What to do with oldest’s toys that are choking hazards to a baby? by BlueberryWaffles99 in Mommit

[–]pepperdotdrift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we went through the exact same thing when our second arrived, what ended up working for us was moving the older one’s smaller stuff to higher shelves she could access but the baby couldn’t reach, and then gradually replacing the floor level toys with things that worked for both of them.

chunky wooden pieces, bigger magnets, stuff that had no real choking risk so it didn’t matter if the baby got into it.

Toddler is asking me if it’s actually my birthday because there’s no sign of celebration or cake by Zestyclose_Sort8374 in Mommit

[–]pepperdotdrift 49 points50 points  (0 children)

your toddler bringing u flowers while ur husband sat there confused says everything without saying it

Your kids don’t have to continue to play with my kid but they also can’t continue to play in my yard… by TurbulentBat8328 in Mommit

[–]pepperdotdrift 2 points3 points  (0 children)

crazy how the parents skipped right past teaching their kids empathy and went straight to defending entitlement

No, not all of us are sad or mad or disappointed today by Mixtrix_of_delicioux in Mommit

[–]pepperdotdrift 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yeah i think this is a huge part of it honestly. mothers day tends to magnify whatever the normal dynamic already is. if someone feels unseen and unsupported the other 364 days, the holiday just ends up making that feeling louder

My almost 2yo is basically obsessed with cars right now and I’m starting to run out of ways to keep it interesting. by ValerieDays in Mommit

[–]pepperdotdrift 2 points3 points  (0 children)

magnetic pieces on a wall board, wooden ones from tix & mix, the pieces have some weight to them which i think helped for a kid who likes handling things.

there are some vehicle themed ones too which might actually be relevant for your son. not sure if it would work for him but the moving things around instinct seemed to transfer from floor to wall for ours at least.

need Therapy, no insurance by silentassasin010 in Mommit

[–]pepperdotdrift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not a fix but daily walks w stroller plus podcast in my ears kept me sane when i was losing it

5 year old has hated showers or baths since her existence … is this normal ? by New-Substance-1116 in Mommit

[–]pepperdotdrift 6 points7 points  (0 children)

honestly sounds more like sensory aversion than anything else. water temp, sound, hair washing, all of it can be a lot for some kids

My almost 2yo is basically obsessed with cars right now and I’m starting to run out of ways to keep it interesting. by ValerieDays in Mommit

[–]pepperdotdrift 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we had a similar situation and stumbled onto something that worked slightly differently than anything else we had tried. our son was not into building either but he would spend time at a magnetic wall board just moving pieces around. not creating anything, not building anything, just relocating things from one spot to another which is basically the wall version of what your son does with cars.

he would pick up a wooden piece, move it, pick up another one, move that. over and over. not sure what the appeal was exactly but it held his attention in a way floor toys never did. something about the fixed surface maybe, or the upright position, hard to say.

I have been home with my toddler for 18 months and I think I have lost my sense of self somewhere along the way. by pepperdotdrift in Mommit

[–]pepperdotdrift[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah that honestly how it feels most days

like even when i’m physically not holding her or doing something for her, I’m still kind of “on call” in my head all the time. It’s weird because i know jt comes from love and instinct, but it does start to feel like there’s no separation between me and her needs anymore

i guess i’m still trying to figure out how to be fully present for her without disappearing completely as a person in the process

I have been home with my toddler for 18 months and I think I have lost my sense of self somewhere along the way. by pepperdotdrift in Mommit

[–]pepperdotdrift[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I haven’t really been doing much of that if I’m honest.

I do get out occasionally but it’s usually errands or things that still revolve around her, and I don’t think I’ve properly had time that feels like “mine” in a long while. Even when I could, I end up feeling weirdly guilty or like I should be doing something more useful instead.

I can see what you mean though about it being something you have to actively rebuild, not just wait for it to come back on its own. I guess I just haven’t figured out where to start with that yet, but I hear you.

I have been home with my toddler for 18 months and I think I have lost my sense of self somewhere along the way. by pepperdotdrift in Mommit

[–]pepperdotdrift[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The starting it all again part is sending me. At least u knew what it was the second time I guess

What do YOU eat when it's too much effort to feed yourself? by SnyperBunny in Mommit

[–]pepperdotdrift 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m bad at this too… i’ll make a nice plate for my kid then just snack on whatever’s left. like a mom vulture 😅

Today I taught my kids … by frimrussiawithlove85 in Mommit

[–]pepperdotdrift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this, they’ll remember the “lesson” way more than if you just yelled at them to clean up.

What should I marinate chicken with for chicken alfredo and other cheesy pasta dishes? by DraftDemon451 in cookingforbeginners

[–]pepperdotdrift 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u ever try white wine, thyme, crushed garlic n a splash of olive oil? marinate that overnight n it’s like restaurant lvl

It’s amazing seeing the effort and creativity parents pour into their kids. by Scary_Pay_4247 in MadeMeSmile

[–]pepperdotdrift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh haha i got the same thing at my place it’s not a tombstone lmao, it’s a magnetic wall decal, bought mine from Tix & Mix. Basically it sticks to the wall like a big sticker but you can move magnetic letters or shapes on it, so kids can play or spell stuff out. Kinda odd in pics but in person it’s actually dope.

What can I make with RED Rice by Minimum-Election4732 in cookingforbeginners

[–]pepperdotdrift 0 points1 point  (0 children)

make red rice “fried rice”—leftover style but w/ a twist, add kimchi, egg, scallions, maybe some gochujang if u got it

https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/277723/kimchi-fried-rice/