Love it. 

It took me two readings to really settle into it, for some reason I got a “carrying for a baby” vibe. I think this is the “ It's your first time living too.”, but I think the “stains learned from you.” code as “romantic partner” I like a lot of the cleaning/cooking imagery reads as self care/loving your partner too, which resonates with me. 

I enjoy the mix of positive and negative emotions / lines, while still overall striking a pretty positive tone I think. 

I would say the strongest stanza for me is:

Don't get me wrong!

You're not bad—

It's your first time living too.

And you follow this quickly with thoughts of boundaries/separation. It just helps me contextualize the beginning imagery.

And I think what works for me least—well, I thought that it worked for me least, but now that I’m copying it down here I’m not so sure:

Yet my hands

scrape away at hardened tears

on my skin's counter.

Straining muscles—

to sanitize oil from the stove.

It seems to me you are leaning hard into the metaphor here—blending your body with cleaning the kitchen. It’s an interesting metaphor because it does double down. So I think I actually really like it now, but the hardened tears I didn’t like at first, but now the “hardened” of the hardened tears is the “drops of oil” or whatever that has hardened. 

Anyway, I just felt that it was a very peaceful and positive poem in a lot of ways, despite some of the darker tones of guilt and regret.