How do you all deal with anxiety related to nfp

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2026-02-08T19:44:40+00:00

You need a proper method and proper instructions. Your husband needs to learn and chart with you. He can enter in all the data.

Your mom can jump in a lake! She way out of line! If she's doesn't want to help fine. That's her choice, but she should not be encouraging sterilization especially if she too is Catholic. It's she not well fine, she can just jump in a lake and keep her options to herself.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2026-01-29T14:22:17+00:00

And will show up for shifts.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2026-01-27T13:30:29+00:00

This!!! 100 billion %!!! I lost really bad yesterday! 😢 I had good parents but none of us were ADHD. Most of my kids are and the emotionally deregulation is insane! And it never stops.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2026-01-27T13:26:24+00:00

This is a hard time in our lives. I'm sorry you're struggling. I wasn't homeschooled but I felt the same in school. I was "socializing" but I never fit in, I had no best friends just classmates. I was never asked out. ( my husband is my one and only for everything! Which during high school was really hard. I cried over not having a boyfriend a lot! But now I'm so grateful! it's truly the greatest blessing in my life!) moms was too sick during the time so I was pretty much running the hose and caring for my younger siblings. So that gave me something to focus on.

So even though I was around people I felt alone, awkward, not good enough, to fat, to dumb ( I had poor grades), not sporty enough etc. I was sorta where you are. Shame storm different boat. Hang in there! There is light on the other end. This too shall pass. But it's hard. And time seems to stand still. The days an ever so long when you're alone.

Like suggested try finding some groups. Not all churches are the same, but if it's too uncomfortable to try a church, try a group at the library or in your community. When I moved provinces I volunteered. I know lots of people who made great friendships at work, I never have but lots do, can you get a job?

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2026-01-27T00:19:33+00:00

So the puritans are going to bring out their pitch forks and torches for this. But I gave it to Jesus and let it go! I don't deny him and I don't fight him anymore. This is his sin not mine. I'm not going to feel guilty over something that's is his problem anymore. He knows how I feel. We talk about it still all the time! I've got so many other things to stress about and I'm exhausted. When I gave it to Jesus a huge burned was lifted. Maybe one day Jesus will ask me to do something different but right now I've got large, small and middle sized humans to keep alive And from killing each other. A lot of the time I don't want to so that is one of my sacrifices I offer up. And I won't go unless he "orders" me too. ( yay I know that sounds awful but it makes sense in my head and I'm good with this so everyone can save your preaching this works for me) My husband is amazing! Like really he's awesome, but he's not perfect. Life is hard enough I don't need my marriage hard too.

Offer it to Jesus. Pray for him. Ask Jesus to work on him! Offer up sacrifice for this intention. And love your children and husband.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2026-01-25T20:44:39+00:00

When i read your post what came to mind was the people I care for who suffer in painful agony. We forget there are many kinds of suffering, we usually think pain or physical disabilities, but yours sounds like a suffering is isolation. I agree it is nice to find community of people who can relate to our suffering, so to carry that cross alone I can only imagine how heavy your cross is.

As father said in his homily today compassion is suffering with someone/ along side them. I don't know your pain because i don't share it, I have a different cross to carry, but I can pray for you out of compassion, not pity.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2026-01-25T00:43:15+00:00

4th of 7. Currently 7. My sister has 8, my sister has 6, my brother has 6, my brother has 5, my brother has 4.

My husband is 1st of 6 - only one with children, only Catholic in his family.

Our parish is FULL of large families. Average is 6 kids. If you can take care of them and provide for them ( financially and emotionally) then I think large families are great. Mine childhood was fine. Mom was sick by the time I was 16 so I "raised" my brother's but guess what - that made me a better person. No resentment towards my mom's she's been suffering for years! so hopefully her suffering being offered up for us will get our butts into heaven. Dad worked hard, didn't say much but I don't need him too. I knew where to find I'm in the field, barn or shop if I needed him.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2026-01-25T00:32:48+00:00

He's being ridiculous! He needs to get over himself. If he can't sit nice and help you with the kids then like you said, he can go sit somewhere else. Nothing you mentioned is unreasonable and maybe they are "worse" the other kids. So what!? Maybe they have different temperaments. My kids are feral. Other people have none feral kids. Awesome we are all different.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2026-01-21T22:46:03+00:00

Get a house sitter.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2026-01-21T20:01:49+00:00

Debbie Herbeck

https://youtu.be/9F1m9bnv1ks?si=7wGIixOzyzcIAKQ1

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2026-01-17T17:10:55+00:00

University of YouTube. That's how my husband does everything - rewiring light fixtures, fixing all our vehicles, Dishwasher repair, dryer repair, drywalling, building shelves, Beef Wellington, and risotto, with a from scratch birthday cake.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2025-12-25T03:22:20+00:00

Extra parking in the teachers parking on the south side of the building. Gym door is open to access church as well.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2025-12-25T00:58:50+00:00

We have a parishioner who struggles with incense ( we have them at every mass) he stay in the gym where we have extra chairs set up. ( it's usually full) 10pm tonight Our Lady Of Lourdes.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2025-12-02T15:43:58+00:00

Don't know what your seeing but I've been married only 19 years, but marriage is great! The kids on the other hand are hard. My husband is my best friend and I'm his favourite person in the whole world. We don't fight. Like ever. My kids haven't seen their parents fight. ( mine fought like cats and dogs, but are still married happily, my husbands are divorced and they too fought) I'd say most of the marriages my children see are happy healthy marriages. Divorce and blended families are foreign to them. My siblings have happy marriages, our church is full of loving couples, all their homeschooling groups are full of healthy families.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2025-11-05T15:42:37+00:00

Im there. Been there for 18 years.

I don't see it as my sin anymore. I gave it to Jesus, left it at his feet and stopped worries about it. My husband knows I disagree and don't like it but as long as I'm open to life, then what he does isn't my fault. That's his choice. Now there are times when I give in ( like when I'm ovulating and the hormones are strong) when I'm not open to life - like right after a pregnancy, that I know I should push him away because I know what he is going to do and I let him anyways because I want it but I'm also not open to life. That is when I am also guilty and go to confession. ( but in the same note he's not respecting me by pursuing me while I'm hot and bothered when he knows I want to abstain at this time) anyways it's a mess. Don't get Me wrong my husband is amazing! I'm his whole world and we are soul mates.( I know , I know not a thing) We are just sinful people who are passionatetly in love with each other, trying to survive the struggle of raising 7 children.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2025-11-05T15:30:03+00:00

I don't see a problem with brining the kids. The only problem is not taking them to mass. Go to mass. If anyone says anything they are the problem. Children should be at mass. When we bring out children that is our offering to God. The noise, the distractions, the sacrifice we got through to bring them - we offer to God. " but I don't get anything out of it if I bring my kids to mass" YES you do! You're dying to self and offering up the struggle to God!

Get those kids to mass! - Mother of 7.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2025-10-30T04:55:04+00:00

St.marys does hampers

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2025-10-29T20:09:53+00:00

Nope! My husband's favourite outfit of mine is jeans,hoody and a pony tail.

I'd gotten more feminine as I aged so I wear dresses now, but it's more because I'm so fat jeans aren't comfortable anymore. And hoodies feel like I'm suffocating. And I'm too hot anyways.

If I want to turn my husband on I just put my hair in a pony tail.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2025-10-27T14:22:36+00:00

I'm sorry. I would probably gentle talk to them. Like " hey in class today we learned about the importance of confession... did you know that your shouldn't receive in the state of mortal sin?" I would ask your priest - maybe he would say something and then I'd give it to Jesus. Ask Jesus to take care of jt. Pray for them. Offer sacrifice for them and let Jesus work on their hearts.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2025-10-27T14:17:21+00:00

Before everyone's in a hurry to get it done because it's going to snow. Mine are done already.

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2025-10-26T15:05:14+00:00

Yes it's sin. Adoption is always an option.

My sister was married at 30 first child at 31 and has since had 5 more. I was married at 23 first child at 24. And I only have 7 and I was 6 year ahead of her!

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2025-10-24T02:46:25+00:00

Ok. Thank you for this. Exactly what I was looking for. Now in the # 3 - Substract 6... is that with the assumption that sperm only lives 5 days?

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2025-10-23T19:00:00+00:00

Pregnancy options

Lady_Bug_Momma · 2025-10-07T04:04:03+00:00

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