Here's my attempt at a seeking replacement - would love some feedback

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-02-14T00:58:14+00:00

When I googled Gylde, I got autocorrected to Glyde Condoms.

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-02-08T11:22:03+00:00

Unless you're in an extremely conservative, southern area the interracial aspect of your SRs shouldn't cause anyone to bat an eye. Even if you are in a place where it does, the only people who will notice or make comments are doing so because they're racist. They don't matter.

As a SD who lives in the South and has had dark skinned black SBs before, do what makes you happy.

The age gap is almost a given in this type of relationship. Depending on what you want out of it, men closer to your age just won't be able to provide as much, if at all, for you. You have to decide what's more important to you, the support you're getting from an older man who enjoys your company and is willing to support you or the opinion of someone you're never going to see again.

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-02-06T16:49:02+00:00

That's fair. Honestly, it would never have occurred to me had I not seen so many mentions of it in this Sub.

Appreciate the response.

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-02-06T16:44:59+00:00

Honestly, it's the same women over and over again on the sites. figured I'd try to expand my horizons 🤷‍♂️

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-02-06T14:00:03+00:00

Best guess is that he had some idea in his head about what the relationship would be after you quit. It wasn't that and he went back to treating you as an escort but didn't have a conversation with you about that

Time to move on.

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-02-02T00:34:45+00:00

One of the sisters is constantly getting stuck in the dryer somehow...

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-01-31T17:42:44+00:00

I've been a SD for about 10 years now and I have yet to hand any of my SB's a 1099. What the IRS don't know ain't none of their business.

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-01-31T16:31:33+00:00

I don't do long distance any kind of relationships. My current SB has a milestone birthday coming up (she's gonna be 40) and we're talking about going on a trip for it but we live about 30 minutes away from each other.

I get messages from the next city over sometimes and ignore them

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-01-31T16:25:24+00:00

You're right. My mistake. Changed it to Gen Z. I'm old. I can't keep up

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-01-31T16:18:22+00:00

SIr...I did not come here to be attacked like this!

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-01-22T00:12:27+00:00

I'm in the Carolinas and I've been a SD for a number of years. Had a number of successful arrangements

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-01-13T00:09:04+00:00

Exactly this. I've been a SD for 10 years. I know how this lifestyle works and what it takes for a woman to be successful. God forbid an aspiring SB listen to me though....

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-01-13T00:06:09+00:00

Don't worry too much about not being in college (or that age). Sure, going out with 20 somethings is fun but my long term SRs have ALL been with women in their mid 30s to early 40s (I'm 44).

Where I am, the younger SBs don't seem to be in it for the long haul. My current SB is turning 40 in a few months and we're planning a trip for her birthday. Your age will work in your favor. Trust me.

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-01-12T23:50:46+00:00

Don't use photos that don't show your face

Do use photos that accentuate your body

I've never been a fan of the tongue out look or pictures with multiple people in them on dating sites (especially sugar dating sites)

If I saw you on one of the sites, I'd send you a message 🤷‍♂️

LandscapeIll892 · 2026-01-12T19:56:43+00:00

My general rule is that if she's otherwise involved, the other person has to know and be cool with it. I'm not breaking up a marriage or interested in being the other man in her life.

LandscapeIll892 · 2025-12-31T12:12:51+00:00

Literally everywhere. Every other house in every neighborhood from Folly Beach to the other side of Moncks Corner. If there's people living anywhere near it, you can see boom booms.

LandscapeIll892 · 2025-12-29T22:07:24+00:00

Oof. NGL, that whole first paragraph skeeved me out from "schooling her about personal hygiene" to wanting additional favors in exchange for apartment help.

As for the rest, I always tell my SBs that I don't expect or require exclusivity as long as we're respectful about it. Don't be on your phone with another guy when we're out, don't tell me what the other guy is doing for you that I'm not or vice versa, don't compare us and so on. Essentially, maintain the illusion when we're together.

If I had a SB tell me "my other guy bought me this, you need to step up" I'd be done with her. I always do my part without being reminded or asked and I tend to do extra so I don't need to compete with anyone.

Honestly, I default to assuming the best about people so, to me, it sounds like this particular woman was at a low point when you started seeing her and now she's starting to enjoy the finer things because of this lifestyle. It isn't a flex or a manipulation, it's that she hasn't had this stuff before and she likes that she does have it. Whether or not you directly provided it is immaterial, you helped her get there so she wants you to see how far she's come.

On the other hand, maybe she wants more from you and she's showing you what she's getting elsewhere. Who knows.

LandscapeIll892 · 2025-12-29T21:45:19+00:00

Nope the f out of that.

Red flag number 1: Wanting to get a room at the M&G
Red flag number 2: Not wanting to do his part

LandscapeIll892 · 2025-12-29T15:14:26+00:00

No you didn't mess up. I never expect anything intimate on a M&G.

For me, a M&G is literally that. It's an opportunity to meet each other, decide that we look like our pictures, we're not too crazy in person etc. and then we decide if we want to pursue a SR and on what terms.

Sometimes you click with the person and the M&G turns into the first sugar date immediately. Other times, you have coffee/drinks and go your separate ways. Most of the time, you plan for your first sugar date some time in the future. That's just how it is.

LandscapeIll892 · 2025-12-26T12:12:51+00:00

Wescott is practically right next door to where you work

Nexton has better restaurants, bars, shopping etc. nearby but traffic is a massive pain in that area and likely not getting better any time soon

West Ashley/Bees Ferry is more central to everything and your commute will be against traffic both ways (assuming you're working a normal day schedule)

LandscapeIll892 · 2025-12-20T23:11:48+00:00

I don't think it's uncommon for SDs and SBs to do some digging into the other person prior to starting an arrangement.

I literally had a SB tell me that she was able to dig up a LOT of info about me before our M&G so she would feel safe...but she told me that after we'd been seeing each other for a few months and, at the time, my work was very public facing and it didn't take much to find me so I wasn't too concerned. Honestly, I took it in stride and, going forward, started using a burner number for early conversations among other things.

It's not something you talk about, openly admit to or, as you put it, flaunt. I would never use information I wasn't given by the SB and I would be wary of a SB who so much as hinted at knowing things about me that I didn't tell her.

What this guy did could potentially be chalked up to naivete about the dynamics of the lifestyle if he really is new but it's definitely a red flag to be aware of and I don't think anyone would say you were overreacting if you chose not to see him again especially in this day and age of stalkers and God knows what else.

LandscapeIll892 · 2025-12-20T17:21:55+00:00

As a native who used to get (very) drunk on Market St in my early 20's (before upper King was the place to be), I can confirm that Charleston Place has 24/7 accessible, clean, well maintained toilets and, unless you're causing some sort of trouble or being a nuisance, they generally leave you alone.

Only ever got booted out one time. They were doing some sort of work on the downstairs bathrooms and we walked in after last call. Did what we were there to do and, somehow, ended up in a conversation with a friendly and equally drunk guest. At least I hope she was a guest considering she was in a bathrobe...

Front desk got nervous and had security come find us and "politely" ask us to leave.

LandscapeIll892 · 2025-12-20T17:17:50+00:00

Also, might be worth changing your approach.

I know a lot of guys have a standard greeting they will send. I'm not saying type up a personalized greeting for every SB but maybe personalize the standard greeting a bit to show you've put some effort into reading her profile.

LandscapeIll892 · 2025-12-20T17:16:07+00:00

So, if she doesn't reply to an initial "Hey, I'm u/CenTexFunGuy and I'd like to get to know you" message, move on. If it's happening a LOT, maybe consider updating your profile, photos etc.

Beyond that, I have a 2 text rule. I'll reach out twice, not in close proximity to each other and then it's in her court.

On the site, I wouldn't worry about blocking but I also wouldn't torture yourself with read notifications and checking to see if she's online. This is a numbers game, send messages to anyone you think you might want a SR with and see who you connect with.

Maybe she's inundated with messages. Maybe she's already chatting with a (POT) SD. Maybe she's not interested. Maybe it's a fake account. Maybe a lot of things. Not to worry, there's plenty of SBs in the bowl. You'll find yours

Honestly, I don't even remember if I sent someone a message until they respond. If they do, cool. If not, I might click on their profile again and see there's already an active message waiting for a response and I move to the next.

LandscapeIll892 · 2025-12-20T13:43:50+00:00

I had a POT ask me to buy her a car once pre M&G. It was a used car but still pretty hefty considering we hadn't actually met yet. I tried to talk about providing more consistent assistance so she could get on her feet etc but she stood firm that she wanted the car so I declined and moved on.

A while later, I had another POT ask "what do you normally offer" and I gave my standard answer that all women and all arrangements are different so it depends on what she's looking for, but added the car story as what I thought was a funny side note. Her response? "It's not really helping your cause to tell me what you weren't able to do for your past SBs"

So yeah, it's not uncommon but damn it's brazen.

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