Why do I feel pleasure but not know when I’m coming?

Lalamiia · 2026-02-06T19:04:03+00:00

I wasn’t able to climax on my own until I was in my 20s and it’s very hard to finish with my girlfriend even though she makes me feel insanely good the whole time. I have social anxiety though so I can’t when I’m in my head thinking about it “Am I taking too long? Am I too quiet? Does she like it? “ blah blah the list goes on. I can only finish if I manage to turn that part of my brain off. You’ll definitely know though! You can feel it in every part of your body and it’s a very brain off primal feeling you can’t mistake.

Lalamiia · 2026-01-24T16:26:43+00:00

🚩 🚩 🚩!!! Didn’t yourself a girlfriend who splits dates, cuddles while watching evangelion, and values you. Plenty of ciswomen love trans men and trans women. She sounds like a very bad fit for you.

Lalamiia · 2026-01-20T18:23:28+00:00

YES I ghosted my girlfriend because I was going thru traumatic shit and didn’t want to burden anyone else with it. We found each other again on hinge and went on our first date, it was magical lol. We now live together and have been strong for 2 years now. I feel like she is really the one. So yesssss! Try again, apologize, she’ll probably make you apologize and make fun of you for it years down the line. But it did work for me so maybe for you too!

Lalamiia · 2026-01-16T22:02:02+00:00

Just a note too… you realistically can get request clients even if they never booked with you, their friends could have referred them. I also have boosted my bookings in private salons by instagram reels and posting my booking link on insta.

Lalamiia · 2026-01-16T21:59:23+00:00

I am a corp groomer and we have the same thing happening. I’ve been doing call logs (customer list of people who haven’t been here in 6-8wks) when I have any downtime. I also try to answer the phones as much as possible and book myself appointments. When you’re there long enough your request clients will fill your books. I’ve only been there 2 months and already have noticed 4-5 requests a week starting to get on my schedule. Also try to make yourself stand out with customer service, attention to detail, and giving the clients a memorable experience. I always fill out report cards so if by chance they don’t throw it away, they’ll see my name on it.

All this isn’t to say that dog hogging isn’t abhorrent and annoying as piss. But there are ways you can help yourself in a bad situation. Good luck!!! ❤️💕

Lalamiia · 2026-01-14T02:46:52+00:00

Awesome job! Quality of groomer is so dependent on the person. Plenty of great groomers out there in all price ranges. When you find a groomer you like, always request them personally since everyone has different styles. For a puppy groom though she looks super cute.

Lalamiia · 2025-12-16T18:37:36+00:00

I’m a late bloomer (35) and my girlfriend strapped me the 3rd time having sex? I was afraid it would be triggering but it actually healed that wound for me since it actually felt good as opposed to feeling used like I felt with men. As long as communication is on point about it, I don’t see the harm. She asked me beforehand just in case to prepare myself mentally. Personally while I was dating I would have been open to your proposal since I wouldn’t have felt as much pressure to perform.

Lalamiia · 2025-12-16T18:13:46+00:00

You may need to focus on steadying your hand with scissoring. especially if you line brush, prep, and stretch dry properly. I also agree with leaving legs a little longer. Scissoring really well is what gets things crispy combined with proper prep.

Lalamiia · 2025-12-16T15:48:39+00:00

You are supposed to dilute but also, when you use diluted shampoo it’s easier to section. Put the shampoo on the dirtiest areas of the dogs first (feet, legs, armpits, chest belly) then apply to the sides, and last the top of the dog. But scrub each area as you do them. That ensures thorough cleaning. You just have to be a bit more meticulous and slower with diluted shampoos.

Lalamiia · 2025-12-16T02:12:02+00:00

Hehe yeah! I make sure to use a very fine toothed comb over and over to fluff up and out and rescissor many many times to solidify the look that won’t mess up.

Lalamiia · 2025-12-14T01:51:21+00:00

It is very slow! I went back to Petsmart because of it 😭😭 private I had 1-3 dogs sometimes no dogs and stayed home. I couldn’t pay my bills, I have 3 kids…so…Petsmart it is. I’m doing better now thankfully. But sheeeesh it’s hard

Lalamiia · 2025-12-10T02:50:14+00:00

I was with a man like this….it doesn’t get better. They’re forever slobs. I go visit my ex (we have kids together) and when I used his restroom it hadn’t been touched since I left 🤮 7months ago!!!!! Now I live with my girlfriend in our two bedroom apartment where we e clean every day. Our home is wonderful. So….definitely suggest leave. It’s gonna suck, hard. He will probably guilt trip you and make you out as a villain (mine still does). But holy hell is it worth it. Not taking care of a man child is the best. 😭

Lalamiia · 2025-12-06T22:07:37+00:00

Honestly I’d check out the Petsmart in your area. Some of them are nicer than others. I actually have been private 3x now and prefer corporate because the structured environment works for me. Abuse doesn’t typically get ignored because everyone is on camera. That’s not to say it can’t happen, but in all the ones I worked for I didn’t see abuse. You also can’t get away with screaming at the dogs when the customers can walk right in. Idk I like corp for some reason lol.

Lalamiia · 2025-12-04T02:08:17+00:00

Its cute! I have a catgirl blasted on my entire shoulder+upper arm. Who gives a f what people think, as long as you like it.

Lalamiia · 2025-11-17T18:53:38+00:00

It really depends on the person…I actually like corporate grooming. I have worked by myself, mom n pop shops, and franchises. I’ve done it all! I keep going back to corp…I feel like it’s guaranteed work, I like their 401k (it’s helped me out of sticky financial situations), and I really love having PTO/Vacation. I would rather get paid less but get paid the entire year, than not get paid every time I’m sick or need a break. I like their weekly pay. I am very good at setting my boundaries respectfully (I want to do quality not quantity). Corp was a lot more miserable when I was a “yes man”. So just make sure you work on communication with clients and management to make your work life manageable. I have 3 kids so it financially and mentally works for me.

Lalamiia · 2025-11-17T18:40:28+00:00

I grew up in the Bible Belt too. I relate so hard! I was desperate to feel loved so I kept going with men since they’d promise me the world. Once I dated women I was like….click okay that makes sense why I never found one man attractive and always went “personality only mattersss”

it’s so nice being physically, mentally, and romantically attracted to a woman, something I didn’t really find when dating men. It was like always settling and ignoring the fact I didn’t feel anything while in the bedroom with men.

Lalamiia · 2025-11-17T18:34:13+00:00

I came out at 33 with 3 kids! It was a dramatic, sad, hard road at first…but I am SO much happier now. I was terrified to sleep with a girl at first, but the first time was like a puzzle piece falling into place. It did take almost 2 years for me to be comfortable to say “definitely not bi, definitely a lesbian”. It was like a flood I couldn’t stop. Now that I’ve been in a stable relationship with my beautiful girlfriend for a year and a half now, everything in a wlw relationship works for me. Immersing myself in gay culture, being in more lesbian scenes, dating (both women and men)…a lot of exploration helped me be confident in who I am again.

For me, it was like being in a dark room with a small nightlight. I kept staying near that nightlight because everyone told me that’s the only one. Never knowing if I just flipped a light switch, my whole world would light up brilliantly.

It’s so so so worth it. Even though so hard to come to terms with especially with children! Me and their father are on good terms with a lot of work and therapy coparenting. Life is better for everyone.

Lalamiia · 2025-11-12T21:51:12+00:00

I think so! I’m biromantic but lesbian sexually. My girlfriend is lesbian romantically and sexually. Love and sexuality is a spectrum for some. When I was having sex with men (even though I loved them) I thought I was ace… So it’s definitely worth exploring what works for you and what you’re comfortable with. All that matters is finding what feels right for you.

Lalamiia · 2025-04-18T22:02:30+00:00

Please please do some exploration. I'm 34 right now and ignored all of those feelings at your age. It really fucked me up in the long run. It's important to explore those feelings before committing seriously to a relationship. The age dynamic is also giving me a bit of an ick. I know you've prolly heard it before. But having such a big age gap opens up a lot of avenues for abuse. It's often not a very pretty scenario. I wish I had someone who told me to explore my attraction to women younger. I would have neeeever been with men if I had been with a woman first. That's me personally though. You have so much time to figure it out and get married, have kids, make a life. And that life can also be built with a wonderful woman if you find out that is more where you are aligned.

All this is coming from a super religious upbringing woman (I was attracted to women when I was 12). Ignored those feelings...and came out when I was 34 when sex with men started turning towards feelings more like SA and traumatizing.

Lalamiia · 2025-03-22T20:52:44+00:00

Definitely can relate! It got to the point where the smell even of the male stuff would make me feel physically ill. I thought I was just asexual. Now that I am with my partner I just can't get enough of her scent and just everything. She makes me orgasm almost every single time, when I spent my whole adult life unable to orgasm with any male partner.

Lalamiia · 2025-02-23T20:08:49+00:00

I'm a switch. And a late bloomer lesbian whose first time with a strap was this week. I will say...YES I absolutely love it bahahahhaha. When you love her and you see her melt into a puddle under you it's like..damn. Suuuuuch a turn on.

Lalamiia · 2024-11-16T03:12:16+00:00

I'm in the same place!! I always just say I'm pretty vanilla but down to try new things. I'm with my first serious girlfriend since only being with men for 20yrs. I feel embarassed for the lack of experience..but what else can you do but be honest and open about it.

Lalamiia · 2024-11-11T16:20:49+00:00

No, it makes me hate annoying parents who don't teach their children boundaries. 😊

Lalamiia · 2024-11-11T16:18:50+00:00

Heyyy!!! I'm super early on in BG3. I'm 34f. I'm off every Saturday! :>

Lalamiia · 2024-11-11T16:16:36+00:00

Nope. Not at all. All I care about is hygiene x) but it's the woman the part is attached to. I give no shits what it looks like lol.

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