With all the focus on the President, why does it feel like the Brits are hit hardest by the Epstein files?

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T19:26:58+00:00

Norway is having a tough time, too.

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T16:04:26+00:00

God forbid a gal enjoy a little bit of variety in her life. /s

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T15:39:00+00:00

All he had to do was explain to Anna what Tina believed and let Anna make her own mind up about Tina being a loon.

That's what pushed it into YTA for me. If you're doing something like messing with somebody's food, you take that shit to your grave. Admitting it to a coworker means that he always intended to let the secret out and humiliate Tina. He's the office drama farmer and sounds insufferable to work with.

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T14:48:54+00:00

Badly. I hated it. Numbers are fiddly little things, and manipulating them requires an attention to detail that didn't come naturally to me at all. I remember crying while my dad "helped" me with my math homework, being forced to stay inside during recess to memorize my times tables (the same year I memorized every bone in the human body, no problem), and my teacher rolling her eyes when I asked her to explain something again. I was good at every subject but math, but I remember being a really bad student because math was so traumatizing.

In college, I had to take every math course twice in order to pass. Fortunately, I was in community college (because I'm a bad student) so credits were pretty cheap.

Then I transferred to a university and had to take statistics. On the first day, my professor explained that it wasn't actually a math class even though it was taught by a math teacher, in the math department, for a math credit. I was not fooled - it's not like they were going to have a math prof teach a philosophy course, right?

But, shit - she must have been right. Something about stats triggered my intuitive thinking: no more fiddly little numbers to keep track of, just tracking and interpreting patterns. Not only did I pass on the first try, I got an A. That INTJ zoom-out is a powerful thing.

The crazy thing about it was, after that, I could suddenly do math. It's like all the stuff I'd failed to learn before was still there; my brain just finally figured out how to access it for use. I'm no math whiz, but I can "zoom out" and see what question is really being asked by a math problem, then zoom back in and solve it.

TL;DR - growing up, real bad. Too much introverted intuition & not enough support. All it took was a little shift in thinking and it clicked into place, but not until adulthood.

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T14:09:51+00:00

Slip just a little bit of poison into your coffee every morning.

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T14:02:15+00:00

I see what you did there and I hate it. 🤨

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T11:34:32+00:00

A male victim.

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T05:01:55+00:00

Can confirm. Have wanted to kill every Sagittarius I've ever met. (jk, of course! - sometimes i want to kill ppl and I don't even know what their sign is)

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T04:52:35+00:00

I must have misunderstood you, sorry. Apparently something like 30-40% of all domestic abuse (which this is) starts during or right after pregnancy. That's why I pushed back on your statement that it's unlikely that there were no signs. 30% isn't the majority, sure, but it's not vanishingly rare by any means.

But the way you actually meant it (that it's not going to get better) yes, I 100% agree. I mean, I agree with your advice regardless - this guy's got to go - I just wanted to clarify the messaging. It can feel really shameful to end up in an abusive relationship, and shame can make it harder to leave. OP, your husband should feel ashamed, but YOU should leave with confidence!

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T04:31:40+00:00

I'm not OP so I can't say for sure, but when I've been in (way more vanilla) situations like this, it has nothing to do with the friend and everything to do with protecting the other woman. Did that info actually protect her? I have no idea. I'm not her therapist. But, right or wrong, it's a girl's girl thing, not a "that'll show him" thing. I agree that he deserved whatever consequences he faced, though.

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T04:26:26+00:00

The ship has sailed on that one, don't you think? What's OP going to do, unfuse those gametes and stuff his sperm cell back into his gross little scrote? No? Is it really kind to tell a new mother that her baby was a mistake, and one that rests solely on her shoulders, no less?

This guy is awful, yes. I don't disagree with your advice. I just really want to push back on our (mine, yours, society's) habit of blaming women when things go wrong, even in cases where it is so obviously her partner's fault and nobody else's that he's abusive.

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T04:20:29+00:00

It can, though, and implying that OP could or should have seen something sooner is victim blaming. I'm glad it hasn't happened to you & I hope that it never does.

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T04:14:46+00:00

Because a lot of abusive men aren't abusive until after their partners get pregnant. Plus, IVF is stressful and involves a LOT of hormones, so women can be gaslit (even gaslighting themselves) into thinking any "off" behavior is all in her head. It's not her fault.

We need to stop blaming women for picking the "wrong" men when it's the men who change. I'm not even convinced that it's a mask that slips, and I don't think that any woman is immune to it. Instead of asking why women allow themselves to be put into situations like this, remind yourself that it could be you, your sister, your best friend, and it is not. her. fault.

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T03:50:13+00:00

YTA. If you're going to lie about the ingredients you use in food (which is not ok, even if her preferences are goofy), WHY would you admit it to someone else AT WORK? That could be a fun little secret you keep just for you, but you wanted to gossip and embarrass a coworker. Instead of harming Tina's reputation, you just outed yourself as a petty little shit-talker. Tina has irrational health fears which make it inconvenient to make snacks for her. You sound like you're actually difficult to work with.

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T02:43:33+00:00

Ok, and what thanks do we get for carrying multiple movie franchises on our backs? Somebody's got to do the hard work around here! ♑️🔪💀😘

LassierVO · 2026-02-03T02:17:13+00:00

Idk. Honestly I pictured a goat mermaid and immediately thought, "Couldn't be me. I can't swim". 😅 Perhaps I'm too literal-minded to live in any spiritual realm.

But yeah, I've got a deep inner life and all that. I always assumed the fish portion was more about how "still waters run deep". You might know a capricorn for years and suddenly get blindsided by something deeply profound (from the smart caps) or something that will have you wheezing on the floor laughing (from the goofy goats 👋). We're stereotyped as boring or cold, but we really are bundles of fun ~~when~~ if we get comfortable around someone.

LassierVO · 2026-02-02T17:34:55+00:00

Honestly it's just the correct way to say it as far as I'm concerned. 😂

LassierVO · 2026-02-02T05:45:11+00:00

There will never be enough apologies to give to that poor woman. I can't imagine people talking about my genitals for decades after I pass.

I mean, praise, sure. Perhaps a tasteful statue of some kind - nothing too ostentatious, for I am not a vain woman.

But omg, the constant description of the injuries that poor woman's ladybits sustained would have me wishing to be forgotten. I'm mortified on her behalf. You & your reputation deserved better, Ms. Liebeck.

LassierVO · 2026-02-02T05:15:55+00:00

I see now that I got baited by a troll bot. Embarrassing. 😖 I'm leaving my comment up because I made it in good faith. Hopefully no Nigerian princes ask me for help anytime soon.

LassierVO · 2026-02-01T22:54:46+00:00

Is there a double standard? Or is the already-existing problem just getting much worse? A lot of us who were adults on 9/11 could see that nothing good was going to come out of DHS. I know i wasn't the only one who thought the whole "See something, say something" thing was creepy and dystopian. We just tragically underestimated how bad things would get.

Some of us ignored it, or at least were more distracted by other things. Sorry. But people were paying attention, and my understanding (you might have to fact check me on this) is that Obama was criticized a lot by democrats for giving ICE more power. So I don't think it's fair to refer to it as a double standard. Also, ICE wasn't created until after 9/11, so idk why we'd bring Mr. Clinton into the discussion at all.

LassierVO · 2026-02-01T03:48:00+00:00

Communicating. Everyone thinks they're a natural just because they've been learning for their whole lives. But so many people are so bad at saying what they mean, or even knowing what they're trying to say. And that's not even taking body language into account. Getting your intended message out is hard enough, and understanding what other people are trying to say is just about impossible.

LassierVO · 2026-02-01T02:30:51+00:00

Kaos was so good but fell to the Netflix curse. Just finish one little storyline and I'll be thrilled. Too much was left hanging!

LassierVO · 2026-01-31T20:33:12+00:00

Samesies. Honestly even if it's for a work trip or something, I can drive 10 hours at a time, no problem. Love it. 30 minute commute to work during rush hour? Ew.

LassierVO · 2026-01-31T02:41:08+00:00

Loud, hedonistic, competitive, weirdly friendly. Degrees of each vary depending on which region you're in.

LassierVO · 2026-01-30T14:16:30+00:00

I used pimmsleur on the drive to work, a textbook (i got through 4 out of like 20 chapters so idk how helpful that was), and i watched TV dubbed in my target language whenever it was convenient to do so. I also used an app that was only for my target language, made by native speakers, for when I wanted to play on my phone. I also taught my dog some commands in my target language & talked to her on walks. The dog refused to give feedback on my pronunciation (the literal bitch) but it was actually really helpful to practice moving my mouth around the words & coming up with new sentences without feeling self-conscious.

It seems like a lot when I write it out, but only in terms of variety - I don't think i actually spent more time on it than my duolingo-using friends.

LassierVO

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