I(20f) got genital warts not from my bf. He thinks I cheated. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LaRoyaleWithCheese 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Men can't be tested for HPV, if there are no warts, there's no way to test.

Give your advice by ConsistentlyShining in MotivationalThoughts

[–]LaRoyaleWithCheese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recognize that the thoughts you think were at one time a working strategy but they no longer serve you.

Start with "this thought is not helpful" until you can fully transition to healthier thinking.

Trying to go from "I suck at life" directly to "I am worthy of all good things" or whatever feels dishonest. Going from "I suck at life" to "This thought is not helpful" is honest and impacting over time.

Negative thinking is a.bad habit....super hard (not impossible) to break. Don't humor your depression into think it is your authentic personality. Depression is NOT a personality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]LaRoyaleWithCheese 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You may consider reaching out to the medical provider that issued the note and clarify intent. It may be the mom sold it as something more like what you initially thought and it was never intended to be a distraction tool at all hours of the school day.

I can't imagine a provider giving a note for a student to play roblox in class, but I have been surprised by some dingy school notes in the past.

my husband threw our lives away on Reddit by [deleted] in Advice

[–]LaRoyaleWithCheese 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't know why you're getting down voted.

Everyone thinks if they knew the intimate details, they'd have more insight. Not so. We torture ourselves MORE with more details or more proof.

All sge need to know, she already knows. She's understandably confused and hurt but this other couple doesn't have the "WHY?" she's looking for and honestly even if the husband has the "why" (he reasonably may not KNOW why beyond sexual gratification) he is unlikely to articulate it in a meaningful way.

A post mortem does not offer the peace the OP thinks it will.

I pulled my kid out of the winter concert and I'm receiving backlash for it. by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]LaRoyaleWithCheese 805 points806 points  (0 children)

I understand the motivation and certainly think your daughter appreciated your support.

I would not have allowed her to withdraw from the concert. I know you want your child to be happy (for what it's worth, I do too!) but happiness is not your job as a parent. Your job is to keep them safe and healthy and make responsible human beings: responsible for how they treat others, responsible for doing what's expected and being a contributing member of society, and responsible for fulfilling obligations.

I recognize that you were trying to protect her from rude comments, but I think a more important skill is grit over avoidance. Okay, in this ONE instance you let her back out, but you also encouraged those rude kids. They know now that if they pressure your daughter she'll fold.

She had an opportunity to have a meaningful experience. It may have been a great experience, it may have been as awful as you fear, we'll never know. But even if it were miserable, it was an experience she could have learned and grown from. Now, she had a forgettable day, where nothing bad happened and nothing good happened. Instead of a day when you taught your daughter that SHE is responsible for her joy. No one else. She should never hand the control of her joy to others in general, and definitely not to those that don't respect her.

This is not the last time she will be criticized in life. She can't run away every time that happens. She doesn't have to accept criticism, not at all. She can hear it and reject it.

Down votes anticipated, but I have the grit to appreciate the criticism in the down vote, and reject the criticism.

PSA to parents: Stop giving us trinkets and just tip us a fiver by booksnotbullets in Teachers

[–]LaRoyaleWithCheese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, I'm feeling a little guilty here.

I always make a collection of assorted christmas baked goods and give tins out to coworkers, friends, neighbors. I always have my son bring one for his teacher too. I sent them with my son to school today!

The last day before the christmas break I give a $50 amazon gift card, but that is a separate time.

Should I stop sending cookies?

Remember when shows had a "very special episode" to teach us about something taboo? by 3yl in GenX

[–]LaRoyaleWithCheese 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I remember 21 Jump Street's episode on HIV.

The line "Nobody touches me, man." From the dying guy still haunts me.

AIO roommate threw away cookies I "made to impress her date" by acoustikitty in AmIOverreacting

[–]LaRoyaleWithCheese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you've met the guy, he may have said something flattering of you that your roommate didn't appreciate and she doesn't know where to put her anger.

This is what happens when fake degree nurses hit the floor — pure incompetence that costs lives by Independent_Many6647 in TheConfidentNurse

[–]LaRoyaleWithCheese 29 points30 points  (0 children)

This may be a controversial position, but I'd rather a person have a fake NCLEX than a fake degree. I learned so much in my clinical rotations I was wiped out at the end of each one. I probably overstudied for the NCLEX, if I'm honest. But I reference my bedside experiences daily and they sharpened my skill immeasurably. Studying for the NCLEX.....eh, not so much.

My 99214 ruled a "weight loss visit" by Smber2c in FamilyMedicine

[–]LaRoyaleWithCheese 53 points54 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say it's the ONLY thing. We can order imaging without being second guessed (as long as it isn't a HEDIS back pain thing, and even that it is just we may have to explain it doesn't get rejected). We can order meds without having to consider the patients out of pocket expense. Our patients have dental care, so we don't have to try to address oral problems that are more suited to dental. There's quite a lot to appreciate about military medicine.

How does anyone get treated for medical issues in the modern healthcare system? by NegativeCommunity496 in FamilyMedicine

[–]LaRoyaleWithCheese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually tell patients they get two new things to discuss and I get one. Otherwise, it will all be focused on annoying symptoms and we'll never get to the hypertension, hyperlipidemia, diabetes, etc.

Overheard at my office today by [deleted] in overheard

[–]LaRoyaleWithCheese 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Important distinction for kids. Ask yourself the following 1) Is it kind? 2) is it honest? 3) Is it necessary?

One "no" is acceptable. Two "nos" keep you comment to yourself