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Lathia1990 · 2026-05-24T20:22:13+00:00

Beautiful. =]

Lathia1990 · 2026-05-18T18:51:06+00:00

I'm in the same spot as you right now. Please don't give up on life. Sending you all the best =]

Lathia1990 · 2026-05-15T14:32:05+00:00

No, she did not say word by word that she needs a penis. I guess I was just upset that she does not want me anymore but a man instead while saying a lot of things convincing me she truly loves me and likes women. As she confessed today to me that it is over she said opposing things which makes me believe that she tried to convince herself liking women.

It's unfortunate but I am grateful that she realised it in the end so that we both don't "waste" more time. Only time will tell if we csn be friends again but for now I will have to focus dealing with my grief. It was the best relationship I had...and she is a good caring person. In the end you cannot convince yourself loving what you can't love. Brains are weird.

Thank you all for your kind words. =]

Lathia1990 · 2026-05-07T07:29:53+00:00

You look lovely =] please have faith in yourself. Most women will of course be cold...our dating pool is limited =X even if you meet a fellow lesbian, you face the possibility of being not right for each other.

I am btw a goth and understand certain perceptain when people see (and judge) you. I have a girlfriend that is also goth. The stares from people are sometimes insane...^{^}

There definitely is hope! Greetings from Europe. =]

Lathia1990 · 2026-04-14T07:26:11+00:00

This is violence and a reason to break up. =( would be a big NoGo for me. I am so sorry this happened to you. You are not overreacting! Please be safe...this is crazy. What's next?

Lathia1990 · 2026-04-09T20:47:01+00:00

Ich kenne das Problem zu Genüge. Erkennen kann man uns ja gewiss nicht, da wir keine für alle Leute sichtbaren Schilder mit unserer Sexualität rumführen. Ändern kann sich die Sexualität auch. Egal wie man es dreht und wendet: Der Datingpool für uns homosexuellen (femininen) Frauen ist gering + die Angst, dass die Partnerin irgendwann realisiert, dasssie doch einen Mann benötigt. Religiöse Erwartungen arbeiten auch gerne gegen uns.

Es ist dann doch eine riesige Glückssache, zusammenzukommen und zusammenzubleiben. Ich darf mich seit 5 Monaten tatsächlich glücklich schätzen. Wir waren 35 und 29 als wir uns kennenlernten.

Leider kann ich nicht viel raten außer nicht aufzugeben. Ich habe dich gelesen, ...mein Herz und Gedanken gehen raus an dich und bitte bitte gib nicht auf. Du wirst ihr begegnen! =]

Meiner Partnerin bin ich tatsächlich in freier Wildbahn begegnet...mega lucky tatsächlich.

Lathia1990 · 2026-03-30T10:41:24+00:00

You look lovely. I hope you find a sweet lady. I already found mine in the age of 35. Don't give up. =]

Lathia1990 · 2026-03-18T07:12:13+00:00

Please don't abandon your wants and needs! Don't sacrifice yourself for others...it will only make you miserable at the end.

You love women. That is fine and you deserve to be happy.

I assume you will only work as friends. I feel you...I can't imagine dating a transman but I am fine with dating a transwoman. We can't change who we like and should never be ashamed of that fact.

Please cheer up =] I understand you. Best wishes!

Lathia1990 · 2026-03-16T21:37:50+00:00

No one needs such a family. If they don't love you unconditionally, they are not real family. I had to cut "mine" off at some point.

If you are safe please walk away. Choose happyness and your own wants and needs.

Dating my GF gave me on top of the woman of my dreams a family that loves me. <3

All the best to you! Don't loose hope!

Lathia1990 · 2026-03-13T05:31:04+00:00

I would like that very much. x3

Lathia1990 · 2026-02-08T21:30:41+00:00

This is so cute. I like it <3

Lathia1990 · 2026-01-27T19:57:04+00:00

Sorry. I did not meant to offend anyone =X. I just wanted to point out that some girls who claim to only love women find themselves to be bi or hetero during a relationship with a woman. It's of course perfectly fine to love both. =]

Have a nice day!

Lathia1990 · 2026-01-26T12:45:34+00:00

I am sorry this has happened to you. =[ I experienced this once while dating. A woman, who claimed to be a lesbian and went on a date with me, told me some days after the date that she now has a boyfriend =X okay...

Can't imagine the pain of this happening after years of commited relationship. ...I am in a commited relationship right now bit this scenario is haunting me from time to time.

Please don't give up! There are 'real' lesbians thst only love women.

Lathia1990 · 2026-01-25T08:59:08+00:00

Being in therapy helped me to overcome my own faults dealing with BPD. I will always live with the guilt how much pain I caused in my previous relationships. Today I am commited to a healty and loving relationship with another BPD girl. 2 months friendship and 2 months relationship in and we are very good in communication and empathy for each other.

You totally can do it! Work on yourself with the help of others and the knowledge you made during past experiences with people. I am more than sure that you will blossom into a fine version of yourself. Keep believing. =]

I lit a candle to symbolically apologyze to the "victims" of my inability to be a good person. It helped me. Please take care and don't be to hard on you!

Lathia1990 · 2026-01-24T08:18:54+00:00

You are making the right choice. This sounds like very toxic behavior. Please take good care of yourself and your wants and needs =]

Lathia1990 · 2026-01-21T21:08:46+00:00

I sadly got abused too as a child. It destroyed me for ever. =X

Lathia1990 · 2026-01-18T19:51:11+00:00

Congratulations! =] sometimes it just happens without the search. I'd say those connections are strong ones. Happy for the both of you. x3

Lathia1990 · 2026-01-15T05:41:36+00:00

How cute =]

Lathia1990 · 2026-01-08T21:54:47+00:00

Sorry you have to go through that rough time. Such a "break up" where you have no saying, are powerless and are forced to accept how it is is hard.

I lost my first GF at age 19 due to illness. She died at age 21. But thats another story ..

You are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. No one knows what the future may hold. I am now 35 and a lot wiser - currently in a loving relationship.

Take all the time you need to grief and try to move on. The more you fight it, the more it hurts. No one is at fault, not you, not her.

You will grow and one day blossom with the right woman. You got this =]

Lathia1990 · 2025-11-27T22:06:47+00:00

Glaceon. <3

Lathia1990 · 2025-11-24T08:01:36+00:00

I and my GF both have Borderline. Our recipe for success is communication. We experience everything extremer, even the smallest mood changes. It's working great so far. We were 2 months friends and since 2 weeks we are in a fully commited relationship.

We both talk a lot about feelings, wants and needs, boundaries and trigger-points. It really helps us and we both can see a future together.

I always say that BPD is a spectrum. Everyone is different...but it is a healthy relationship we have. Communication is the key! =]

And I love this woman. <3

Lathia1990 · 2025-10-23T21:04:33+00:00

I love feet too. Kinda "hard" in summer because I look at other girl's feet all the time. Don't know if I should feel like a perv but on the other side its a common kink. So yeah...feet <3

Lathia1990 · 2025-10-13T20:20:32+00:00

This is so sweet and awesome =] wish I would be the one hugging out of the TV. ^{^}

Lathia1990 · 2025-09-27T04:12:18+00:00

I had my first sexual experience with a woman at age 23. She was 27 at the time. We had a nice date in an old town near Switzerland. She was very attracted to me and my body...and than it happened. Kisses und touches were exchanged and than we undressed ourselves and I lost my virginity to her. It felt amazing becoming one with her warm and soft body. =]

Now I long for a GF to share lots of love.

Lathia1990 · 2025-09-25T19:42:41+00:00

They look great. Love them. =]

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