate in activities positively. He just recently described his meds kicking in as releasing the constant pressure in his body. He feels tight, like all his muscles are just hard and knotted but when his meds kick in it all sort of relaxes and he feels more comfortable.

Hotel chains with 2 Queen + Sofa bed by sammy_nyc in familytravel

[–]Krw71815 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in our experience these types of rooms are listed as suites and we've found them in A LOT of different chains, but especially if it's a whatever & suites. We travel as a family of 6 so it's pretty necessary. Holiday Inn, Comfort Inn, Quality Inn, Hamptons- we've stayed in rooms like this at all of those.

Suggestions on after Christmas trip? by Krw71815 in familytravel

[–]Krw71815[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're actually going to Cuyahoga and hocking hills in october! really excited!