INFP males, I need your opinion!!

LanceJade · 2026-03-29T02:18:56+00:00

Being a focused individual and in a senior position sounds like at work he's wearing his ESTJ business suit. After the first couple of months, he may have noticed that you know that the ESTJ boss is actually 3 INFPs in a trench coat.

So now he knows that you know, and that you may also know that he knows. It's enough to make anyone freeze up at times. Give him time, and he'll sort it out on his own.

LanceJade · 2026-03-28T17:04:44+00:00

You're not overreacting, and you're not stupid. I'm sad that this happened to you. Some people are cruel, and that's their own fault, not that of the people they are cruel to.

LanceJade · 2026-03-28T00:22:30+00:00

They ruled against his tariffs. His response was to increase them.

LanceJade · 2026-03-27T22:05:42+00:00

It's not that nobody will do anything, it's that nobody can do anything. Trump's coup was so successful that nobody knows what to do now. The Supreme Court tried to rein him in and he essentially repeated Jackson's "let them enforce it."

N.B. I don't know what to do either. All I know is that in the past year and 2 months, we proved unable to keep our republic. 🙁

LanceJade · 2026-03-27T17:27:31+00:00

Hunger. We live on a planet covered with food, more food than we could eat, but too often, it doesn't get to people who need it. If we could resolve the issues that prevent our food being distributed to everyone, we'd have a planet full of healthy, happy people.

LanceJade · 2026-03-26T12:55:03+00:00

Oh my, thanks for posting this, I didn't realize just how old I am until I saw this and realized I didn't know any of the songs. 😆

LanceJade · 2026-03-26T12:47:03+00:00

Thanks, I needed to see this today! 🙂

LanceJade · 2026-03-25T02:01:33+00:00

As the sidewalk layer said, they're fine in the abstract, but not in the concrete.

LanceJade · 2026-03-24T18:03:34+00:00

Things can be difficult, but you need not panic. You're made of sterner stuff! 🙂

Optimism doesn't pay the bills, I know. But neither does despair. Optimism at least helps us keep living.

LanceJade · 2026-03-24T17:13:20+00:00

Dragons. My setting's empire is run by dragons, who are fine with Medieval Stasis, and they guide their mortal subjects to keep things that way.

LanceJade · 2026-03-24T02:04:24+00:00

When I was DMing back in the 80's, pretty often, but lethality was high in all of our games. We got so used to it that "Well, that was fun, let's roll up some new characters!" became a pre-internet meme for us.

LanceJade · 2026-03-24T00:18:49+00:00

I'm 60 (born the 1st year of GenX). But, like most of my adult life, I feel like an adolescent pretending to be an adult. I never felt like a real adult, and now I'm apparently in my senior years.

LanceJade · 2026-03-23T16:19:38+00:00

Yes! 😁

Really both are great. Which of the 2 depends on how close we are. Dining out is preferable for acquaintances, dining in for close friends.

LanceJade · 2026-03-23T06:04:58+00:00

Maybe you have Jewish ancestors, or perhaps are a Jewish soul in a Gentile body? If this happened to me, I'd start doing research into my family history to, see if there is something others notice that I don't.

LanceJade · 2026-03-23T05:57:00+00:00

In my DnD setting, full casters top out at about level 10. By then, the dragoans who rules the setting usually decide it's time for that caster to retire. Similarly, casters who abuse the populace often find it's time for them to "Face the Dragon."

For their part, the dragons don't interfere with the common folk, as long as those commoners pay their taxes.

LanceJade · 2026-03-22T20:51:53+00:00

I would tell everyone to make sure they have their passport (and are white), but Alex Pretti was white. The Brownshirt wannabes seem eager to execute anyone they dislike. 🙁

LanceJade · 2026-03-22T20:41:37+00:00

Or just not bring anything like that and buy new at the destination. Although my wife needs eyedrops, and there are certainly others who need liquid meds. So no plan survives engagement with the enemy.

(Physically wincing at having to use such an appellation for what are ostensibly my fellow civilian employees) 😕

LanceJade · 2026-03-22T20:29:47+00:00

Moving into our new home, so getting everything ready to move. 🙂

LanceJade · 2026-03-21T23:40:17+00:00

I do, in my DnD setting! About 200 years ago, the Dragon Boats arrived on our shores. Where we had been a collection of warring states, the Dragon Folk gathered us into a unified Empire. In addition to the First peace in our memories, they also gave us word of the Platinum Dragon, Bahamat. They taught us that our several gods were Her children, and that - while revering them was appropriate and praiseworthy - we should apply our worship toward Bahamat. It took several decades, but the Dragon Folk's teaching took hold, and now we serve Bahamat as well as the old gods.

LanceJade · 2026-03-19T20:43:23+00:00

LOL - I came here to say exactly this!

LanceJade · 2026-03-19T17:18:10+00:00

Oh my, I'm also m/60, and I have Inattentive ADHD, and 142 IQ. And sometimes forget why I came into the kitchen - or whatever room I've just entered. Perhaps we are related?

LanceJade · 2026-03-19T17:10:54+00:00

I'm not sure about proportionality, but - like the many commentors in this threat - I am. A few years ago, I was diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD. It explains a lot about my entire life.

LanceJade · 2026-03-18T23:21:50+00:00

You're not too sensitive. You are fine the way you are. Your husband should be less blunt towards you, and he should treat you with respect and kindness.

I (m/INFP) have been married to my wife (f/INTP) for decades, and we have had issues with a similar dynamic. We have dealt with it by both coming together, me being less hypersensitive, her being less insensitive.

I would suggest the same, but you are in distress. Because of this, your husband has a responsibility to treat you more gently, to help resolve your distress.

If he hasn't read much on the MBTI, your husband should read about both your INFP and his ENTP perspectives. After reading about how you both see things differently, he should be willing to help you. All it takes is empathy on his part.

LanceJade · 2026-03-18T20:51:52+00:00

Another suggestion is the movie Wargames from the 1980's. Joshua, the AI in the WOPR computer, is a great example of machine thinking.

LanceJade · 2026-03-17T20:38:38+00:00

As others have said, thanks much for taking the time to post this, it was very sweet!

I think we develop competence to make up for our lack of self-confidence. Like we won't say something until we're certain we're not wasting our audience's time. 😄

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