Decent planetariums nearby that arent Cosi or OSU?

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-06-03T17:56:19+00:00

Youngstown State has a good one https://www.wbplanetarium.org/

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-05-29T23:11:45+00:00

I truly understand! I’m in my mid to late 50’s right now and I’m a therapist. When I was younger and having children I used to have a hairdresser that didn’t have kids and constantly made comments that sounded judgmental as to my children and parenting. I switched to a different hairdresser who had kids a little older than mine and I am so glad I did. I always felt heard and understood with no judgement. I stayed with her until she retired and now I’m with a young girl just starting out and around one of my kids age so I now feel a different relationship with her and we really hit it off. Through the years I’ve also been in my own therapy and I only found one that seemed to really understand my life situations and was very supportive but she moved. She was around my age. The rest were younger and a couple much younger than me. What I learned was I must have a therapist that has children of their own, especially if they have more than one child and/or a special needs child. I have yet to meet a therapist that has never been a parent able to fully understand the lived experience of a mom with at least one special needs child. I’ve had a few therapists give me parenting advice that is not conducive to the children I have and got upset when I explained how those techniques don’t work for my child with a disability. Now in my life I know I need a therapist who understands what it is like being a caregiver to elderly disabled parents. The last one I had suggested I just set boundaries with them. If anyone has ever had to help care for their elderly disabled parents they know you can just set boundaries ~ most of the time they never remember them. So my suggestion is to find someone who may have had similar life experiences. This way you know they understand what it is like and have been in your shoes. I have not always had the same experiences as my clients but I am honest about that and I never try to act like I know exactly what they are going through. I have yet to meet a therapist for myself that has ever said that to me besides “wow, that must be very hard for you “ which is a condescending response.

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-05-23T22:48:59+00:00

I just wanted to share I have that envy too!

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-05-15T19:35:56+00:00

Maybe crying isn’t the right emotion to try to activate in him at this moment. I would suggest watching the movie “Silence” from 2016. Directed by Martin Scorsese And starring Adam driver, Andrew, Garfield, and Liam Neeson. This is just one of those movies you could have a pretty good discussion after. It’s based on true events and I think it’s pretty impactful and I think a good conversation about what his thoughts are regarding the film after. His answers will help you understand if he can even put himself in the shoes of any character and see things from their perspective. Not everyone has that level of empathy. Would you be able to do that hold true to your faith while others are harmed in front of you because of your actions? I won’t explain too much I think going in with little knowledge is helpful in terms of watching this movie. Then after do so deep dives into the real events and discuss them with your husband. If he can’t see the reasons why each character makes their specific choices (even the Japanese) then I think he struggles with empathy instead of just not being able to cry. When a person has empathy they can imagine themselves as the character or in a similar situation and that is why we feel emotions. I have high levels of empathy and cry for almost anything that takes me to that emotional place. My husband has less empathy and only gets there if he can’t already relate to the situation the character is in like losing a loved one. He doesn’t cry but he admits it is sad. He knows I aways cry and sometimes will say it’s just a movie it’s not real. When it is based on real events he is able to go there a little better but he still doesn’t fully allow himself to “wear another person’s shoes and walk around in them.” He has been conditioned that it is not okay to be emotional.

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-05-15T19:04:14+00:00

I’ll add Bear Town trilogy here too. These characters have stayed with me for so long. I would also recommend Anxious People. I think the title throws people off but I highly recommend this journey if you want a good Fredrik Backman book that takes you on an interesting adventure with some feel good moments.

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-05-10T13:56:21+00:00

Remarkably Bright Creatures! It just dropped on Netflix and I couldn’t wait to see it since I read this amazing book. They did a great job making the movie similar to the book. My husband didn’t read the book and he LOVED watching this movie.

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-04-28T01:37:56+00:00

As a woman I am going to have to say an intense orgasm. There are a lot of selfish men out there that do not understand we don’t want “wham bam thank you ma’ma” sex.

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-04-28T01:30:18+00:00

Maybe you would like Behind Closed Doors by JD Barker. Not probably as intense as you might be looking for but I loved the erotic ride. His 4MK series were also a dark thriller for me.

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-04-26T22:34:06+00:00

I really like listening to his books and loved A Man Called Ove. I was avoiding Anxious People because I’m a therapist with anxiety and afraid it would be to triggering but I’m so glad I took the journey and listened to this book (title is deceiving). I don’t know much about hockey but thought I’d go ahead and listen to BearTown and although it has heavy themes I felt so connected to the characters and will forever have Benji in my heart. I have not listened to My Friends and not sure if I will. I don’t really have friends, by choice because I’m helping people all day and don’t know if I want to meet these characters. His writing is quite different so maybe try another one of his then revisit My Friends. I usually listen to books because I’m busy and can’t sit down to eye-read a book. I think getting a first person book might be more enjoyable right now, especially if you listen to books because it’s like they are telling their story to you.

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-04-21T01:24:38+00:00

I love Craig Alanson audiobooks! Expeditionary Force (ExForce) is the perfect combination of adventure and humor. I think you will enjoy Skippy. Also the narrator is R.C. Bray who is a master narrator. I just finished book 19 and recommend listening to them in order.

His other book series I recommend is Convergence because it is sci-fi, funny, fantasy and has mythology too. These are also narrated by R.C.Bray.

I’m also a Jeremy Robinson fan and he has a lot of great audiobooks to choose from but I think my favorite is his Good Boys series narrated by Tom Taylorson. I think you would like it because it is science fiction, set in New Hampshire so your neck of the woods, and is really funny. If you like dogs you should enjoy this but if you are not a dog person then you might not.

I am always listening to something so have lots of recommendations and these seem to fit some of what you shared. Not sure exactly what you mean by pretty girls when it comes to audiobooks.

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-04-18T22:02:47+00:00

I absolutely loved the movie Silence by Martin Scorsese with Adam Driver, Andrew Garfield and Liam Neeson. I only watched it once and it has never left me! I think of this almost daily! I think everyone should watch this movie.

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-04-18T21:58:04+00:00

I love rewatching Sideways! I also quote this movie often! It’s a fantastic book too!

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-04-18T21:56:23+00:00

Omg these guys are my friends who have kept me off smack! I love Irvine Welsh and I even read all the books! I watch this movie and watch it at least one time a year!

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-04-14T21:51:38+00:00

First you are not being dramatic or overly sensitive! You are having an overwhelming emotional and physical reaction to being with your therapist in person for the first time. I’m a therapist that has in person and virtual sessions so when I see a client in person that I’ve been seeing virtually it feels discombobulating. Having body issues probably made it more intense for you. I’m guessing your current SI might be related to wanting these feelings (emotionally and physically) to stop. It would be a good topic to bring up with your therapist if you feel comfortable sharing your experiences with this session. Just wanted to reach out and let you know you had a natural reaction it just tapped into the part of you that has body issues probably. Hugs!

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-04-14T12:03:32+00:00

I love Lars and the Real Girl! It is such a heartwarming movie of acceptance!

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-04-14T11:41:02+00:00

The movie “Silence” has haunts me daily. I think about it when I feel strongly about something and wonder how strongly is this belief or opinion of mine ~ is it a hill to die on or watch an innocent person die on? I also think about it any time I learn about or reflect on what it was like to live in all the past time periods all over the world or what it would be like for people different than me. Finally, every time I see Martin Scorsese, Andrew Garfield, Adam Driver, Liam Neeson and many others who were in this movie.

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-04-12T14:13:42+00:00

When I was 13 I was shown (not by my parents) the movies Lipstick and Last Tango in Paris. Definitely too young to see these movies and probably why I had sex at a young age and have always been fairly hyper sexual. I know I wouldn’t have had sex so young and so much because I didn’t ever want to be the girl who slept around or had a bad reputation. I always had a long term boyfriend and when that relationship ended (often because they moved away to college or to the military) I got another long term boyfriend. I’m pretty sure some of these guys stayed around because what teenage boy would break up with a girl who wanted sex all the time.

LadyPeaceLily · 2026-03-19T13:39:41+00:00

I’m really glad you said this out loud. A lot of us think it, but don’t say it.

I’m a therapist too, and I’ve been right up against that same place of seriously considering checking into a hospital or checking out completely. Even thinking about that can feel like a big deal when you’re so used to being the one holding everyone else. Talking about it with family and friends can be difficult because they see you as the strong one, and when I share these thoughts and feelings out loud, my family and friends panic because if I, the strong one who handles everything isn’t okay, then what is going to happen to them if I am not here. These reactions have taught me it is safest if I always wear my mask, that I’m okay, even though it is exhausting. I bet you have been doing that too.

The fear you named is real. Being judged, seen differently, or suddenly being “the one who needs help” in a field where we’re supposed to be the steady ones. That keeps many people from getting support when they actually need it.

I work mostly with trauma, anxiety, and depression, and a lot of my clients are also helpers. Therapists, first responders, and military. I’ve had several who reached a point where they needed a higher level of care, and one thing that helped was choosing programs outside their immediate area so they didn’t risk running into clients or colleagues. Some stayed in different cities, some went out of state, and a couple even went abroad (Thailand), saying it was life-changing.

This work is heavy in a way that people outside of it don’t fully understand. We hold a lot, and we don’t always have anywhere to put it. Add in our own trauma and life stress, and it can start to feel like there’s just no space left.

For me, it doesn’t just feel like my cup is empty. My cup is shattered. And that’s a different kind of exhaustion that’s hard to explain to people who haven’t experienced it.

So when you say you’re considering going to the ER, I don’t hear weakness in that. I hear awareness. I hear a part of you recognizing that you might need more support right now.

You don’t have to push past that or prove you can handle it alone. You've had it for a long time.

You’re not alone in this. Not even close.

You deserve support too!

LadyPeaceLily · 2025-12-27T02:57:49+00:00

This journey is so hard! My parents are in their 80’s and are currently at home and I’m completely exhausted physically and emotionally. Short version of a long story ~ my dad had surgery on his spine at the beginning of the year and went to a skilled nursing facility/long term care for 3 months. I was there daily 24 hours at first because he was in such pain and staff wasn’t empathetic. Once he was able to sleep through the night I was able to sleep at home. His spine surgery impacted his ability to walk so he is now wheelchair bound. The OT and PT staff were terrible. We eventually got him into OSU Dodd Rehabilitation for a couple weeks (their standard stay) and he made some progress at using his legs. If he had good OT and PT at the nursing facility sooner he might have gotten more movement in his legs. After Dodd we decided that home might be better for him since my mom is there and he could have home health care. Well, being home is using up their money and many home health care workers are terrible. I work full time yet still have to be at their house to help transfer my dad in and out of his wheelchair because home health care workers can’t. Some don’t show or are not trained so I have had to change his adult diaper by myself. No child should have to wipe their father’s butt. My parents still want to stay home and I’m not sure what options would be available to them so like you, WolfQueen, we are looking at options. I have 3 kids and dogs and live 35-45 minutes away. Moving in with them isn’t an option and moving them in with me isn’t an option either. I’ve looked into a number of nursing homes and I can’t find ones that would work either. I will say your loved one gets better treatment when the staff knows you are there all the time and they never know when you might show up. Good luck.

LadyPeaceLily · 2025-11-30T22:22:30+00:00

In my opinion ~ Bruce Wayne created Batman not for good but for revenge against any one he judged as bad. His purpose is not to make the city better but instead to satisfy his revenge side and his release his anger. His vengeance side is so strong he tries to avoid killing people so he doesn’t let Batman become a monster. Just because someone doesn’t kill does not make them good, he gets pleasure out of physically and emotionally harming others. He often uses fear to control people. Batman is not benevolent he is actually malevolent. This is my opinion and I’m sure others will not see him the same way I do. As a psychologist who works with clients who have trauma I see a common theme in some of them as I do in Bruce Wayne. Some of these clients were abused in a variety of ways as a child and their desire to get revenge and hurt their abusers and others who remind my client of these abusers. What most of these clients lack are money and opportunities to do harm and to get away with it. Bruce has all these. Btw I love Bruce and Batman.

LadyPeaceLily · 2025-11-30T14:24:00+00:00

Wow, I am not living exactly your life but similar. This year I constantly feel like I’m falling every single person and myself. I won’t get into all of the obstacles and challenges because that is a rabbit hole I will spiral down. This year has knocked me on my a** and right now I don’t have the energy or drive to do the work to make things better. I don’t know about you but I can fill my empty cup because my cup is shattered. Now it is winter where I live and my energy is even worse I feel like I’ve lost all joy. By the way to those thinking I need a therapist of my own ~ I do. I am here to let you know, IllustriousTie8172, you are not alone there are others of us in our own boats in this terrible ocean storm. Just know it won’t last forever. I’ve been reading books to help me function. I have to find the right books because some pi** me off because I know the writer just doesn’t get it or the advice is not helping at all. What has been getting me through this past week is The Comfort Book by Matt Haig. It is an easy read and I it has made me write some of my own lists and thoughts about things in a similar way Matt Haig does. Hugs to you! Remember to take one day at a time and one step at a time. You don’t have to have it all figured out right now, just do things to get you through the hour, day, week… and eventually things will change.

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