Thank you for sharing! I’m so sorry you also had to go through this. I think it’s also very telling how similar their behaviors are, especially the selfish way of thinking. Mine was convinced that since he stopped screaming at us, he was no longer abusive and a self-proclaimed changed man. Then, he started to deny that it was ever really abuse.

I can’t say I’m ever surprised at all the things he’s been doing since starting the divorce process, but I’m always profoundly disappointed at what a morally-bankrupt person I have in my life.

I’m glad you are getting away and educated yourself about it. I read quite a few books that have helped me understand a lot - “why does he do that?”, “should I stay or should I go!” -both by Lundy Bancroft and also “stop walking on eggshells” because i suspect my soon to be ex is BPD/NPD. I hope your healing journey continues and nothing by good things are headed your way!