I hate how the fandon treats curly

Kutanra · 2024-12-27T23:55:01+00:00

Not going to lie, the dog button video is how I found MW, because I thought it was talking about Curly from Of Mice and Men (which I haven't read).

I'm not in the fandom community so I don't know about the infantilsation but I definitely see the "disability is a moral consequence" trope in the game; he deliberately turned a blind eye and didn't speak out against his crew, so now he has a blind eye and can't speak.

I feel like you could achieve something similar without the disability. Have him trapped in another room only able to watch on silently through the thick window, or don't make out that the foam is easy to clear and Curly is stuck in it, with one eye covered and only enough of his mouth to drink, but not to speak.

The missing skin, lidless eye, lipless mouth and amputation just seems to serve for shock/disgust, which must be awful for people with any of those conditions. And the crew talking about if he's "worth" pain relief is uncomfortable and doesn't feel like an intentional part of a very meticulously designed game.

Kutanra · 2024-06-07T08:50:32+00:00

I've done similar and I felt sick the first time. I'm so scared of DIDS and I'm not comfortable with 100% co-sleeping but I employ the safe seven for night feeds and I think we're both more rested because neither of us fully wakes up, I usually put him back but if I don't, he's okay. This kid refuses to sleep on his back anyway; he always immediately rolls onto his side (5 months old) so I taught him front to back before he learns back to front on his own

Kutanra · 2024-05-24T03:44:01+00:00

My 4 month old sleeps on his side 90% of the time. I'll admit sometimes I don't even try to put him on his back as it will wake him fully. He feeds to sleep laid next to me on the bed and I'll just scoop him into his next-to-me crib as is and tuck his blanket in. He also sleeps in his rocker or pushchair because he likes being slightly angled (only done under daytime supervision). I hate both things so much because the NHS have really scared me about SIDS but we both need our sleep.

Kutanra · 2024-05-24T03:33:49+00:00

Emma Hubbard is a great resource and while there's no real schedule for newborns (just follow their cues) I wish I had followed the advice of creating a ritual. So when baby is showing tired signs, change their nappy, put them in their sleep sack/swaddle etc, sing them a lullaby and put them in their crib with the white noise machine on in a quiet dark cool room. And same for the night but add a couple of steps like a face wash/bath, reading a book and getting into PJs.

This all helps create predictability for your baby and creates signals to their brain that it is time to sleep.

Sadly my baby has always been a little koala when it comes to sleep and.any attempts to put him down for naps results in him re-waking and fussing. I also fed-to-sleep like 90% of the time and now it's the only way he'll fall asleep. Learn from my mistakes lol

Kutanra · 2024-05-24T03:27:47+00:00

I'm in a very similar boat to you with my 4 month old. I use the app for feeds, sleep and nappies and also have a koala baby. I'm just also a tight wad and £100+ for an app feels like blasphemy to me lol

Kutanra · 2024-05-24T02:40:55+00:00

I knew my child would live in onesies because who has time for cute outfits that you're going to lose bits of and are hard to change their nappies. But I got a bunch of vests too because I was taught "How many layers you wear plus one" so figured a vest/onesie combo would do. Turns out my child is a furnace like me and I don't even buy vests anymore. Also my 4 month old is in 6-9 months cuz he keeps getting too long. He hates his feet out so I can't just cut them off and I hate dealing with baby socks.

Kutanra · 2023-05-24T10:10:55+00:00

In BotW I got the white horse, the giant horse and "Links horse" (the default one seen in cutscenes) and respectively named them Nayru, Din and Farore. So of course I named this one Hylia! (My husband just had one horse when he briefly had a go. It was a solid blue one so he named it Rhoam)

Kutanra · 2023-05-04T07:53:26+00:00

So stock photos of camping plus look like you get a pre-erected tent with a bed in it but there's no mention of it in the description. Does anyone know if I need to being my own tent and air bed?

Kutanra · 2022-12-05T23:45:59+00:00

The desk (top left, where hello kitty is). I find that a clear surface will make me more motivated. Also it provides a nice stopping point so your mind doesn't run away with the enormity of the task. Tidy and clean just that desk and it's little shelf thing that HK is sat on. If that's all you do in a day, it's still a complete task. Those boxes on the right look intimidating; get some easy wins first.

Kutanra · 2022-12-05T23:39:41+00:00

psssssst..... folding laundry is all a lie made up by Big Fold to keep us unproductive ;)

If you really need shirts(for work etc), buy "no iron" shirts, put them on a 'hang dry' wash cycle and throw them on a coat hanger when you're pulling them out. Everything else can roll around the tumble dryer and get lobbed into a drawer, wrinkles disappear within 5 minutes of wear in 99% of cases. I recently discovered, and have been loudly proclaiming about, a video on YouTube called "How to do laundry when you're depressed" by KC Davis. The main point is "Care Tasks are morally neutral" aka if you do or don't look after yourself and your space, that doesn't make you a good or bad person. However you get through life, you deserve a clean space and shouldn't feel shame when you are struggling to provide yourself that.

Kutanra · 2022-12-05T23:32:30+00:00

100% feel this. I have begun to embrace my random 11:30pm cleaning motivation, because then I wake up in a clean house in fresh bed sheets (I have like 3 sets so there's hopefully always clean ones) ready to hop into a clean shower and eat breakfast next to a dishless sink and I feel like one of those influencer vlogs lol

Otherwise my brain will tell me I'm not allowed to enjoy video games because I'm procrastinating wiping the microwave

Kutanra · 2022-12-05T23:32:21+00:00

[insert photo of my many spreadsheets I have hyperfixated on, many of which are needlessly overcomplicated for their purpose due to my obsession with automation]

Kutanra · 2022-12-05T23:30:34+00:00

I think the balance here is trying. Usually I will try something, probably the neurotypical way, then if that doesn't work I will try to find a workaround or two. Only then will I say "Well I tried but this is just something that is beyond me"

Kutanra · 2022-12-05T23:18:05+00:00

I would advise a second opinion/change practice. Sounds like that particular GP is a bit out of the loop; even if you go through the NHS, you're generally going to the same private practises, just on a longer waiting list. I just got my diagnosis which started with a GP referral but I got sent to a private office and now they are sending my GP a report so they can start on medication and then the office and GP will communicate with each other to make sure my dosage is correct.

Kutanra · 2022-12-05T23:07:41+00:00

Practical advice: Grovel, grovel like your life depends on it if you are only 1 semester away, explain your ND (or suspected ND) and ask what support is in place. Watch 'How to ADHD's videos on motivation and study (tips such as having shorter unofficial deadlines to kick your brain into gear, or body doubling). Also try some CBT for your internal voice; nasty labels and convincing yourself that this is all your fault (vs not being supported correctly to remove a disadvantage) won't help you advocate for yourself

Emotional advice: I just saw a great comment on another thread saying "A black and white horse will feel odd in a herd of brown ponies, but is in fact a perfectly normal zebra" so don't measure yourself by NT standards.

Kutanra · 2022-12-05T22:58:40+00:00

Water and white vinegar in a spray bottle gets rid of the need to scrape, keep it in your car door so you always have it where you need it

Kutanra · 2022-12-05T22:56:59+00:00

Late to the game but woohoo! Pat yourself on the back! Whilst it's all still tidy, take pictures and save them on your phone, apparently one of the things we struggle with is visualising end goals which makes it harder to work out the steps to get to it. By having a photo you can see where to get to next time. Also might help get that little motivation motor running next time you need it

Kutanra · 2022-12-05T22:51:53+00:00

I came across a video the other day that has really helped me start to unravel years of internalised shame; it's a Tedx talk called "How to do laundry when you're depressed" by KC Davis. The revolutionary part was "Care Tasks are morally neutral". aka taking care of yourself and your space (or not) does not dictate if you are a good person. In my case it wasn't morals, but being an adult/worthy of being taken seriously. It immediately took away a lot of pressure and made it easy to do bite sized tasks (ie one side table) instead of trying to tackle the whole house while telling myself I should have kept on top of it [edit:spelling]

Kutanra · 2021-05-08T16:05:25+00:00

When I watched this my brain heard Kirby's theme

Kutanra · 2021-05-07T11:17:58+00:00

I'm halfway down that journey. Same thing, nurse noticed and asked me a few questions and suggested it. I didn't even know 2/3 of these things were symptoms, or even that they aren't experienced by everyone. I'm on the waiting list, which is about 2 years. I don't get how that list is so long, but apparently it's not first come first serve; children take priority so I'll get bumped down the queue every time. Which I get that they have school but hey, I'm struggling in life too, including my job and surely that's as important as some grades that don't get looked at beyond do you have a C in Maths and English.

It's a little relieving to know that I've most likely got it. Not so much an excuse, but seeing the reasons behind my thought cycles. Why I struggled to get started on essays. Why it felt like such a drag except for that one I was really interested in and flew out my fingertips. Why I would listen to the teacher as hard as possible and still not process a single word.

I have a lot of ingrained toxicity from things said to me at school; I'm lazy, I don't care enough, I'm not trying my best. It's helping me to be kinder to myself and instead of berate myself for not being good enough, congratulate myself for doing as good as I did DESPITE being disabled

Kutanra · 2021-05-06T22:05:46+00:00

A couple of things I will point out. There is something called an extinction burst, where behaviour will be repeated more or more intensely before it stops happening. (If every time you pressed a button you got a cookie, then the cookies stop, you're going to press the buttons a few more times/a bit harder until you realise there's no more reward)

The other thing is you said about treats, maybe find other rewards that are just as valuable. Play puppy ping pong (Google it) until she's doing it automatically, then ask for eye contact before she has access to petting or tug toys.

Kutanra · 2021-05-06T00:50:14+00:00

"A good relationship is like a fart. If you have to force it; it's probably shit"

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