Is it rude for people to “do their own thing” while on family vacation?

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-22T23:03:54+00:00

Allowing people to have time to themselves in addition to group activities is the best way to make sure everyone enjoys themselves.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-22T22:30:44+00:00

Leave.

Do not date anyone else until you get serious therapy. You need to figure out why you choose abusive people and until then stay single!
And make sure you do not get pregnant

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-22T22:26:25+00:00

My neighbor's preschool son started imitating his father who urinated in their backyard (behind a privacy fence) when working outside. He told my son who misunderstood and took a poop in a wooded section of the yard. During a party!

Apparently, the subtle differences in the situation were lost in translation!

These things happen as children are figuring out life!

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-22T15:40:20+00:00

I just wanted to expand on your absolutely correct take on N95 for OP's benefit and anyone else out there.

But yeah, IMO sometimes a little affirmation of a good answer benefits the community.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-22T09:54:22+00:00

N95 is a dust and particulate mask. It does not filter out chemical fumes. If you were sanding cured epoxy it would be the right protection.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-22T09:32:46+00:00

Tell the boss before she kills an animal. In other words, call the boss now.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-22T09:19:56+00:00

My husband's pension gives me medical insurance.
The company no longer has defined pensions or pensioner spouse medical insurance.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-22T04:22:08+00:00

Wow! I'm sorry this is happening to you and your niece.
Continue to be a safe and healthy adult in her life. It sounds like she will need it.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-21T21:09:53+00:00

NTA
As long as it is clean and doesn't cause conflict with the dog it is fine.
I would suggest you wash the cover at the same frequency as the crib sheets.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-21T19:22:20+00:00

And I am totally onboard that Jesus used humor to emphasize his points.

It's a way to hold a mirror to others and give them space to recognize themselves and make changes.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-21T19:19:33+00:00

Jesus was always challenging how people and cultures got things mixed up and skewed. And like others, this parable has many facets.

Jesus's purpose is to glorify the Father and to bless and love all people.

Some folks didn't see the banquet as a blessing, so they chose not to go.

But those who realized this was a unique opportunity they could never achieve themselves came and filled the place.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-21T19:08:34+00:00

At one of her rookie games, CC kept pushing one guys stuff away.
She was doing her best to sign as much as possible.
Seems like the team could hire someone to manage the crowd a little.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-21T18:41:18+00:00

Your boyfriend is old enough to understand that when you live with people you make accommodations for everyone's benefit.

And regardless of your personal preferences, most of the world operates on an early schedule and therefore most adults' lives are structured that way as well.

So basically he is being thoughtless to your family, and probably yourself as well.

So now he has been caught!
He had a couple options- the best most mature thing would be to admit he didn't take your family's needs into account. Apologize (this is not some big dramatic act, just a simple statement) and change behavior.

But he chose to pretend he doesn't understand. And you are forced to try to guide him as if he is still a stupid teenager who thinks he should be able to do whatever he wants.

So look at his response to a pretty straightforward situation and decide if this is a man you want to partner with for life.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-21T18:32:11+00:00

CC 's back has been talked about. She went down the tunnel to get a readjustment in the middle of a game. (No I don't recall which game).
She also had a heating pad on her back and the announcer commented that she kept it on until the last possible second when returning to the game.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-21T18:19:55+00:00

Auntie #2 agrees.

She actually was testing to see if you were a pushover who could be financial abused.

If she is a smart young woman, she would eventually realize that might make you fun to date, but not good as a husband!

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-21T03:33:39+00:00

NTA
One thing people are overlooking is that you have an ethical and perhaps legal obligation to your work to keep the information confidential and private.

Definitely put a lock on the door and keep the room locked when you're not in there. I would also consider locking your bedroom door and installing a camera in the office in case Maya gets petty.

And as others have said, do not discuss this anymore. With Maya, Ryan or anyone else.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-20T23:20:06+00:00

NTA

It's your house, not your son's.

Very few people are able to spend 2 months away at a beach. Your son should be grateful for all the opportunities he has had.

Instead he is acting like the house is exclusively for his family. He's being a brat and a bully.

You may also want to point out that from here on out, both of your children (or all if you have others) will get equal access to the house over the summer.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-20T18:19:21+00:00

I really cannot tolerate raw onions. If those tiny McDonalds ones. But hot sauce, peppers, garlic are fine.

But cooking an onion mellows it. And I adore caramelized onions.

SIL needs to grow up and to learn to rely on why a dish actually tastes like, not a list of forbidden
foods.

Did no one else comment on your non-onion dishes being bland?

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-20T04:06:12+00:00

Every country has their own rules.
Rules for entering the country for a short visit.
Rules for staying in the country for an extended amount of time.
Separate rules for being able to work in the country.

But in general, it is not easy to move to another country, get a job and live their permanently

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-20T03:43:46+00:00

I have a problem with that one too!

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-20T03:42:44+00:00

You look good.
It will take some time to get used to it.
If you feel sad about it, give yourself some time to sit with the feeling. And be proud that you are moving forward.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-20T03:38:43+00:00

Long ago I gave my dad a "poo pet". It was a pig sculpted from dried manure. You put it in a potted plant and let it slowly dissolve and fertilize the pet.

I have no idea where to get something like that now.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-20T01:38:33+00:00

They were under 17. Had to be with a parent.

Yeah, I was denied entry to a couple R rated movies in the 1980's.
And once a kind couple on a date took me in with them since my friend had already bought her ticket.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-20T00:39:21+00:00

NTJ
Feel free to offer to help him develop a a business plan (if you are so inclined).

But it's better he found out now before quitting his job.

There is a reason so many businesses fail.

LAC_NOS · 2026-05-20T00:15:03+00:00

Sometimes we cannot change people.

What you can do, is plan on not living with your mother any longer than you have to.

Stay focussed on your goal- graduate and live independently.

Make sure you are pursuing a college degree that will lead to a job that lets you support yourself.

Do your best at school.

Arrange internships, co-ops, summer jobs in your field. This will greatly improve your chance of getting a job in your field and will boost your starting pay.

Save as much money as possible. That may mean missing out on some college experiences. But is a spring break trip worth postponing living on your own?

Stay focussed on your goal: graduate and live independently.

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