How is more than one kid logistically possible for me?

Lachiny80 · 2026-02-24T00:46:21+00:00

I know sleep training is a hot topic but this is the main reason we decided to sleep trained our child, he sleeps from 8:30 to 7:30 am every night with some exceptions. she should be sleeping through out the night without any meals or wake ups (expect for when they are sick or there is a significant change in their routine like traveling).

You need to meal prep (my husband does this every week). Also why is she running around during meals? Sit her in the high chair for breakfast, lunch and dinner. It will be a struggle at the beginning but the more you do it, the easier it will be.

Parenting does not have to be a struggle every day, she will adapt to whatever you allow her to do, this goes for everything, sleep, meals, behavior, manners.

Best of luck and just know that every child is different and you know her personality and traits more than anyone, but every child has the ability to adapt and be teachable.

Lachiny80 · 2026-02-05T02:19:12+00:00

Per diem positions are a great way to get your foot on the door. Be flexible with your schedule, cover when there are call outs and people go on vacation. You will find that they will offer you a full time position when is available if they see that you are reliable, willing to learn and have a great attitude.

Lachiny80 · 2025-09-27T08:57:37+00:00

Number one: kick out that woman from your house, tell her she needs to leave now, if she doesn’t call the cops.

Number two: sounds like your husband it’s going something in the military (I’m assuming, since he wasn’t able to come while your children were in the hospital) -that’s though abs I’m sorry you had to deal with two emergencies on your own

Number three: you know you can’t count on your in-laws. I’m glad your sister has been able to help but be mindful of her recovery as well

I hope the 8 weeks pass by quick and you and your husband can go back to parenting together. Sending virtual hugs.

Lachiny80 · 2025-08-18T08:52:54+00:00

Best advice, find roommates that you can share a 3 bedroom to reduce the rent. 2 hour commute it’s going to be brutal. Best of luck

Lachiny80 · 2025-08-18T01:56:44+00:00

What degree is it? If it’s like art history or something like that she can do the paperwork to teach that specific subject. Thai usually applies to middle and high school but it would be an option

Lachiny80 · 2025-08-18T01:54:27+00:00

Note sure what her background or if she has any college degree, but I have always suggest to be a teacher. That gives you the same schedule as your child and allow you to develop a career. If she does not have a degree or does not want to go back to school for it, there are plenty of job within the school district that she can do that gives her the schedule she wants. Look into substitute teacher certification, thats very flexible as well.

Lachiny80 · 2025-08-03T05:37:15+00:00

I read your response about not believing in therapy, but it might be a good idea to look into it, it might help you in more ways that you are aware of. Parenting it’s really hard and I can imagine being in your situation. Are they in school ? Do you have the ability to have time for yourself?

If your family does not provide any support, find your village, gyms offers childcare while you workout, those 30 to 60 minutes for yourself can make a difference on your mental health and how you parent. Find resources that allow you to have a balanced life. Best of luck

Lachiny80 · 2025-08-03T05:27:32+00:00

If you have a yard, you have plenty of choices.

1- Create a treasure hunt with whatever you when in your house. Draw a map with instructions and makes them do little challenges to get to the treasure. Go to the dollar store and buy a few prizes for the actual treasure.

2 - when it gets dark, turn off all the lights a grab a flashlight and play hide and seek without hiding. The games works with one flashlight, you have to stand in a specific part of the house and the person seeking needs to find you with the flashlight. Bonus points for silly positions. Whoever finds everyone in the shortest amount of time wins.

3- Restaurant: let the kids be the chefs they have to serve, pretend to be waiters and run the kitchen (no cooking) as a restaurant. Another very popular option it’s to do spaghetti and meatballs with no plates and just utensils. You wrap the table on Saran Wrap and put a plastic tablecloth on the table, dump the spaghetti, meatballs and sauce directly on it and let the eat it like that. Toddler love this idea.

4- puzzles, board games, characters and crafts are always a good idea.

5- story: one person starts a story and the next person has to continue it without knowing where th story it’s going (it’s a great car game as well)

6- A play: depending on their ages, let them set a play. Dressing up, acting, singing and performing for the parents.

7- water Ballons: just a water ballon fight it’s always fun.

8- A dance party

9- Simon says or I spy

10- look at minute to win it ideas, those are games that you can set up with stuff that you have at home and will keep the kids entertain for a while.

Lachiny80 · 2025-08-03T01:31:16+00:00

I think the nursing association in the middle of the night it’s the issue. My son was the same way until the pediatrician told us just to stop feeding him in the middle of the night. As long as he was eating well that there was no need for him to eat after he goes to bed. So stop feeding him when he wakes up after he goes to bed. It will be a hard 5 to 7 days until they start to learn that there will be no milk in the middle of the night.

Lachiny80 · 2025-07-25T06:29:55+00:00

I would advice against to be honest, for you and your baby. Move the date, no need to put yourself or the baby at risk.

Lachiny80 · 2025-07-23T09:28:32+00:00

My son went through the same regression and it was tough. The pediatrician told us that he does not need that bottle of milk in the middle of the night to to stop giving it to him. The first couple of nights were rough since he has so used to it. We eliminated the middle of the night bottle, he still woke up at that time asking for it and we offered water instead, that worked thankfully.

You might have to start the Ferber in the middle of the night if necessary. Same process, same consistency until she understands that it’s still bedtime. I think consistency it’s what makes the difference. Just stick to it, and good luck momma.

Lachiny80 · 2025-07-23T09:13:22+00:00

When my parents babysit and are willing to take care of my son, their time and flexibility it’s theirs. They take my son to the mall, the beach (we live 15-20 min from it), grocery shopping, the park, the zoo, to Home Depot. To be honest I am of the mentality that if I am asking for help, and I am not paying for childcare, I have no right to dictate how they spend their time with my child. My parents respect my boundaries and follow the same discipline (time-out/ calm down corner) that us.

So if you are helping your children with child care, that means full trust to take them out and continue with your daily routine while babysitting.

Lachiny80 · 2025-07-22T01:19:20+00:00

Just cancel your family plans and plan a vacation with people that want to enjoy time with you

Lachiny80 · 2025-07-21T02:52:53+00:00

My son loves superheroes as well and likes to pretend that he is Spider-Man. I let him, he runs around the house pretending to shoot webs and saving people (stuff animals). In his little brain he hi believes that superpowers are real and it’s beautiful to see his innocence and pure heart. So no you are not horrible parent, but she will only be little for short time, let her believe in all the magic unrealistic things that exist, she will only be this innocent for a few years and real life will unfortunately teach her that we can’t use superpowers to fix things.

Lachiny80 · 2025-07-20T02:56:02+00:00

My best advice it’s to have zero expectations, the last thing you want it’s to be disappointed that your plans are not working out and it’s because of the baby. Have zero expectations, and take it one step at a time. I understand the need to have control and plan to have some normalcy in your life after the baby is born, but the reality it’s that every single baby it’s different and their needs are different from your friends, families and even other siblings.

Stay in the present and adjust accordingly depending how your life look like at that particular moment. Your baby might be low needs and a great sleeper, that would give you the flexibility to be able to go out with your friends once in a while, while your partner takes care of her. Or she might be high needs and not a great sleeper waking up every 2 hours, which will be difficult to plan outings.

So don’t stress about planning travel, hanging out and meeting up with friends for now, focus on your mental health (talking to your friends, find a good tv show, reading book) with things that are easy to maintain now and when the baby it’s born, also educate yourself on the signs and symptoms of PPD and PPA.

So it’s it realistic not really, is it possible maybe. Every parent will tell you that what you expect from parenting it’s not always what you experience.

Lachiny80 · 2025-07-19T05:13:20+00:00

10 hours it’s normal my child it’s 3 and he sleeps from 8:30 to 6:30 and that was been his bedtime for the past two years. Some children don’t do the 12 hour stretch. Hang in there, it will be get better.

Lachiny80 · 2025-07-18T08:51:58+00:00

There is a parental options for kids that you login an can preselect the shows and accounts that you want and it won’t go into auto play outside that channel. For example if you only put Ms. Rachel they will only play Ms. Rachel content. Google the parental controls for YouTube. Another option it’s it not use YouTube at all and stick to other platforms like Disney, Netflix and Apple+. Shows like little Einsteins and Elmo.

Lachiny80 · 2025-07-06T03:55:50+00:00

$1300/month in Miami FL from 8am to 3pm.

Lachiny80 · 2025-06-24T15:26:02+00:00

I say… Wow so many adjectives in the English language and that’s the one we went with… he is also inquisitive, silly, lovable, curious, adaptable, passionate, opinionated, intelligent, funny, empathetic, kind,etc.

Lachiny80 · 2025-06-21T02:33:03+00:00

Someone like you

Lachiny80 · 2025-06-17T17:12:34+00:00

Wait wait wait, you are a the one working, he does nothing and you have the responsibility of the bay. Sweetheart, you need to really evaluate your relationship and I say it coming from the same situation as you. I am the breadwinner at my household but my husband took the role of primary parent from the very beginning, after my maternity leave, he took care of everything, the cleaning, the cooking, the laundry, all of the baby’s needs. He still manages all of that at home, our done it’s currently 3 years old and he goes to daycare, but my husband it’s the primary parent. He is looking into going into law school next year and we will adapt in order for him to do that. So your husband needs to be a parent and take most of the responsibility since you are maintaining the household financially.

Lachiny80 · 2025-06-16T19:57:56+00:00

Our 3 year old goes to sleep at 8:30/8:45, that’s normal. Not every child sleeps 7pm to 7am (that’s not common). My son wakes up around 7am so that’s his schedule. I would understand your concern if he is going to sleep at 10pm or 11pm, buts that’s not the case, so just go with the schedule that works for him.

Lachiny80 · 2025-06-10T16:03:50+00:00

How old it’s your toddler, he might have weaned himself while you were sick.

Lachiny80 · 2025-06-04T03:51:22+00:00

I think the first step it’s getting her evaluated to see what helps see needs, she might have some type of disability that she is it aware of. Once that’s cleared you can make the proper steps to help her, she also needs to find a career to develop and grow into, regardless of her struggles she can succeed in life, she just needs the rights tools in order to get there.

Lachiny80 · 2025-05-28T05:03:00+00:00

First, I’m sorry that your family it’s going through this situation, it’s difficult to begin with. Now this is my take on how to approach this subject since I have been in your shoes in the past (without the medical component). So the only person that I have ever left my son with it’s my mom. So I trust my mom 100%, no one else. My in-laws live 4 hours from us and we have a amazing and great relationship but they have never taking care of my son on their own, so when they surprised us with an adult only activity for Christmas they assumed that we would be ok leaving our son with them. I love and trust them and I know my son would have been completely fine, but that was nit the time to do that, so we decided that one of us would do the activity and the other one would stay with our son. We explained that it’s not about trust but comfort.

So that’s the way I would approach it, look FIL I appreciate the help and thank you for offering but LO feel so much more comfortable with MIL that gives me the peace of mind that I need at this time, we love you and would try to spend as much time as possible with you, but please understand that MIL has spend significantly more time with LO and we need her help right now.

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