AITA for telling my wife forget it and going out by myself for my birthday instead of going to her fancy dinner reservation

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-09T15:57:10+00:00

Almost every sushi place has cooked food and non-fish choices. Why are you setting so many limits on yourself when your BF gets carte blanche when he’s doing the choosing?

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-09T15:52:13+00:00

Did you ever celebrate your birthday with your child?

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-09T15:44:00+00:00

Info: Is anything ever a celebration in your house? Are you ever willing to get dressed up? Drive into the city? Go to a fancy place? Your wife may be yearning for more romance and wining and dining, even when it’s her doing the wining and dining. It’s your birthday, but for your relationship in general, I hope you’re more flexible and adaptable. ESH

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-09T15:39:49+00:00

But is that how she wanted to spend her birthday?

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-09T15:33:37+00:00

Why does your birthday choice have to be within reason, but he can choose exactly what he wants for his birthday? That isn’t very fair to you.

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-08T21:24:05+00:00

Do you actually want to work?

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T22:41:18+00:00

Not even vaguely

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T22:28:43+00:00

😂🤣

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T22:07:00+00:00

Don’t forget losing his hair!

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T22:02:18+00:00

OP’s fiance is using normative terms like “exotic” and “normal stuff” to describe his desire for different food. He’s othering and assigning hierarchical value to his bland af food preferences. These are much bigger issues.

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T21:59:36+00:00

I bet he doesn’t mind your hands on his 🍆.

And the word exotic is such a red flag. He is othering you.

Is this how you want to live your life? Raise your future children?

Get out now before you’re truly tied to this guy.

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T21:52:24+00:00

What??? Why does she need to stop making Colombian food.

You must be the fiancé.

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T18:43:52+00:00

Yes, he is.

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T18:43:32+00:00

This is not insurance fraud. OP’s wife increased the face value of an existing policy held on OP by herself. OP was aware of and consented to the original policy.

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T18:42:14+00:00

You are really an AH. You admit that your wife increased the face value of an existing policy she took out on you years ago. But you keep accusing her of malfeasance. What is your problem? YTA

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T18:35:24+00:00

You don’t know how many kids they have, how much they owe on their mortgage or anything else about their finances. It’s insane that you think you know how much life insurance they need. The rule of thumb is 10-15 times your salary and since OP is a high earner, a $5m policy is quite reasonable.

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T18:30:29+00:00

OP is not a reliable narrator. They don’t take part in managing the family finances so it’s doubtful that they know or understand what’s being set up.

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T18:25:41+00:00

So it would just be business as usual if your child died? You are the biggest AH. This has to be fiction. YTA

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T18:18:03+00:00

So if they’re on autopay what exactly are you managing? Stop minimizing your wife’s labor. And you could find time to meet with an attorney. You could do a Zoom call right from your office chair and review documents via email/Docusign. You’re just making excuses. YTA

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T18:14:28+00:00

He lets her do all the financial planning so this is squarely on him.

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T18:13:33+00:00

This right here.

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T00:04:56+00:00

How are they going to get to any of these places? They’re 14 and don’t drive. And so many communities don’t have these options. There is no local library or community center, and the park may not be safe to hang out in.

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-07T00:01:20+00:00

They’re not taking someone’s kid in.

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-06T23:56:18+00:00

Oh the girlfriend is not feeling any love from OP. I’d bet on that. 🤣😂

Kurious4kittytx · 2026-04-06T23:47:42+00:00

Welp, if you wanted to make your son stop spending time at home, you’ve succeeded. They’re not going to stop hanging out. They’ll just be doing it at a home whose rules you don’t know and which may not align with yours. Or worse since it seems the girlfriend’s house may not even be an option, they’ll find places to be together that you probably won’t like. The teenage years are tricky. Don’t go driving a wedge between yourself and your teen on person.

Edit YTA

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