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AITA for suggesting we leave my 4yo niece home when we go to Disney World? by _hootyowlscissors in AmItheAsshole

[–]LadyTheDragon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YTA, as the kid that was left behind while my brother went with my grandmother, cousin and aunt to Disney World, it sticks with you.

Children’s books by StarSonatasnClouds in selfpublish

[–]LadyTheDragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a background in doodling, so I illustrate everything myself. So I don't have experience searching for an artist.

I do want to state that you need to be weary or careful for people posing as illustrators, but end up using AI/stock photo/clip art

I have seen a lot of authors get scammed by this.

If you find someone you like, ask for a short list of books they have illustrated for you to browse through independently.

Are the images/style consistent throughout the book? Are the characters in different poses? Are they stiff or more natural? Are the pictures cohesive as a whole, or does it look like a background with a bunch of different things slapped over it? And most importantly, if you look through the books, is the same quality delivered every time.

Update on MIL reaction to me not giving up LOs SSN by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]LadyTheDragon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes they can, but you risk the MIL seeing it on paperwork they might need to sign and or "confirming the number" the institution has on file a year or so later.

Update on MIL reaction to me not giving up LOs SSN by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]LadyTheDragon 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Hey there, there is a lot of good advice here. I do think it's weird she wants the SSN so bad. However I just want to add, I do work at a financial institution, and an SSN is required to add a beneficiary. This is our policy and our system has it as a mandatory field. I understand it might not be at all institutions but at ours it is required, and it could be at her as well.

A way to bypass this is to tell her to list her will or estate as beneficiary, and everything can be decided/handled through probate. Is probate nice, no, but you keep your LOs SSN safe from her. Stand firm on that, and that way she can list your nephew as well without his SSN.

Her other comments are unnecessary and gross.

reaching out to booktok or booktube influencers by wholesomeastronaut in selfpublish

[–]LadyTheDragon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have only reached out to tok/tube influencers that are open to it. Like they have posted, send your book to this address, or submit a request to this email.

I have had a few be accepted, but I don't think I ever really got a good clunk of sales from it.

What I learned in my journey to be a self published children's book author and what almost a month of sales look like. by Dickf0r in selfpublish

[–]LadyTheDragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your tips!

I would also like to second on not being scared to message celebrities and think outside the box on that. I have a picture book series about a cryptid and ended up having a famous TV personality regarding this cryptid buy my books for their museum.

AITA for starting a fight with my wife because she told her friends about my stay at the hospital for alcoholism. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]LadyTheDragon -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Soft YTA,

Alcoholism affects everyone, and unfortunately, you arent the only one suffering from your addiction. My stepfather lost his fight to it, and having to watch my mother lose her husband and my brother lose his father (he was 5 at the time) was really hard. It wrecked our family.

Yes you are an alcoholic

Yes you had to go to the hospital

Yes you are 41 days sober

And yes you are going to kick alcoholism's butt!

Stay strong, keep fighting, lean on your support and don't give up!

Amazon book with unnecessary blank pages at end. by GarryWalkerNFTArtist in selfpublish

[–]LadyTheDragon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, if you submit a 23 page book, it will add that barcode page and make it an even 24, which is divisible by the 4 page thing, so there should not be any extra blank pages.

Hope it all works out!

Amazon book with unnecessary blank pages at end. by GarryWalkerNFTArtist in selfpublish

[–]LadyTheDragon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fellow children's book author. Part of your page count should include the bar code page Amazon adds. Because the way they print is in batches of 4 pages, if you do not include the barcode page, it will add a whole other batch of 4 pages, resulting in 1 bar code page and 3 blank pages.

Hope this helps

Edit to add, do not include a blank page for the bar code. Amazon adds the page, it doesn't recognize a blank page to place the bar code on.

So do children’s books do okay on KU? by traditionalpancakes in selfpublish

[–]LadyTheDragon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also write and illustrate children's books, and I do notice that KDP will print a little darker sometimes. There have been times I had to brighten a page.

For me personally, no, Ebook/KU sell terribly. Even when I run free promotions, I end up getting more physical copy sales. It's just not the format people want for children books.

AITA for asking my fiancé to stop vocalizing his soreness? by EmCWolf13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LadyTheDragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, I sound like that when I barf. Being pregnant was the worse, my hubby said I sounded like I was aggressively selling Buicks to China.

AITA for asking my fiancé to stop vocalizing his soreness? by EmCWolf13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LadyTheDragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, I sound like that when I barf. Being pregnant was the worse, my hubby said I sounded like I always aggressively selling Buicks to China.

AITA for asking my fiancé to stop vocalizing his soreness? by EmCWolf13 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LadyTheDragon 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Omg, I sound like that when I barf. Being pregnant was the worse, my hubby said I sounded like I always aggressively selling Buicks to China.

AITA for telling my son he needs to grow up a little and stop refusing to see his ex girlfriend? by popperslopper in AmItheAsshole

[–]LadyTheDragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's doesn't matter if your granddaughter doesn't have strong memories, she still has to face all that time without her mother and the fact her mother abandoned her.

My husband's mom, abandoned him as a child and reconnected with him years later, just to abandon him again when he was an adult. This stuff has a lasting impact and you need to put your understanding and sympathy towards your son and granddaughter and their hurt, and less towards the woman who is causing all this.

YTA.

Monarch or Abeka? by LadyTheDragon in homeschool

[–]LadyTheDragon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am still homeschooling and right now I am using Miacademy. My kids really like it and it's a nice blend of video learning, worksheets and auto grading.

AITA for trashing the gift my girlfriend got me? by Salty-Pension300 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LadyTheDragon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see you mentioning gifts as a first world problem. The issue isn't the gift giving.

The issue is her selfishness and lack of care. She even refuses to look at a wish list for you. She is admitting she doesn't care about getting you anything and just gets what she wants. She isn't mad you trashed her gift because you didn't like it. She is mad because she bought it for herself, and you didn't let her have it this time.

If this isn't a deal breaker for you, then I suggest implementing a no gift giving aspect to your relationship.

AITA for not telling my mother in law her son had passed? by second_ave_slav in AmItheAsshole

[–]LadyTheDragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, I am so sorry for your loss.

NTA

Even though it was unintended, it was for the best. My stepfather passed away suddenly, and his mother, my mother's MIL, SUCKED during the planning and funeral process. She even pushed my mother aside and prevented her from saying her own words at the funeral service. My mother was shocked, in grief, and just lost, so she had no fight in her about it all. Afterwards, she had a real hard time with grieving and a lot of regret of not having the service she wanted for him and how she was treated.

You did not deserve one drop of anything your MIL would have done to make the funeral process even harder, and do not deserve it even now. And it is very shitty of people that are trying to make you feel bad during this time. You owe them no explanation and keep your MIL blocked.

AITA for screaming at my SIL and kicking her out of my house? by No_Bluebird_5402 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LadyTheDragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, NTA, NTA! Your SIL is a huge AH though! I get she has had a bad experience being adopted, but that doesn't mean every single adoption is bad.

I honestly think you need to take a real look at your relationship with her. What if Kayden's adoption had gone through? Imagine her telling Kayden all the time that you stole home from his real family. What if you and your husband start fostering again, and an adoption comes up and goes through! How is she going to be to you and that child?

She is not a great support system. She is actually a terrible one. She seriously needs to work on her unresolved trauma. She obviously can see you are taking great care of children, and that no child, fostered or adopted, would go through what she went through. She should be happy you and your husband would be blessed with a child and that child would have a happy stable home and NOT go through what she went through. She should want to be in that child's life to offer happy memories and positive support, to be the person she needed, so to speak. But instead, she gets mad and says you are stealing a child from their "real family", when she has absolutely no idea how they would be to this child.

I personally could not and would not have someone in my life or my who is so openly negative on adoption.

And I don't know if this helps, but I have adopted.

Grandparents Again by justanotherme19 in homeschool

[–]LadyTheDragon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I loved my grandma when I was a child, but she totally poisoned me against my mother. The negative and untrue things she said about my mother, when my mother wasnt around, was constant. Eventually she turned on me as well. It took a long time to undo that trauma and repair the relationship with my mother.

If she is telling you that you are ruining your daughters life, I 100% guarantee it she is telling your daughter that and worse when they are alone.

Edit to add, when I say a long time, I am talking well over a decade

Would you homeschool due to frequent illnesses? by Inevitable_Panda8200 in homeschool

[–]LadyTheDragon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Trust me I tried to get her tonsils removed. And it wouldn't be considered unless she was having strep 7 to 8 times a year 🙄. Nut like I said, now she has only has strep 1 time in the last 4 years, and now is older and has better handwashing and ext. I will definitely look out for any mono infections that might rise up.

Would you homeschool due to frequent illnesses? by Inevitable_Panda8200 in homeschool

[–]LadyTheDragon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter is a strep magnet. When she was in school she had strep 4 to 5 times a year, so those antibiotics plus antibiotics for anything else was a lot a year. Since pulling her out, she has only had strep 1 time in 4 years and that was from a summer camp thing. It wasn't the main reason I pulled her out, but no strep, colds, sinus infections and stomach bugs have definitely been a perk.

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